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 Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 11:17 am
My boyfriend and I are big, lets face it. I am although smaller then him. When we go out ignorant people drive past us and yell things out the window. He is an amazing guy and I only wish people would not judge him, and even I for being overweight. It has taken me over 2 years to come to terms with people being ignorant. When people stare, it no longer bothers me. I know that the man I'm with is amazing, and I do not need to share him. If I saw him on the street, I would honestly stare, with being 6'1 and over 300 pounds. I'm glad that I gave him a chance, and our relationship is still going strong after 3 years...
Children are the worst...
"Look mommy at that really fat guy!"
I cannot stand that, it is unfair for the child to be taugh by the parents that judging someone and being rude is "okay" when someone is "fat"
I feel so comfortable in this guild, thank you all really...
I am no longer ashamed of my boyfriend, does anyone one have simular experiences?
Pictures as promised... These were taken on our vacation (:
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 12:15 pm
Y'all are so cute together, I just went "Awww" out loud!
Most parents I've known get embarassed if their kid says something like that, but I've never had a kid say it to me... although often times children hear what their parents say at home and don't realize that what you say at home isn't always ok to say in public :/
Anyhoo... I don't have the same problem, my boyfriend has a little pudge, but he's average weight to slightly chubby. Since I met him online, I fell in love with him for his personality, but had I seen him on the street I probably wouldn't have looked twice... then again, I was never boy crazy. But he also had long hair (and I love long hair, but he doesn't have nice enough hair to pull it off), he even got mistaken for a girl from behind, despite wearing obviously masculine clothes. My first thoughts when I first saw him at the airport were "Oh my god, he's such a goober!"
Him from our first visit, although that isn't the worst photo of him >>;
I do find him really sexy now, though... and I find myself more attracted to guys who look like him rather than the old guys I would have been attracted to. I t hink that's partially from getting to know him, I know how amazing he is inside and out.
I always pick on him to keep up with his appearance, though. because I tell him that the way he looks reflects back on me.
But the biggest issue I have is that I'm the bigger of us two, so I always think that people must be laughing to themselves at the average guy with the cow on his arm sweatdrop Especially since we're the same height pretty much, it makes me really self-conscious, I hate it. We even traded clothes once, and while length-wise we were both even... I couldn't button his pants (although I might barely be able to were I skinny, as my hips might still be bigger than his) and my pants had much extra material left in them for him to move around. I don't remember why we traded clothes, I think just for kicks and giggles. I always wanted a tall boyfriend who was at least somewhat chubby so I'd at least feel kinda smaller in comparison >>; It's a luxury I'll never get.
I don't know why I think the cow thing, though... because I really do think my boyfriend is pretty attractive... and I had an ex boyfriend who was totally sexy (even my friend agreed)... and they were both about the same height and weight... so I must be pretty if two average sized attractive guys would date me.
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 12:21 pm
I have to say you look so adorable and happy together. heart
People need to learn to keep their mouths shut in certain situations, because one day everything is going to finally catch up to one. One day they just might piss off the wrong person, wind up in the hospital, or six feet under the ground. Or that there is much more to a person then to what you might see on the outside. Personality is a BIG factor, unless you are looking for a one-night stand. There are a lot of people who I think are ugly and cold based on their personality, even if they might be comparable to models.
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 3:27 pm
I have been with skinny guys before, and it feels more awkward! But Mckenzie, the guy I'm with now he is such a sweetheart always putting me first. He also likes to surprize me with roses often. Like yes, I met my boyfriend through some friends, talking to him online first. When we met, I was shocked. He told me he was a big fella, but I pictured him different, smaller. I really learned to love him. We just spent a week together, we took a little vacation with his family.. and I think we are in love more now then ever.
Like I don't understand why people are so negitive towards "big" people. Like it kills me inside when people yell out "FATTY" out of their windows, when yet we are the ones walking and not driving...
But I know I have done a lot for Mckenzie, I mean he used to be so shy and he had no self-esteem and I was his first kiss and girlfriend. I just love him so much, and those who are ignorant, they need to change, for the better...
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 11:30 pm
i totally understand the feeling like a cow on your man's arm ghosty..
i had a boyfriend that was 6'7 of hawt white boy.. bitches would come up all the time when i was with him.. on his arm and hit on him like i didn't even exist.. *i was like.. b***h.. i will cut you if you don't back your skinny little a** off!*
i've never been with a big guy.. not because i don't like the idea.. most of they guys i've run into don't like the idea.. *well those not on ye olde interweb anyway*
and tonight, i got my fist paycheck and me and the family went to bloomington, indiana to the college mall.. we were in the target shopping around and i was ff bymyself with the oldest rugrat who is almost 8 and we were in the lingerie section *mommy needs new bras* she's happily pointing out neon colour bras and asking me which ones i like and all of a sudden i hear very loud talking and shrieking laughter.. 2 teenage girls were following me around the lingire section cracking jokes about me.. so loud that other people turn to look..
i was quite happy with what i had on.. i had on a nice pair of flared jeans, a pink halter top and a black cropped cardigan.. these bitches thought it was soooo funny that i had rolls on my back and neck.. they also thought a number of other very obvious things, but i decided to take the high road and ignore them..
well they wouldn't STFU...
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i finally take bree's hand and i say just as loudly so i know that they have to hear it that we are leaving so that these rude bitches can continue to have their fun and that i wish i could find their mom so i could ask her if she gave them any home training whatsoever and if she didin't i would knock them all the ******** out.. i also explained to her*very loudly* that what he were doing was very rude and nasty and that you don't EVER talk about people that way.. and if i ever caught her doing it.. i'd knock her head clean off her shoulders..
it amazes me how little common decency some people have..
