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Yo, Teoka speaking! I'm bisexual, currently in a heterosexual relationship with a bicurious dude! xd

So, yeah, went to our school's first official GSA meeting. Sounds like SOOOO much fun!! Gay proms, Breaking the Silence party, hearing speakers...just, freakin' awesome! We even discussed how to avoid telling our parents. xd And so many people are interested! biggrin Not to mention our president is cool as hell and a straight guy. I was even able to get to know this bi girl, Megan, who I just adore. whee She's a cosplay nerd, too!

Although, afterwards, a bi friend of mine and her hetero sister started crying in the hallway. It turns out that when she told her mom that she was gonna be at a GSA meeting, she asked if she was gay. Like most of us do, she denied it, and her mom said she would "die a horrible death" if she was. cry It was so freakin' sad...

I'd come out to my mom, but I've talked to her about it before, and she said she'd still love me, but would be dissapointed. sad She's so convinced that by being bisexual, I wouldn't be able to marry hetero ("society wouldn't let me") and my life would be so horrible (all of this came from a separate convo, BTW, about some scary stuff going on with my little sister, who is also bi). She started crying, and it nearly scared me out of being bisexual. O~O;;

My aunt, who is gay (or bi. I'm not sure; my mom says she's had both kinds of relationships, on and off), is dying of lung cancer, and my mom is so depressed over the fact that she has no husband, no children, that she's "gonna die alone."

Anyone have the same problem with their parents?

Good way to look at things. 3nodding

Well, the reason she was crying was because of some stuff that was going on with my sister. Pretty complicated, to say the least, and did have to do with sexual orientation. However, she wasn't crying because she came out as bi (and later recanted, but she still is), but because she was growing up too fast.

Wow, that's some heavy stuff guys... Can't say that I can compete with that, lol, if "compete" can be used in a joking fashion. ((just trying to lighten the mood)).

I told my parents I was bisexual in grade 7 or 8... it may have been the summer between the two, lol, my memory is shot. My mother said it was a phase, my dad ignored me a couple of days then acted as if it never happened. I had a few girlfriends in grade 9 and 10, none of them lasted long because they left me for all the normal reasons: not actually bi/gay, cheated on me with a guy, didn't feel that way about me anymore ((after a week or two, wtf?)), etc...

Anywho, I never told my parents about those relationships, if that's what you could call some of them, because I was scared they wouldn't take me seriously or they would hate me. I was more scared of my dad hating me because he's all Roman Catholic. I only ever went "public" with boyfriends, and those relationships always lasted longer.

When I thought I was gay last February I didn't tell my parents, I just went on living as I normally did. My mother knew, she had heard my friends making jokes or just us discussing things - of course she never said anything except the random bitching at how I was obsessed with gay people. ((I did an full semister media project, which was assigned to me by the teacher, on gay rights and same-sex marriage. She assumed I was obsessed.)) She bitched and yelled at me for wanting to go to Pride Parade and the festivities during the week. My dad, which is so weird, was more supportive and understanding than she was and she's the one who loves gay people.

Anyway, my mother and I ended up in this huge fight one night which more or less ended up with my balling my eyes out and vommiting all my inside feelings and thoughts to her. It was fun... stare

Ok this is really long, wtf? Lol.

Long story short: My mother didn't want me getting into something "permanent" and brainwashing myself into thinking I was gay, just in case I wasn't, therefore boxing in my entire life. She will accept and love me no matter what, she just doesn't want me labelling myself too soon in case I'm mistaken.

My father and I have never had a discussion about my own personal experiences, but he just said that he would love and support me no matter who I love.

I hope everything works out for you Teoka.

My mom was a little freaked out when I told her I was bi, I think. She had this whole discussion with me about how 'Sexuality is confusing at my age' and how 'I shouldn't be testing out things like this so young.' My dad didn't really react that much, as long as I don't get any diseases or pregnant he doesn't really care.

I haven't really talked with my mom about my sexuality since then. There really just hasn't been a good time for it yet and when I do try to bring it up it kind of gets shifted to the side. I'm not sure why she's so touchy but it might have something to do with an aunt of mine. She's a lesbian but she has some other issues, totally sexuality unrelated, but still she's the only non hetero my mom knows other then me. At least she is as far as I know. But I pretty much took the same attitude as Akurei, it's who you are so you shouldn't have to hide it.

As for coming out with homo relationships, I've never dealt with that. The only girl (sadly) who's liked me was my friends younger sister. And nothing came of that cause it was just weird, possibly dating a friends sister.

Anyways, sorry if this was long or confusing. I'm sick so not thinking straight. Hope it works out for all of you.

I love the way you look at things. It'd be very interesting to explain to him how I got pregnant if I was with a girl...it would be very interesting to explain that to her as well.

And as for coming out, apparently some of my friends thought I was bi before I even knew it. And I quote "Jc...I'm bi." "Yeah, I sorta figured as much. You always seemed a little...flamboyant." or another favorite "Caroline, I'm bi." "Yes! I knew you were a flamingly gay man stuck in a woman's body!"

Eventually I would've blabbed by accident so it was a better idea to say it and see it coming then be yammering after school and tell her. After all, 'The truth will set you free!'

Wow, I haven't been in this thread for a few weeks. (Or around this guild very much. sweatdrop ) But I've been sick the past few days so I thought I'd drop in and this thread has gotten altogether more serious. Last time I was here we were barely discussing sexuality at all in here. xD

Anyway. *pats everyone* Don't worry I'm sure it'll work out for everyone. And if it doesn't, just hold on until your 18 and move away. 3nodding

@Saivanima: I hope it works out. If you and your uncle have a common interest that no one else in your family has you could go out under the guise of doing something like that. When I need to talk to my aunt alone we just go 'book shopping' cause no one else in my family is really into reading much except her. Or you could simply go with 'I haven't really seen him in awhile so I want some us time.'

On a happy side note: I finally found a rainbow belt!!! *dances in circles* I've wanted one for ages but I couldn't find any and then the other day i'm just walking out of the mall with my friends and we saw goofy sequined belts to look at and then bam, hidden on the other side of the kiosk was a rainbow belt! Yay me! *claps*