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 Posted: Tue May 26, 2009 10:08 am
I feel you!
I have gotten to the point that I wake him up at 10 because its useless. Like today I tested him by pretending to sleep.. I knew he was awake and I could hear the creature waking up and he just sat there reading a book.. I rolled over to him and said "You know if your awake.. and She's awake you can get her." He looked at me and then went OH YEAH and got up and got her.... I swear...
And I found out he forgot to pay our phone bill last month and I fussed at him telling him he has officialy messed up my whole system and I have to re work every thing and now were gonna be behind for 2-3 months instead of just 1-2. -strangles him-
And tonight he is watching her..... Hopefully she gets more then cheese and crackers.... Again
And the mommy diet Yes! she loves everything and veggies.
And On talk of home schooling. I'm actually seriously considering it because the crime rate at schools in my area seems to be going up.. And so I need start researching... Because kaylee may be stubborn but she is smart.
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Posted: Wed May 27, 2009 2:27 am
I feel like you can't live with them and can't live without them so often - and there have been times I have teeteered both ways in wanting to find out for sure (grin)
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Posted: Thu May 28, 2009 5:53 am
I know -___- a few months ago I had threatened to leave because he wouldn't talk to me and then when he did said that he does everything and it made me really mad so I told him Oh you do everything Oh Okay last time I checked you spend 60 hours all week at work and only get one day off and I only work 20 -24 hours... I went so last i check I am home more doing more. All I asked you to do was take back the laundry...
So I told him if he thinks he does I could make it that way. We then talked about it XD and worked it out but >___> when ever he does that I point to her and remind him he doesnt do everything!
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Posted: Sat May 30, 2009 3:39 am
We all desire our just deserts of acknowledgement, don't we?
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Posted: Sat May 30, 2009 5:48 am
Of course we do! Each of us does a lot on any given day, and everybody has bad days. Of course, the running irritant in my house is that I can predict with certainty that if I've had a bad day, my husband will come home with a story that trumps mine and demand all the sympathy. GRAH!
Honestly, I find the overwhelming story I hear is husbands who honestly seem to think that, because they work more hours at a paid job, that means they're doing so much more, and they'd really *love* to do what we do - "stay home and play with the kids".
To which I say...what? Jeez, when was the last time I had time to play with the kids? It's school, laundry, breakfast and lunch, often dinner too, dishes, getting the kids dressed (of course they never fight me), naptime (because that doesn't take *any* time or Godzilla-like threats), enforcing potty breaks, cleaning poop out of underpants (the final stage of potty-training), grocery shopping, appointments, phone calls, picking things up and putting them away, intervening in the 5 million+ sibling fights (just the serious ones - the numbers of minor scuffles is much higher), and gardening and yard work if I get the chance. I'm sure to someone unfamiliar with the time involved in all of these they sound simple, charming, and easy. To me, they are simply unpaid full-time labor.
And then they wonder why the woman goes homicidal at the mere implication that they're "doing nothing".
Of course, in my household my case is not helped by the fact that the kids behave so much better for Daddy than they do for me. "All you have to do is tell them firmly what they need to do. They'll respect clarity." Yup. Thanks for the tip, dear. Oh, and the indirect criticism.
Has anyone else had their husband suggest a reversal of roles? "Why don't you go get a full-time job if you're so frustrated? Then I can quit my job and take care of the kids for you." The toothgrinder is that he honestly seems to think I can't tell he's chuckling and congratulating himself on finding a solution that allows him to not work and gives him time to "pursue his passion" (which does not involve paying attention to who's painting the bathroom walls with toothpaste). I've talked to women who tried this. The universal story? "I come home from my full-time job, find the children still in their pajamas and hungry, the house a disaster, and my husband relaxing and enjoying himself (or upset that the kids are harassing him while he's on the computer), and still have to do most of the housework I did before." I think I know one stay-at-home dad who doesn't follow that trend.
