| What's the hardest part of commng out? |
| Telling Parent/Gardian |
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33% |
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| Telling Friends |
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1% |
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| Knowing who to tell/who NOT to tell |
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| Finding the perfect time to tell them |
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5% |
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| Two or more of the above |
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46% |
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 Posted: Wed Jul 06, 2005 11:45 am
Most of my friends know, I told them all but some already knew from seeing me around one of my ex-girlfriends. No one had any problems what-so-ever with it, *huggles plushies of friends* they are so great. Some of the people in the school who I don't really know but know of me(being one of the gothy types who kinda sticks out in a crowd people) so I often have this little thing going off in the back of my mind saying my little sister might already know(going to same school and all), though then she says something that makes me think of her as oblivious once more.
With my parents I have one more year before I think I'll feel safe telling them, aka one more year til' I move out and will be free from having to face them day to day, coward-like I know. I'm sure my father would be okay with it, he's rather easy-going most the time though it's my mother with her occational underlying snideness towards gay people that makes me back down for the time being. With other family if I can avoid it my grandmother will never know. I know it's not good to hide it but after seeing how she treats my cousin after she married a black guy I'm not taking my chances. I KNOW she will disown me. *sigh* *gets that lonely feeling of acknowledging that* Oi.
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Posted: Thu Jul 07, 2005 4:32 pm
Well...
I've told some of my closes friends that I was Bi. I told three of them and they all acted differently: the first one I told seemed okay with it but then started avoiding me, the second one I told stopped talking to me completely and thinks I'm some gross weirdo now, and the last one I told was completely okay with it, lol. I want to tell all my friends, I want them all to know because I don't like to hide part of who I am...I don't feel I should have to. But having that experiance with the second person I told really scares me. Plus a lot of my friends are very religious and will be really against it. What scares me even more is telling my parents. I want them to know too but I don't know when/where/how to tell them. They're totally against the whole gay/les/bi thing. Just *thinking* about telling them gives me heart palpatations xd . Whenever they get close to finding out (the sites I visit promoting gay/les/bi things) I almost have a heart attack. Does anyone know a good way to tell parents/friends...?
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Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 4:51 am
ive told my freinds and i told my mother once (she didnt belive me) but the hardest part will be telling my father. my mother divorced him because he abused us... plus hes a homophobe....... so i dont think i want to tell him
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Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 9:02 am
bad_omen123 ive told my freinds and i told my mother once (she didnt belive me) but the hardest part will be telling my father. my mother divorced him because he abused us... plus hes a homophobe....... so i dont think i want to tell him Im sorry man but its not like he can get custody of you right?
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Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 9:13 am
I ahve coem out to my friends and my dad + sister but Im afraid to tell my motehr and brotehr but I tihnk my ma knows but Im not sure.........
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Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 10:16 am
I haven't come out to anyone yet. I'm nervous about coming out to my friends because iv'e always talked about how i like girls. Now that I realized im bi, my attractions are turned upside-down! I now like boys more than i like girls, and it would be quite a shock for my friends to know that about me...
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Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 10:22 am
bad_omen123 ive told my freinds and i told my mother once (she didnt belive me) but the hardest part will be telling my father. my mother divorced him because he abused us... plus hes a homophobe....... so i dont think i want to tell him i have a divorced father like him, hes also racist, which i absolutely dispise racism, sexism, etc. I might come out to him jus to piss him off, and since my mom isnt stuck being married to him and put down, she now has the bravery to stand up to him if he pulls any crap. Plus my moms fiance could beat the crap out of him.
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Posted: Sat Jul 09, 2005 2:07 pm
Cisum I've been comming out slowly now for almost a year... THus far it's been pretty easy, although i've only told friends and on relitives yet. I know personally the hardest part will be tell my mother. Only becaus ei'm her only daughter and well, she'll want me to marry a man a be happy and "normal"... How about all of you? What's the hardest part of coming out, do you think? Feel free to describe any personal experiance, or future fears... You are normal and perfect the way you are.
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Posted: Sun Jul 10, 2005 3:39 am
i havent come out yet well at my school i have alot of problems i hate bullies i want them aall to diethe bullies treat me like s**t and well i dont like emi havent told my friend because well i dont trust anyone crying gonk scream
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Posted: Sun Jul 10, 2005 10:16 am
Hello Everyone, I'm fairly new here, but have already posted my greeting on the sticky.
For those of you who have not read it, I'm a trans individual, so for me coming out was a bit unusual. I started by telling my female friends, who all seemed to already know.
Then I started telling some of my family, which has overall gone fairly well. For me the hard part of coming out has always been family, since it usually comes down to, "I never really have been 'him' this is who I am."
Latley to my great dismay I've had to try to speed up telling family as there have been physical changes they are bound to notice come christmas. *looks down at chest and giggles*
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Posted: Mon Jul 11, 2005 3:25 am
*shivers* I still haven't told my dad yet. I'm so afraid things will be weird. Even though he says he doesn't have a problem with people who have different sexuality, he was still raised very Christian and I think he has prejudices deep down. I'm really nervous about telling him, and I can never find an opportune moment.
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 3:35 pm
I have only told my mother. THe one I want to tell is my best freind lacey, I'm afraid to because she doesn't like lesbians or bi girls, or so she says. It really hurts. I probably would be straight right now if I hadn't met her redface We're so.....perfect.
I can't bear it. she's my only friend
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 7:35 pm
Well, a while back I slowly started telling my friends and some of them spread it to others who ended up telling the whole school, which just happens to be full of super christians who are WAY against bi/les/gay people so that resulted in a mixture of those who just stayed away from me before now bullying me and those who bullied me staying away. Then I took a chance and told some of my friends at church and it turns out almost all of them are bi as well. But Toni, who is straight stays as far away from me and my other friends now as possible sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 9:01 pm
It's good to be coming out in a way ^^, at least you have someone to trust now, i came out last year well only to my mom, she said id better not tell my dad even after i move out!
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 4:26 pm
Hmm...Only a few close personal friends know I am bi. I mean, I would never tell anyonce at school because they are awful to everyone. Plus my town is really religous. But anyways the three friends that know are very supportive. In fact, two of them are bi themselves. But the straight one doesn't seem to mind. Though, I havent even told Michelle. But I know she won't care but it doesn't seem to make it any easier.
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