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 Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 3:14 pm
I wonder, is there someone on the guild who is purposely NOT dating someone (nor trying to), and why?
I've heard of a few reasons so far, I'm wondering if there is a new one?
- Too young to get anywhere.
- Doesn't think he/she will find anyone good enough yet.
- Isnt interested.
- No jews in the area.
Any more?
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 4:13 pm
Don't know any on the guild, but my friend isn't because she doesn't want to get hurt; she also doesn't know if the guy she likes feels the same way, and doesn't want to risk it.
me- you know my reason *sweat*
What do you guys think are the pros and cons of dating/being in a relationship?
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darkphoenix1247 Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 6:12 pm
darkphoenix1247 Don't know any on the guild, but my friend isn't because she doesn't want to get hurt; she also doesn't know if the guy she likes feels the same way, and doesn't want to risk it. me- you know my reason *sweat*What do you guys think are the pros and cons of dating/being in a relationship? Wait, are we talking about being in a relationship with a fellow Jew, or just in general?
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 6:19 pm
DarkHalcyon darkphoenix1247 Don't know any on the guild, but my friend isn't because she doesn't want to get hurt; she also doesn't know if the guy she likes feels the same way, and doesn't want to risk it. me- you know my reason *sweat*What do you guys think are the pros and cons of dating/being in a relationship? Wait, are we talking about being in a relationship with a fellow Jew, or just in general? umm...I think in general, but either one you want. It's good we finally are getting a discussion started! xd blaugh
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darkphoenix1247 Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 6:30 pm
darkphoenix1247 umm...I think in general, but either one you want. It's good we finally are getting a discussion started! xd blaugh The question here is though... Should I go into all the sordid details of why relationships fail? ninja (at least for me)
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 6:48 pm
i havent had any boyfriends yet since every jew i know is either in my community or youth group and their are like brothers to me. if i ever went out with a goy or any other type of non-jew i wouldn't hear the last of it. if i date a boy and if he is less religious then me he has to respect that and not try to make me less religous . i think its easier to date and marry some one form your own religion and is as religiusor almost as religous as you so hopefully their are les misunderstandings that can lead to arguements or worst.
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Posted: Thu Apr 27, 2006 8:15 pm
I know that there are a lot of people waiting for that special person to come around, however, there are also people who feel, no one would like them.
One of my best friends does not trust any guy that he is telling the truth if he says he likes her. We are working with her on that. So for some, it is a self-esteem issue.
As some of you may know, my boyfriend and I recently broke up. He moved on to someone new less than 24 hours after we broke up. That hurt a lot, more than the actual break up, but I want the two of them to be happy.
Even before we broke up I had began reading this thread and I realized some very important things:
- Dating before the age of 16-17 is not really necessary, nor practical
- Dating with the intent of marriage sounds like a good dea.
- Just how important Dating a Jewish guy is to me.
Thank you all for this. Now while my ex has moved on, I am taking time to think about these, because, I agree with many of the things said in here. So, I have also gained more self-esteem and respect. You guys are really great and just beiong here really helped soften the blow of the break-up and cheer me up!
Thank you!
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 2:39 am
DarkHalcyon The question here is though... Should I go into all the sordid details of why relationships fail? ninja (at least for me) Sure, unless you don't want to smile . jewangel i havent had any boyfriends yet since every jew i know is either in my community or youth group and their are like brothers to me. if i ever went out with a goy or any other type of none-jew i would hear the last of it. if i date a boy if he is less religious then me he has to except that and not try to make me less religous . i think its easier to date and marry some one form your own religion and is as religoios or almost as religous as you so hopefully their are les misunderstandings that can lead to arguements or worst. I agree with that, you've made a good point 3nodding . Lady_Pocky Even before we broke up I had began reading this thread and I realized some very important things: - Dating before the age of 16-17 is not really necessary, nor practical - Dating with the intent of marriage sounds like a good dea. - Just how important Dating a Jewish guy is to me. It's good you see these things important to you blaugh , most people don't give a fig about it. Lady_Pocky As some of you may know, my boyfriend and I recently broke up. He moved on to someone new less than 24 hours after we broke up. That hurt a lot, more than the actual break up, but I want the two of them to be happy. The same exact thing happened to me. I know how you feel... sad . Lady_Pocky Thank you all for this. Now while my ex has moved on, I am taking time to think about these, because, I agree with many of the things said in here. So, I have also gained more self-esteem and respect. You guys are really great and just beiong here really helped soften the blow of the break-up and cheer me up! Thank you! Your welcome 3nodding !
