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I found the article amusing...It's been my experience thus far--that most men are oblivious to the dangers of flirting....the danger is to any committed relationship, whether current or pending, of course

When I was 9 months along with Shiro, my beloved and I were in a mall getting something to eat. As I negotiated sitting down--a big deal, because Shiro was anteriorly placed, and therefore I was H-U-G-E! We're talkin' BEACHED WHALE HUGE.....I could BARELY fit in the 'cut out' at the table---the chairs were bolted to the table, and only moved sideways---the table, to make up for the fact that the chairs could not be scooted away--had this CURVE in them--and I could just barely fit Shiro in there (she turned out to be 10.1 pounds at birth)

So, there I was finally sitting down--and my beloved was flirting away with the cashier!

I waited patiently....he was supposed to be bringing me my lemonade....he kept flirting instead. She was flirting away with him too--now, he HAD a wedding ring on---it was an antique ring and QUITE wide, VERY obvious...and I suspected she knew he was married--but just didn't care...he was cute, and there.

So! I very carefully extricated myself from the table and waddled over to them. The closer I got--I could SEE it dawn upon her face that *I* WAS his wife....her face turned white. She QUIT flirting--and frantically glanced at my eyes a couple of times in the time it took me to get up to him--practically silently begging my forgiveness...but he was still oblivious. I tapped him on the shoulder--guided him out of the store, and took him to task for treating me that way.

It took me nearly three days to truly understand that he actually had been completely oblivious--he actually had NO idea that he had been flirting--but here's the kicker you guys--SHE knew it the whole time and acknowledged it to me as well.

Just because you don't THINK you're flirting by no means does that mean you're not. LOL

It can be VERY dangerous especially in the early days of a relationship--and especially when one or more members are insecure.

Flirting also insulates one against forging any relationships with others who don't want to be in a relationship with a flirt....it can anyway.

More for girls than for guys. Guys are expected to flirt, to a degree...girls not necessarily...especially in more religious, or conservative families.

Superchick has an excellent line in Princes and Frogs (or Underdog)

But just because you haven't found your prince yet
Doesn't mean you're not still a princess
What if your prince comes riding in
While your kissing a frog, what's he gonna think then

So look into his eyes
Are you a princess or a fly


And that's why you will NEVER see me flirting in these threads...flirting feeds an appetite that I satisfy SOLELY with my beloved. None of you guys here are a "fly" to me...so I'll always treat you like Princes.

I come from a different background, and am OLDER, though, so I've not yet held you guys to that sort of standard...so don't worry. I'm more just acquainting you with the perspective than demanding that everyone here rise to that level....you guys ARE kids., and this is a secular environment...and I know that...it would be nice if you all had the chance to recognize our culture as well though---which you're not going to have unless we talk about it....so please take this information as informative, rather than judgmental, ok?

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