Calling Shenanigans
Long post is long. Kind of rant/secret combined.This is more of a rant, but I don't know where to put it.
I am sick and tired of putting up with my friend's crap. She has a multitude of illnesses, although some of them I'm pretty sure are just in her mind. She constantly plays the 'woe is me' card, and I feel bad for not falling for it. She is depressed a lot and I do want to make her feel better, but I don't want to go 'oh, poor baby' every time she gets a minor illness. I just want to yell at her to suck it up.
She also complains constantly, and while I probably do the same, I can't stand it. One thing that really bugs me is that she complains about her job. She's a lifeguard at a pool and before her job started she would always talk about how she wasn't excited for it because she would have to save people and that scared her. I've been searching for a job for months, while this was the first job she applied for. I want to yell at her for complaining about a job where she KNEW what she would be doing, yet complaining about it.
She also likes to complain about all the guys that like her. She'll go on about how she'll never be able to date anyone because she doesn't like "nice guys" when it's just excuse because she wants to date some hot guy that she can make out with. She doesn't see all of these amazing guys in front of her. Because of this if I ever like a guy I just don't want them too meet her because I know she'll steal the spotlight.
I don't even know why guys fall for her. But whatever.
She takes all the attention for herself when we're in a group, and I'm just that awkward friend that gets to throw in a comment every once and a while.
She calls me her best friend but she talks and gossips with someone else. Then when she mentions something I'll have no idea what it is, and sometimes she won't explain it to me. When I ask why she didn't tell me in the first place, she'll say "I thought someone else would tell you"
WTF IF YOU'RE MY BEST FRIEND YOU SHOULD BE THE ONE TO TELL ME. THANKS FOR TELLING ME STUFF FIRST.
Also, anymore I don't want to hang out with her and our guy friend at the same time. He's taken, and neither of us plan to date him, but we are very close. When it's just me and him he'll give me his attention and listen to me talk. We're generally nice to each other, sometimes throwing a few sarcastic comments back and forth. When she's with us she throws meaner sarcastic comments towards him, and guess who gets the attention. That's right, she does. Nothing is meant by the comments, we love him a lot, but then I feel like I have to join in the sarcasm and I just feel so mean. I hate it but if I say nothing I'll get no attention. I'll feel like a third wheel. Like yesterday we were watching a movie and towards the end he would have his arm around her and I get jealous even though we're all just friends and nothing more. I'm beginning to crave attention from guys and I'm scared it'll turn me into that girl who will date anyone that asks.
I can't talk to them about this, because I fear bringing things up and stuff getting awkward.
So I just bottle up my emotions until I get the opportunity to rant to people that I'll never meet.
So my secret? Sometimes I question if my best friend is really my best friend. I hate that she steals the spotlight, and now I crave attention. I fear becoming 'that girl' who will date anyone.
I feel so much better now that I got that off my chest.
I am sick and tired of putting up with my friend's crap. She has a multitude of illnesses, although some of them I'm pretty sure are just in her mind. She constantly plays the 'woe is me' card, and I feel bad for not falling for it. She is depressed a lot and I do want to make her feel better, but I don't want to go 'oh, poor baby' every time she gets a minor illness. I just want to yell at her to suck it up.
She also complains constantly, and while I probably do the same, I can't stand it. One thing that really bugs me is that she complains about her job. She's a lifeguard at a pool and before her job started she would always talk about how she wasn't excited for it because she would have to save people and that scared her. I've been searching for a job for months, while this was the first job she applied for. I want to yell at her for complaining about a job where she KNEW what she would be doing, yet complaining about it.
She also likes to complain about all the guys that like her. She'll go on about how she'll never be able to date anyone because she doesn't like "nice guys" when it's just excuse because she wants to date some hot guy that she can make out with. She doesn't see all of these amazing guys in front of her. Because of this if I ever like a guy I just don't want them too meet her because I know she'll steal the spotlight.
I don't even know why guys fall for her. But whatever.
She takes all the attention for herself when we're in a group, and I'm just that awkward friend that gets to throw in a comment every once and a while.
She calls me her best friend but she talks and gossips with someone else. Then when she mentions something I'll have no idea what it is, and sometimes she won't explain it to me. When I ask why she didn't tell me in the first place, she'll say "I thought someone else would tell you"
WTF IF YOU'RE MY BEST FRIEND YOU SHOULD BE THE ONE TO TELL ME. THANKS FOR TELLING ME STUFF FIRST.
Also, anymore I don't want to hang out with her and our guy friend at the same time. He's taken, and neither of us plan to date him, but we are very close. When it's just me and him he'll give me his attention and listen to me talk. We're generally nice to each other, sometimes throwing a few sarcastic comments back and forth. When she's with us she throws meaner sarcastic comments towards him, and guess who gets the attention. That's right, she does. Nothing is meant by the comments, we love him a lot, but then I feel like I have to join in the sarcasm and I just feel so mean. I hate it but if I say nothing I'll get no attention. I'll feel like a third wheel. Like yesterday we were watching a movie and towards the end he would have his arm around her and I get jealous even though we're all just friends and nothing more. I'm beginning to crave attention from guys and I'm scared it'll turn me into that girl who will date anyone that asks.
I can't talk to them about this, because I fear bringing things up and stuff getting awkward.
So I just bottle up my emotions until I get the opportunity to rant to people that I'll never meet.
So my secret? Sometimes I question if my best friend is really my best friend. I hate that she steals the spotlight, and now I crave attention. I fear becoming 'that girl' who will date anyone.
I feel so much better now that I got that off my chest.
...Your friend sounds like she's more shallow than a kiddie pool.