*rant over *
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Posted: Wed Aug 08, 2007 12:01 am
My boyfriend is 6' 2" and 280. I'm 5' 8", 315.5. We get that same rap all the time. We get it with stares, we get it with comments....and it's mostly haters looking at me for being big and "ugly" or him for being tall, unique, and not looking like any other person in our area. We're both pretty exotic in what we wear and how we look. I chose him for who he is as a whole...including his unique build. I would not have it any other way. I say let the haters hate. Let them be vicious. Let their kids be the same. It's that kind of foolishness that fuels some of my best work and causes some of my loudest laughter. I am proud of who I am...damn proud!! It has taken me a long time to get to this point where I can love all of me. It's still a work in progress but being in this guild, being surrounded by positivity, it's not so hard! I won't lie, though. I know full well the feeling of having some random jerk say something rotten. I look at it this way--these people will come and go. Your life is an ongoing process. Let them (in all the bitter glory they think they've got) be the things in life that make you so much stronger. Let them think they've got the power to ruin your day. With me, I think of all the good in my life. My writing, my going back to school, the fabulous little things, and the greatness that is the relationship I have with my guy. (And the hot, amazing bedroom fun!! Wheee!!) There will be assholes in this world that will hate because you're not a clone. They will hate because of the smallest, most petty thing. I say they've got internal issues with themselves. Bluntly put, ******** 'em. biggrin This is me and my guy....a very happy, wacky, sans-"normal" couple. People stare because they don't understand. Good.  (you guys look good together, by the way. heart )
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 8:55 am
This is sort of off topic, but you guys both look REALLY familiar o.o Like, you must be from my town or something kind of familiar XP lol Are ya'll from Texas, by chance? I know it's unlikely, but ya'll just really look familiar o.o (Did I get my point across, yet? XD lol)
As for that, no not in the sense that you are. Me and my tall skinny cousin used to run around school together all the time because we were bestfriends, and everyone always thought we were bf/gf cause we look nothing alike. They'd make fun, but we'd make an a** out of them (assuming makes and a** out of u and me xd heart ) by saying we were cousins 3nodding
My current boyfriend lives a few countries away, so yeah xd But I'm sure people will make fun. He's thin and about 6'5'', 6'6'', and I'm pretty fat, and 5'2''. xd I won't mind, though 3nodding They'd just be jealous cause I got a hot, tall Scotsman 4laugh hehehe
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 11:19 am
Aww...everyone looks so cute together. I don't understand why ANYONE would have a problem, but y'know...I guess they're just that miserable.
When I was younger, my boyfriend at the time was about the same build as me...except much taller. We were both chubby, but we never talked about it, simply because we didn't care. It didn't put a hamper on anything we did together, sexual or not. ;P
However, his friends constantly made fun of him, saying things like, "Damn, I wouldn't want to wake up in the morning next to that(meaning me)." I remember him actually getting into a physical fight with one of them, and their friendship ended soon after. Of course I felt terrible, but he re-assured me that any so-called "friend" that can't accept the woman he loves doesn't deserve his friendship. <3
I've probably said what everyone else has said, but still...let them think they've won, or they've hurt you, because it makes you even more victorious to know that you honestly just don't give a rat's a** what anyone else thinks. ^_^
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 12:30 pm
Mimisi Setsuai My current boyfriend lives a few countries away, so yeah xd But I'm sure people will make fun. He's thin and about 6'5'', 6'6'', and I'm pretty fat, and 5'2''. xd I won't mind, though 3nodding They'd just be jealous cause I got a hot, tall Scotsman 4laugh hehehe
You know everybody is wishing they were me
For real, though, I love my boyfriend. He is adorable and sexy and mine :3
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 2:24 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Mimisi Setsuai My current boyfriend lives a few countries away, so yeah xd But I'm sure people will make fun. He's thin and about 6'5'', 6'6'', and I'm pretty fat, and 5'2''. xd I won't mind, though 3nodding They'd just be jealous cause I got a hot, tall Scotsman 4laugh hehehe
You know everybody is wishing they were me
For real, though, I love my boyfriend. He is adorable and sexy and mine :3How do you know some people aren't? O.o
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 2:43 pm
Maybe the reason people yell at you, is because you're happy and fat. And they're jealous because they had to conform to society's size standards in their search for happiness, instead of embracing themselves for who they are.
I feel like a 5th grade guidance counselor. BUT OH WELL. I'm sticking to it. Rock on. heart
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 5:48 pm
Mimisi Setsuai The Dread Pirate Ghosty Mimisi Setsuai My current boyfriend lives a few countries away, so yeah xd But I'm sure people will make fun. He's thin and about 6'5'', 6'6'', and I'm pretty fat, and 5'2''. xd I won't mind, though 3nodding They'd just be jealous cause I got a hot, tall Scotsman 4laugh hehehe
You know everybody is wishing they were me
For real, though, I love my boyfriend. He is adorable and sexy and mine :3How do you know some people aren't? O.o
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 8:52 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Mimisi Setsuai The Dread Pirate Ghosty Mimisi Setsuai My current boyfriend lives a few countries away, so yeah xd But I'm sure people will make fun. He's thin and about 6'5'', 6'6'', and I'm pretty fat, and 5'2''. xd I won't mind, though 3nodding They'd just be jealous cause I got a hot, tall Scotsman 4laugh hehehe
You know everybody is wishing they were me
For real, though, I love my boyfriend. He is adorable and sexy and mine :3How do you know some people aren't? O.o Still jealous of you, though wink heart
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