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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 12:02 pm
I know I would never Tattoo anyone's name on me that isn't my kids or someone close to me that died, It's like a Omen if you put a name or face of a lover..... it almost always turns out to get covered up, even if you were married....
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 11:40 pm
Taydom I know I would never Tattoo anyone's name on me that isn't my kids or someone close to me that died, It's like a Omen if you put a name or face of a lover..... it almost always turns out to get covered up, even if you were married.... I think most people might agree with that. But if i was going to get my kids names tattooed on me...I'd get my wifes name too....its family....family is big with me. But I do understand what you are saying Taydom and I take that as some reassurance as to a good reason why she won't put it. *huggles*
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Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2007 12:00 pm
wow..I've read all seven pages of this thread and I find it so wonderful that you guys are so open with each other. It is truly a beautiful thing to find the kind of nonjudgemental friendship that is always there with a kind word and advice and can still make you smile when things get tough even if its through your computer. I was going to post a question for advice...I do feel like I can open up to you guys even if I am relatively new to the guild. I feel like I have to reach out to someone...maybe later today, If I write about my problem now I'll cry and I hate for my son to see me like that, I try to never let my babies see me crying...
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Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 5:03 am
awww, stregita, are you okay? i hope i can make you feel better... just anwer my pm ok?^^
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Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 12:30 pm
heart thank you leela *huggles* I am doing so much better today, its sunny and bright and everything looks better.
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Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 2:51 pm
*hugs* Stregita thanks for going our family
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Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 12:26 am
Stregita wow..I've read all seven pages of this thread and I find it so wonderful that you guys are so open with each other. It is truly a beautiful thing to find the kind of nonjudgemental friendship that is always there with a kind word and advice and can still make you smile when things get tough even if its through your computer. I was going to post a question for advice...I do feel like I can open up to you guys even if I am relatively new to the guild. I feel like I have to reach out to someone...maybe later today, If I write about my problem now I'll cry and I hate for my son to see me like that, I try to never let my babies see me crying... *huggles* Stregita We are always here for you if you just need to vent or let it out. We can always try and throw our two cents in when we can. San Antonio right! I'm a 5 hour drive away when things get really bad.
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 6:39 pm
oh joe thank you heart and nope not San Antonio, Houston is where I am at.
Okay, so here is a question for you guys. It has nothing to do with the earlier post...its a new thing, rather some information i just found out about. Okay, where to start...
I am 23 and 3yrs into my 2nd marriage. I am happy, struggling with the whole new-mom and wife and stay at home and money issues all too normal I guess in the early yrs of a young marriage yadda yadda. So my mom and sis are civil to my husband. Thats okay, things could be worst and being civil is the least I could expect from them. So things are fine there.
My 1st marriage I was young, 18....the separation was messy and so was the divorce. He even tried to claim that my son was his even thought he couldn't have any children (wich he had lied about, made me believe it was my fault that we couldn't have any babies).
Anyhow...back when we were married he was awfully controlling, wouldn't let me see my mom or got moody everytime I spoke on the phone with my sis. And yet, since we divorced....he's been in contact with my sister and her husband. We are both adult married women and I know fully well that I can not tell me sister who to befriend and whom to ignore but...maybe this case is the exception?
Regardless of how she feels about my husband, he is the father of my children and is always going to be around in one way or another, therefor her and her husband's friendship with my ex puts an awkardness and a rift between us that I don't think can be fixed unless the suppossed friendship is terminated. I mean they couldn't even stand each other when I was married to the guy! Why now? Why is he trying now? And doesn't her husband realize the blatant disrespect he is doing to my husband regardless of his opinion of him? wtf?
They are having dinner this friday and I can't do a damned thing about it. I cannot approach my sister about this because it was my mother who told me about it (no less trying to see my reaction so she can talk me into giving this jerk a second chance...figures now that he has money he is suddenly 'missunderstood and in need of love' instead of the awful no good man she always accused him to be) and my sister hasn't had the guts to let me know. I cannot rat my mom out to my sister.
I have had this conversation with my sister at the begining of the year when she let it slip that my ex had called her on her way to the hospital on the day I delivered my daughter. So I asked her to consider my feelings, I explained to her how I felt and she agreed to not contact him. Fine and dandy, but I guess her excuse now is that he calls them and what not, but why? why must she follow along with her husband's endeavor to befriend my ex?
omg I've written a book but I am so worked up about this and I don't know if I should discuss it with husband or what to do. I am annoyed, sort of angry...feeling kind of betrayed, kind of like they want to run my life or at least steer it. And damn it I've made my mistakes and I am sure I am going to continue to make some more mistakes, but they are mine. My mistakes from my decisions and I own up to them. Am I overeacting to all this? Help please? Anyone?
