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 Posted: Fri Aug 24, 2007 7:19 pm
Hi all, I'm Anna. I've got a friend who is entering college. She and her mother are not legally separated yet...and it's hard to make contact with/get financial information from her etc. for various reasons. The financial Aid office has said that there is no way they can process her info (she's my age, 19, and has lived on her own for over a year)...unless she is independent in FAFSA's eyes. (a member of the armed forces, dependent on half of your income, 24 years of age etc.)
She is thinking of having a child so as to get financial assistance for school. She is financially set otherwise, having a wonderful fiance (who would be the father), and a good paying job (both of them work). I advised her not to have a child, although I feel she would be a great mom and would have little difficulty emotionally/physically. She said she's talked to Nick (fiance) and he said he would be there for everything. I'd say he's dependable.
I was just wondering what other's opinions are on this. (I having a daughter of my own, in college, and an estranged mother/other family know what she's going through.)
thanks, Anna
EDIT: I don't think she's "using" the child to gain financial aid...they've talked about having a child before, now is just a more opportune time.
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Posted: Sat Aug 25, 2007 11:31 am
Ehhhh still sounds like she should just wait awhile anyways, make sure she's into college ok and seperated from her mom. It'd suck to have to deal with those stressors while she was pregnant.
If she's going into college but still wants to have kids, tell her to make sure she has a back up plan in case she does get pregnant. You said they're ok for finances, but she should decide what she'd want to do with her education (take a year off, put the baby into daycare on campus, etc).
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Posted: Sun Aug 26, 2007 7:37 am
Thanks a lot. I also say she should wait awhile. I think she'd opt for the daycare on campus. Then go home (like 10min drive from campus) for the day and study. I don't know exactly, but I think she would work while Nick was home so Nick would have some dad-time with baby. My problem with this situation is, I can see both sides...both sides are equally awesome and equally bad. I hope she makes a good decision.
I hate advising people on something when I'm indecisive...lol sweatdrop xd
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 7:26 pm
Getting married would solve the problem without adding a baby and the physical and mental trials that come with a baby.
My husband and I got married last August, and we were able to get a very large tax return and put our OWN incomes on the FAFSA because we are married (and still poor, because we're starting out).
I would suggest that she and her fiance get legally married instead, because then they would be able to get their lives as a married couple going before they have a baby added to the mix.
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 4:35 pm
Pregnancy is has an extreme effect on school. Stress, nausea, mourning sickness...during school. It's a bad does, another thing to think about. Oh and Doctor's appointments, and things.
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