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Posted: Sat May 30, 2009 7:11 am
Oh that last statment sounds like my husband!
He stayed home with the baby in the evening once while I went to work. I called him when I was done with work to come get me and asked did you feed the baby the pizza i made her? He went... No? I went why not I worked really hard I even left hers on the stove for hers and yours in the microwave so all you had to do was heat it up. He was quiet and then went Mines was in the microwave. I litterally looked at my phone and went .. Huh!? I went YEA I went you didnt feed her did you?! He went well No... She ate cheese and crackers.. I fussed at him and told her she isnt 8 months old and on formula! and wanting to play with food she needs to eat a meal!
....I know she is a weirdo by right now chooseing when she is hungry (basically I'm testing her right now.. She needs to realize she needs to eat... But sometimes she waits to long biggrin Thank god for veggies) I guess he just thinks she is still small and doesnt notice.
He wants to do the reversal but He is a better cleaner because my attention span is that of a gerbil! biggrin at least i get the kitchen done! Maybe if I go to school I will let him do it but right now as I told him Im the baby making machine and you make the money mister college degree.
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Posted: Sun May 31, 2009 2:16 am
That is why so many of the comic strips are popular - it is universal experiences! 4laugh
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Posted: Mon Jun 01, 2009 12:49 pm
Yeah...it really is! I often think it's best that we do have these problems in common - that way we can vent and clarify what our issues are before blowing up at the spouse, or the mom, or whoever...
I had a miniature vent at my husband - after he lost two very important things - about being on "automatic" at home. When he asked what he could do, I let him know there wasn't one simple solution - just a need to be more aware of what's going on at home and to participate in same. He's been loads better since then. I'm wondering how long it will last. Usually summer is when he sort of goes blank and doesn't bring his brain with him...maybe we've nipped it in the bud this year? He usually doesn't shape up until we have a great big fight. It would be nice to have this be it for the summer, so we can just have fun when we're home together. Even if it's while we're doing chores.
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Posted: Tue Jun 02, 2009 1:46 am
I have been so greatful that my youngest is now 17! It saves a lot of those "what were you thinking/not thinking" rows! 4laugh
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Posted: Wed Jun 03, 2009 9:09 pm
lol...I bet!
In triumphant news: I got the basement/playroom clean! For the first time in over a year! I had given up on it a while back because if I was cleaning the kids were "helping", and it was a net loss. I think this summer while school's out we will learn about "cleaning up after we're done playing." It worked pretty well today, anyway - I think they're just so happy to be able to use the room again. Lucien even wants to sleep in it tomorrow night!
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Posted: Thu Jun 04, 2009 5:14 am
Yay for cleaning! i'm trying to get my one year old to do it! so far she picks up food she drops... but that is all... its better then nothing!
i think im either allergic to my laundry detergent or its just the weather.. but my exzema is getting so bad D: its heading down my chest. And then the baby who i noticed has my sensitive skin for like everything!! ( i noticed she gets zits XD after tantrums!) And she had a spot on her back! should i change the detergent for both of us or live through it since it doesnt itch for her and usually burns for me. but only after a shower!
Its stressing me out i had got sweet oil which is good for dry skin hers would go away and come back.... mines wont leave!
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Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 1:31 am
I always had to run my laundry through an extra rinse to keep us from breaking out! We also had to use only specific brands of soap, fabric softener, etc. What a pain, but so nice to not itch!
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Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2009 9:48 am
Oh it is! it didnt start itchining untill the swelling phase had passed...sweet oil works great if it doesnt itch!
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Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 12:39 am
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Posted: Mon Jun 08, 2009 8:32 am
XD its a type of olive oil! its kinda thick like olive oil and is natural it can be used for ear aches and such which my husband uses it for.
The oil collects the dirt in the ear and cleans it.
I used it on the exzema because it helps hydrate skin it worked ... but i am thinking its my detergent.
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