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You can't ask that of him if you aren't willing to do the same.

That's not how it works. You can't annoy someone into apologizing.

I'm going to break this down in the best way I know how. I don't want you to get offended, okay?

What you want is for Q to respect you, am I right?
For the sake of this post, lets assume that I am. He won't respect you until you give him a reason to. Doing things that bother him is not going to accomplish that, it will only annoy him and make him lash out more.

Your mode of thinking seems to consistently follow that pattern. That is why so many people got upset at you before. Now, I talked to you. I know you're not that bad. Please rethink what you are doing and your reason's behind it.

You are obviously older than Q. Act like it.

I'll have to take a look at them, especially considering I just discovered--thanks, Keithing!--I apparently fit the definition for genderqueer. 3nodding



Yay!

But you'll have to ask me to hug you, or I'll ask you before I do. You don't have a temper meter like I do, so it'll be hard to tell when the time isn't right.



It's true. Nevertheless, gay Republicans are Uncle Tom's in the flesh. They are like the Jews who decided joining their Nazi oppressors in torturing their brothers and sisters was preferrable to being tortured themselves. There's a good spectrum between the two allusion and the analogy, and we can each place gay Republicans where we think they fit.

But they remain, despite our attempts at understanding, traitors and thieves.



Hug him again, and he is in the right to recommend yours.

This is an old problem: Does someone have the right to defend themselves against affection if they find affection violating? The answer? As uncommon as it may be for affection to be taken that way, Q is justified. Q, like every one of us, has the right not to feel violated. If you violate him, then he has the right to defend himself.

You may respond with: "But I didn't know?" I will respond that you didn't ask, either. You cannot assume that everyone is okay with your affection. I, for instance, really dislike it when you get affectionate with me sometimes. It makes me uncomfortable. For Q, it's the equivalent of rape. You would have known if you asked whether you could do something before you did it, but you didn't. You simply assumed that hugging is something everyone enjoys, and you were wrong, and you got punched because of it.

I'm posting this hear because it is a helpful reminder to all of you that this isn't a reaction isolated Q. While Q's feelings may be unique in the grand scheme of things, their bases are not. Some of us don't feel comfortable with certain amounts of affection, especially when we don't know they person who is giving it. Not all people are natural huggers. I'm not, and Q is quite obviously not. This should be kept in mind always.

Also, Q, you might be better off if you something to the extent of "hug me and I'll hit you" or something in your signature. That way no one can claim that they didn't know.

Good night.

That sucks. As much as I love hugging others, I'm on Q's side, Matiko. You made the simple mistake of hugging him and he punched you. Meh, so what? It's the internet. Your life is not lived here, it is lived in the real world.

Basically, you should have just simply ignored Q's punching. sweatdrop

It poured in because I had time to make much ado about nothing here all day during the summer and winter breaks. The polls and zealots in the ED made it that much easier. Now, I'm here all the time, which I definately don't mind. Who needs to spend their time trying to arguing when you can hang around here and have some actual conversation?

Edit: Being the idiot I am, I never read the rest of the post before responding. This is getting incredibly annoying. As much as I hate anyone being offended, someone has to suck it up. Who is going to be the better person and just compromise? These are only actions that take place in a virtual plane, as in they didn't actually happen. Roleplays shouldn't be this seriously.

There's no reason for the any of these hypothetical things that should have been done. Matiko could have asked and he didn't, Q could have warned everyone properly, but he didn't. Both boundaries of comfort were broken so can we just call it even? This place is suppose to be a haven free of tension, not a battleground.

JoVo: True, in a way they have become hypocrites in some sense of the word, but it takes all types, right? There are always going to be those that jump over to the other side when their own motives are fufilled or they have strong disagreements with their current companions. Is it opportunism or re-evaluation?

Ah yes, duh...