Ok, so I'll quit the cryptic talk. My family seems to have a history of falling in love quickly, with a short courtship and then marriage. Except the marriage never seems to work out. (little wonder, that)
rolleyes My oldest brother - married to a woman whom I like because she doesn't take crap from anybody. Though there was this one time when she was almost 9 months pregnant with their first kid, something my dad said insulted her when they were visiting, so she left the house and went across the street to the empty dirt lot and decided she was going to sleep there instead of inside the house with my dad. She went into labor I think a day or so later... But anyways, they have 3 kids, my brother's being a total a** and talks about other women, and how much more attractive they are compared to my sister-in-law, cause she gained some weight after every birth. And she's trying to lose the weight, but it almost seems like she's just going through the motions, and not really caring.
My second oldest brother - Ok, so he's about the only one whose marriage isn't on the rocks, though he does get under some serious stress most of the time.
My older sister - She met, fell in love with, and married "The Jerk" before she turned 19. They've been married 10 years now, but he's too self-absorbed to want kids, even though he coaches little league football and is really good at it. No, he likes his pricey cars, 52" LCD flatscreen TV, surround sound, his Xbox360 games, and his home business too much to stop buying the toys so there'd be money for kids. And my sister works very hard, long hours as a pit foreman at Kennecott mines, the largest open copper mine in the world. They do have two adorable dogs, Harlee and Penny, but we all know it's not the same. So, my sister and her husband have been mostly inactive in church, but my sister decided to change that. Well, since she's been becoming more active lately, the Jerk decides to mock her for it, and try to dissuade her. She finally got tired of his selfish ways and separated from him a week ago, with divorce on the near horizon. I say good for her; he only cares how these events make him look in the eyes of his friends and associates.
My parents - up until a couple years ago, I never realized the tension between my parents. I grew up believing they loved each other, and that it was a happy marriage. They've been married more than 30 years, and that was after only a short 3 week courtship before marriage. The problem is, my mom did most of the adjusting, bending, while my dad just went on his merry, disfunctional way. Well, a couple years ago I learned just how much my mother is tired of trying to deal with my dad; she only stayed together with him this long is because of us kids.
eek Wow. And all these years I was always so grateful to be in my family because my parents were still together and still loved each other. The trouble with love is that you can still love a person, but can't stand to be with them. A great example of that is the relationship between my older sister and my dad when she still lived at home.
So, my older sister moved out, is staying with a friend, but that's not working out cause she took the dogs with her. She wants to move into a place with me and my younger sister, and my mom told us yesterday she wants to join us. While the idea of the four of us living together sounds great, I'm still worried about my dad. Mostly because he's 79 and he's having a harder time remember things, like the day, what he did 5 minutes ago, and what he was told 2 minutes ago. Nothing says life-long guilt if he dies because of something he forgot to do. And he'll be keeping our dog, cause he's a grumpy old thing who doesn't like his female cousins Penny and Harlee.
All us girls are getting together this morning to talk about finding a home ASAP, cause things are getting strained at my sister's friend's house. Now, can everyone see why I'm going to go slow in a relationship with a guy, and not marry without knowing the guy at least a year? Cause sure as shooting, I'm not going to carry the weight and be the one always bending and changing to make a relationship work.
scream That guy better be prepared to make sacrifices right alongside me.
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