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man i had a long saterday. the comic shop i go had a there first year aniversary, they had writers like: Greg Pak(writer of WWH), Matt Sturges(jack of fables, ShadowPact, Salvation Rin) Paul Benjamin (Marvel Adventures Hulk, MA Iron man, Star Trek manga) and artist like Scott Kolins (Omega Flight, Earths Mightiest Avengers) also they had the Defuser (winer of Who wants to be a superhero 2). so i got a lot of my Jack of Fabls signed and anything that Kolins did. and i talked with Sturges for a while, asking him about being a comic writer (witch is something i want to do). he gave me some good advice, then i asked Benjamin, how many comic did he have published before writing for marvle. then the funniest thing happen.
Benjamin: Well i was-
Sturges: He Blew Joe Quesada, that got him ahead.
Benjamin sad silent at first) well that set be back a bit, cause i'm not as good at it as you are Sturges.
Big laught form every one.

also i won 25 for a min writing contest my comic shop was holding. where we had to write a 300 word story about there new mascot Maximillian Larch. used the money for Doom Patrol vol 6. I'd like to thank Querl Dox for helping me edit my entry for the contest.

here me with my entry up on the glass case, i'm not too good with smile in pictures.


then comes the bad part of the day. My siblings and i where going to my dad's house for diner. my sister was going to pike me and my brothes up so we could go in one car. she was late because he got in a fight with her boyfriend (because he drinks too much). so they fought in the car and she pulled over and told him to get out, i because he said he didn't have any drinks that day, but he had 3 shots of really strong liguor. he was 2 mils from his aunts house. then about 3 hour later we hear he in jail for a PA and GTA, the last part didn't make sence, because he's not that stupid to steal a car. so after a day of jail he got out. the story was, after my sister droped him off, he layed back in some one pick-up truck, then road around in golf cart to a storage lot. well he out, but he now must go to AA witch is going to be really hard for him, and to add salt to the wound, my sister is kicking him out till he get over his drink problem.

so yeah, one long week end.

thank you. at first i though i didn't win, because i though one of the guy at the rogues galllery, said they would e-mail a letter to the win of the contest. and since i didn't get an e-mail, i just assume i didn't win. but hay it all worked out for the best.

yeah, that what we all think, but it going to be a really long and hard road for him. Mainly for the fact that he will be around people who drink at home.

Blech, I hope he gets the support he needs.

I've got a student who is a complete doughboy. He slacks off. He's bigger than the other kids. He's kinda a bully at times. He's out of shape, and doesn't put the effort in. He's also 13 and should be in the adult class, but has the excuse of Boy Scouts so he can't stay that late. He had this "ha ha, you're not going to get me" look on his face when his father told us this. Well, this was going to come to an end in Febuary. The instructors have been waiting patiently. He's annoyed us all at one point or another. Bill has actually put a counter on his computer, counting down until the boy hit's the adult class.

And Christmas comes early. Doughboy came in and said he was staying for the adult class last night. The same night another student who just turned 13 last week said the same, so we have two boys ready to step into it. The second boy, Gordon, is a good student. He listens, he doesn't misbehave, he works hard. So we go through stretching, no trouble. Then we partner up for drills. Gordon just shrugs and heads over to somebody close to his height. Doughboy's looking around "what's going on?" One of the other instructors walks right over "I'll show you." Doughtboy's annoyed the hell out of him previously, but Bill did not diviate at all from training. If anything, he went easy. Doughboy still whined that it hurt.

So we have a break, Doughboy and Gordon now have it in their minds that the game has stepped up considerably. I tell everyone to put some sparring gear on. My self and another black belt don't because I want at least two of us overseeing the next exercise. We gear up and line back up in two rows facing each other. There are 17 students. The odd man stands out and has the option of getting some water if he or she wants. So they do some kumite for a little over a minute and rotate. By the time it's over about 45 minutes later you've fought pretty much everyone. The point is not win as many as you can, it's more of everyone fights differently and you're going to learn something from everyone.

So, Gordon's sweating like a pig who knows he's dinner. He's dripping sweat. His parent are smiling. So is Gordon. He knows he's ran with the pack, and he feels like he's really accomplished something. He's getting the nod of approval from all of us. Doughboy got a nod of approval too. He didn't quit. He didn't cry. He did ask once if we were out to get him. twisted

Noooo, not us! 4laugh

The windows were fogged up by the time we were all done. Means a good class. We'll see if Doughboy shows up again.

First of all, that is not a woman specific tactic. I've known plenty of guys who go through the, "I'm hurt and not telling you why so that you'll try and make it up to me" guilt trip.
The proper way to deal with this is to tell the person who tries to pull such a rediculous stunt that, if they won't tell you WHY they're mad then that's fine. But until they do, you can't do anything about their anger and since you refuse to be treated badly for reasons unknown to you, you're going to leave them alone until they decide to act reasonable.
It's not your responsibility to read her mind.
This kind of tactic isn't used to make you realize what you've done wrong, it's to make you feel bad about everything you may have done and to walk on eggshells. Tell her to either have an honest conversation with you about it or to just go away until she can.

I want to know, how many people keep in touch with ex-SOs they had in their teens and 20s? I've known people who've been able to do it, but they've been over 28 or the relationship they had wasn't incredibly intense. Very few people it seems can manage to keep a friendship going with an ex, even if you ended on civil terms.