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 7:22 pm
....I think you need to tell this to your sister. First of all your getting second hand information from your mom. It would be better to hear it from her. Tell her what you said here...how it hurts you to see them soo close now and that you feel betrayed. Ask her whats so different now. *hugs* She might have a a good answer... and maybe not...but at least there will be know denying that she does not know she is hurting you. Also....o know its very easy to hold on to a grudge for a long time...and there is no denying what this guy did to you was soo wrong...but people change...I'm not saying he has....but he might have. Sometimes it takes traumatic things like losing your family to make you realize you are wrong and that you are not a good person....some people learn from this ... some don't. But you definitely need to talk to your sister...in person preferably. *hugs*
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Posted: Thu Jan 10, 2008 1:22 pm
actually i never wanna tat my hubby's name till he's gone (dead)
i did something a little different ...
on my tattoo ( a butterfly) i got it colored in with bubblegum pink and wisper blue... that signifies him and i.... and once it's safe, i will be adding a little blue butterfly with the initial RT... our son Robert Todd.. i will have to find a pic to show yall
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 7:11 am
O.K...... Someone very close to me straight out and told me...."You know that your in an abusive relationship don't you?" I laughed at the fact because .. well I'm not getting beaten... and Im not being verbally abused all the time. Soooo what kind of abuse could it be. BUT THEN.... I started to think... for about a week actually .... am I like one of those women who get battered all the time but they still stay because they think it was there fault or like those women who's husbands cheat on them and they stay because they love him or because they made him go out and do it....... Soooo.... I asked my two close friends tony and richard and they immediately said yes and that they've been telling me for a very long time already. I thought about it .. and its true... they've been telling be for about two years already that things that Angie does isn't right or that I'm not being treated right. I followed up with a talk with my aunt the next day... she's only four years older than me so she's more like a big sister. And she asked me "Well JC, are you happy?" My answer to that was no. We talked how that she sees how sometimes I can be happy and then after talking to angie my whole mood changes. We talked about how I'm like my Uncle (its not even funny how similar we really are) and that how after thirty years of marriage to a not so nice wife she goes and tells everyone that she was really never happy being married to him. And Deena *aunt* tells me she doesnt want to see me end up like that. I finally talked to my mom about it. To my surprise I think she was glad to see I was asking about it. I think she too does not like the relationship I'm in. My mom's stance on it though is that i need to do something to fix it. After realizing this...I felt extremely good. I'm not sure what I'm going to do now. Obviously I need to talk to my wife about it. Here is my thing though....my kids are my life. I can not lose them. I'm afraid that if we were to split... i would not get custody, and that I can not live with. I'm not sure what advice I'm asking for here... or if I'm just venting.... but I put it here because i do value all of your opinions because i know you guys really care about me. *huggles* Don't be sad for me guys. I'm not sad at all...more like I've had an epiphany that has opened my eyes and helped me to shed issues that have been bogging me down. Luv ya all!
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 4:59 pm
unfortunately, unless she is a horrible mother... the state tends to leave kids with mommy....
sweatdrop sometimes even if she is a horrible mother... (personal experience here)
but you have my prayers joe... it's hard following your heart...
but i do have to ask.. you have bad days yes... but do the bad ones outnumber the good ones?
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 5:27 pm
toadies_soarys unfortunately, unless she is a horrible mother... the state tends to leave kids with mommy.... sweatdrop sometimes even if she is a horrible mother... (personal experience here) but you have my prayers joe... it's hard following your heart... but i do have to ask.. you have bad days yes... but do the bad ones outnumber the good ones? does the days that we dont see each other count? ... unfortunately yes.. the bad days outnumber the good ones. but... the good ones... man they are great.... they are like the first few years when we were married... now though... its distant.... cold... I walk on pins and needles trying not to set her off. Unfortunately I've gotten to the point where i have let myself go from her emotionally, her happiness or sadness no longer affects me... I take care of my lil ones and if some days she wants to join in ... then fine. Ultimate question... would i stay in a bad marriage for my children if I did not think I could have full custody... yes. Things that i have going for me... they have my last name..not hers... see angie never changed her last name to mine when we got married. And all though I dont have documentation yet... I would be considered the primary care giver of the kids.
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 8:16 pm
well again.. that might not help... my friends useless daughter...
her hubby was the primary, and sadly she had cps called on her twice before...
yet here she is... with full 100% custody... he's not even allowed to see the kids period... sad which is a shame...
mommy still doesn't have a job, and just barley started school even though she's been here for close to 2 years now
anyway... i don't know what to say except maybe counseling might be an option...
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 9:57 pm
Can someone tell me how to stop thinking about someone? Maybe I am kicking myself too hard because a friend who never really knew the guy in real life still cries over the guy. I knew his touch, I knew his kiss eventhough we were never couple just friends. If people saw us togather they would say we had something togather. I left to get away from him so he wouldn't be able to see me. I wonder what is going on with him if he is ok or is he doing something dum. I know I can e-mail or phone but I don't because I want to not have that connection. I don't wish anything bad on him but if he wasn't around at least I would not worry about him. Knock on wood nothing bad ever happens to him after I said that. We are still friends didn't leave on bad a note. Just parted and he knew how much I wanted to part from him. He knew I though it would be a good idea for the both of us. We were hurting each other with his confustion of how he felt about me. He couldn't understand his feeling about me. I told him I would never turn him away I will stay ture to that if he wants to find me he can. I never stopped that alot of people walked out of his life. They all had good reason. He is someone who needs help and you get to a point with you can't help him. I just want to stop worrying and wondering it been 8 months ok I know him since I was 12 years old. I am his longest friend. Trust me we have a weird and long story. In the Soap he is Astar I figure if I write about I could maybe get to stop having him in my mind. The way Astar and Zercia interact is me and him totally. Astar outside I will put a bit but I will have to make Astar more evil then my big pain in the a**. sweatdrop xd
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