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 Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2005 8:49 pm
DOES ANYONE EVEN LISTNEN TO ME !!!! gonk scream stressed sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2005 9:38 pm
loginbin3000 sad i wish i was better off. nobody is gay, and most people are kindof homophobic sad Only 3 people know, which is 3 people more than i didnt want to know. But they're ok with it. Except i kinof fancy one of them :S Any advice neutral that's a hard one.... hmmm... is there anyone else you feel comfortable telling?
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2005 9:47 pm
and if not... how badly do you think people would react?
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2005 10:04 pm
Well, I guess I need advicw on something. I have this HUGE crush on a guy at my school and well, I think he's in the closet. Also, I see him stealing looks at me time to time. Plus, when I was at weight lifting he wanted to spot me for bench press in which he would stand pretty much straight over me while he was wearing shorts but he didn't do it for anyone else. The only problem is that we don't talk much.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:01 am
wordman and if not... how badly do you think people would react? Since most people are homphoebes anyway... (Im assuming), it really explains itself
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 10:11 am
For some reason family will never really understand. Gay men are thought to be "girlish" or "weak". What old-fashioned "Dad" doesn't want their son to be Mr. Universe? ( I'm not saying a gay guy can't do that ). Me, I believe parents should grow up! Too many homosexauls and bisexuals ( including myself ) are staying " dans la cabinet" because our parents are intellectual morons. Wisdom is not knowledge. I'm sick of the closet and me and others want out!
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 4:04 pm
crimson_brimstone Well, one day...in 7th grade to be exact...my step-mom accused me of being a lesbian because I had never dated anyone before...my dad flipped out and said he would kick me out of the house because that was wrong. At the time, I denied it, as I was not a lesbian. But, you know how funny things can turn out...4 1/2 years later, I discover I am bi. Go figure... So yes, I kind of wish I could tell my parents, as I don't really care what my step-mom thinks, but I really love my dad and I'm afraid of disappointing him...plus, the girl I'm dating, is not out to her family yet either, and if my parents found out, they would tell her mom too. Unfortunately, I am very sure that that would turn out worse for her because I'm graduating this year, and she's not. She has no other place to go, so I have to keep up this cover for another year and a half, and I'm worried that I might not be able to do it...and I really don' t wanna hurt her...*sigh* Also, she is the first person I've ever dated, and a lot of her friends that I know are better than me are in love with her, and all of our friends want her to dump me and go out with this other guy. She said she wouldn't do that to me, but I'm still scared. I'm worried that maybe, a guy would be better for her, and that I'm just in the way... *sighs again* Is it normal to be paranoid about these things...? sweatdrop It is normal for anyone to be paranoid about losing your loved one to someone else. I know, I'm not gay or bi, but in my last relationship, I lost the first and only girl I have ever fallen in love with. I was scared to actually lose her, especially to someone else. The first time we broke apart, we didn't speak to one another for nearly 4 months, and neither of us dated anyone. We got back together, but again broke up. We both have new partners, but she is still the love of my life, and we are trying to keep connection open, though it is hard. But like I said, it's normal for anyone, straight, bi, or gay/lesbian, to be paranoid and scared. Go with the flow, and try not to worry so much about it. Time does heal, remember that. Hope I helped.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 4:18 pm
By the way, I'm not gay, bi, or anything else but straight (for now). My new girlfriend is bi, and my parents are lesbians, so I have been around it and tolorance has been my middle name for a real long time. Heh. Anyway, I did try the bi/gay thing, and I'm not sure about how I feel about it. Is that normal? If I did become bi, my family would exile my mothers and I. It was hard enough for them to accept my mother's decision, and still aren't happy about that after 14-15 years. they think it's a disease that gets passed down from generation to generation once it has come into the family. My friend's (two girls and one guy (we're the "Four-some" as some call us))and I joke around about me being gay, or better off gay or a female, because I do the shopping thing, and I am femine enough to be, but still too masculine to truly be that way. I don't know, it's been 4 years since I have done anything in that manner, and like I said, I didn't know how I felt about it.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 5:56 pm
Don't try to force "gayness" upon yourself. If you think you're straight, be straight. I guess I can understand your reasoning that you are surrounded by homosexuals but just because you are around it doesn't neccessarily mean you will be.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 8:16 pm
Alright, I guess I'll give the advice thread a go.
I don't get out too much, so I don't know much about relationships. I'll spare the long post and just get straight to the point. I want to start experimenting, but I have no idea how to go about finding a guy. I'm just way too shy most times to do anything like that. Anyone have something that could help?
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 8:21 pm
Well, by expirimenting how far do you mean to go?
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 8:25 pm
Anything, it doesn't have to go that far, just kissing or making out is fine.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:03 pm
Any tips to looking like a lesbien to other lesbiens but looking straight to those who aren't?
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:11 pm
Sesshoru Anything, it doesn't have to go that far, just kissing or making out is fine. I would suggest just trying to at least give other people to get to know you. Maybe, you could want to join in conversations with people that are slightly higher on the "popular hierarchy" and slowly work your way up to the person you think you would want to be with. However that could take a while. Give me a while to think for a better idea.
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2005 9:45 pm
Will anyone help me with MY problem though?
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