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 2:09 pm
darkphoenix1247 Guys- again, be nice. I know it was all in good fun originally, but it's still no fun to be the brunt of jokes all the time 3nodding blaugh you get used to it. trust me. Quote: On a completely separate and hypocritical note, 3 things in the world make me angry, and nobody here will ever do any of them. Hopefully... stare give me time Quote: For the most part, it is exceptionally difficult to make me angry biggrin 3nodding now you've done it. i'm intrigued.
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 2:14 pm
i see no reason for me to start dating. this was the topic of quite a few conversations i had back in public school. basicly, at this point in my life, it's extra baggage i don't need. i'm not emotionally mature enough, i don't have the time, and there are many more important and relavent things for me to worry about at this point in my life.
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darkphoenix1247 Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 2:29 pm
ZonkotheSane i see no reason for me to start dating. this was the topic of quite a few conversations i had back in public school. basicly, at this point in my life, it's extra baggage i don't need. i'm not emotionally mature enough, i don't have the time, and there are many more important and relavent things for me to worry about at this point in my life. it's good that you are mature enough to admit that; I am the same way 3nodding For me, I don't care if I get into a relationship, but if one comes my way that I like, sure, why not? xp (when I say one I like, I mean I truly care about the guy and am serious about it 3nodding )
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 2:35 pm
darkphoenix1247 ZonkotheSane i see no reason for me to start dating. this was the topic of quite a few conversations i had back in public school. basicly, at this point in my life, it's extra baggage i don't need. i'm not emotionally mature enough, i don't have the time, and there are many more important and relavent things for me to worry about at this point in my life. it's good that you are mature enough to admit that; I am the same way 3nodding For me, I don't care if I get into a relationship, but if one comes my way that I like, sure, why not? xp (when I say one I like, I mean I truly care about the guy and am serious about it 3nodding ) serious in a relationship to me means "intent to marry". that definately isn't happening at 15
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 3:56 pm
Here Here! I completely agree! Lady_Pocky ...I had began reading this thread and I realized some very important things: - Dating before the age of 16-17 is not really necessary, nor practical - Dating with the intent of marriage sounds like a good dea. - Just how important Dating a Jewish guy is to me.
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Posted: Fri Apr 28, 2006 10:45 pm
Lady_Pocky Here Here! I completely agree! Lady_Pocky ...I had began reading this thread and I realized some very important things: - Dating before the age of 16-17 is not really necessary, nor practical - Dating with the intent of marriage sounds like a good dea. - Just how important Dating a Jewish guy is to me. Yeah. Getting into a 2-year long relationship at 14 is bad. Luckily enough, I think I turned out to be crazier than my exes. (Oh yeah, I'm that psychotic ex girlfriend.)
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Posted: Sat Apr 29, 2006 10:45 am
ZonkotheSane darkphoenix1247 ZonkotheSane i see no reason for me to start dating. this was the topic of quite a few conversations i had back in public school. basicly, at this point in my life, it's extra baggage i don't need. i'm not emotionally mature enough, i don't have the time, and there are many more important and relavent things for me to worry about at this point in my life. it's good that you are mature enough to admit that; I am the same way 3nodding For me, I don't care if I get into a relationship, but if one comes my way that I like, sure, why not? xp (when I say one I like, I mean I truly care about the guy and am serious about it 3nodding ) serious in a relationship to me means "intent to marry". that definately isn't happening at 15 I didn't see it happening at 15, but I do see it now that I am 17. I think I am mature enough to start talking about a serious relationship with the intent to marry. Even though I probably will not marry immediately at 18, I think I am of age, and mature enough to start planning my life 3nodding .
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