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 Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 12:05 pm
You know, I knew it was eventually going to happen, but why did it have to happen when everything was so happy and nice? Murphy's law.
We got a call today, they switched my husband over to another unit, so he's getting deployed at the end of October.
Needless to say, I'm a little upset and pissed, so I think it's best I be a tad scarce or I'll say what I think out loud and I'm just being a b***h.
I don't care about me, I can deal with being alone, we're both strong people. But how do I tell my little boy where his daddy is when he asks for him and for him to understand me. He has such a rough time when his dad leaves to take out the trash. I'm going to end up here in Texas alone during all this too.
Oops, minor rant/rave there.
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 6:41 pm
lunashock You know, I knew it was eventually going to happen, but why did it have to happen when everything was so happy and nice? Murphy's law. We got a call today, they switched my husband over to another unit, so he's getting deployed at the end of October. Needless to say, I'm a little upset and pissed, so I think it's best I be a tad scarce or I'll say what I think out loud and I'm just being a b***h. I don't care about me, I can deal with being alone, we're both strong people. But how do I tell my little boy where his daddy is when he asks for him and for him to understand me. He has such a rough time when his dad leaves to take out the trash. I'm going to end up here in Texas alone during all this too. Oops, minor rant/rave there. *hugs* i hope things work out for you
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 7:57 pm
lunashock You know, I knew it was eventually going to happen, but why did it have to happen when everything was so happy and nice? Murphy's law. We got a call today, they switched my husband over to another unit, so he's getting deployed at the end of October. Needless to say, I'm a little upset and pissed, so I think it's best I be a tad scarce or I'll say what I think out loud and I'm just being a b***h. I don't care about me, I can deal with being alone, we're both strong people. But how do I tell my little boy where his daddy is when he asks for him and for him to understand me. He has such a rough time when his dad leaves to take out the trash. I'm going to end up here in Texas alone during all this too. Oops, minor rant/rave there. *hugs lunashock*
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 8:09 pm
lunashock You know, I knew it was eventually going to happen, but why did it have to happen when everything was so happy and nice? Murphy's law. We got a call today, they switched my husband over to another unit, so he's getting deployed at the end of October. Needless to say, I'm a little upset and pissed, so I think it's best I be a tad scarce or I'll say what I think out loud and I'm just being a b***h. I don't care about me, I can deal with being alone, we're both strong people. But how do I tell my little boy where his daddy is when he asks for him and for him to understand me. He has such a rough time when his dad leaves to take out the trash. I'm going to end up here in Texas alone during all this too. Oops, minor rant/rave there. *Hugs* I'll keep you (and Grace) in my prayers. I'm glad you're so strong. I couldn't deal with it, being away from my hubby. I'm one of those needy people, I guess. No offence though to any of the army families out there... just not for us.
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 8:15 pm
First off, hello Cattivo and welcome!
Sorry about my whining there, I usually keep most of that to myself, but I was a bit upset. Thanks everyone.
Grace, are you sure that's what you SO wants? I know I would be a little pissy if my husband tried to be friends or talk to my online friends. Not because I'm hiding anything, I dunno, it would just rub the wrong way. When I talk to any new person, I make it clear that I'm married or whatever, heck, I talk about my family a lot! There's a lot of weird people on the internet, sometimes you can't avoid them! I hope the scan goes well, I know that's going to be hard.
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 8:19 pm
I have trouble with guys hitting on me and they don't seem to get the idea that I'm not interested. In fact when I tell them I'm married, the seem to take that as more of a challenge. I don't get it. It's like they automatically assume that since I'm online that I'm not happy with my marriage. I know it bothers my husband cause he's a little paranoid that for some reason I might take one of those guys up on their offers. I think he's getting over that cause he's learning that I'm more likely to be offended by the kind of behavior they exhibit.
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 8:54 pm
*HUGS to anyone who needs or wants them since she never knows what to say in these situations*
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 9:09 pm
Welcome! I'm Ally, I'm 16 years old and I live in BC. My boyfriend and i have a 4 year old son and I think that about sums it up
Holy hell 4!! wow.. well good on you for having it together so young smile
Hello Luna smile How's life ?
Sorry I cant be on too long have an upper respitory infection *stupid weather change no doubt* eek
*hugs Illiana cause she can*
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 10:56 pm
lunashock First off, hello Cattivo and welcome! Sorry about my whining there, I usually keep most of that to myself, but I was a bit upset. Thanks everyone. Grace, are you sure that's what you SO wants? I know I would be a little pissy if my husband tried to be friends or talk to my online friends. Not because I'm hiding anything, I dunno, it would just rub the wrong way. When I talk to any new person, I make it clear that I'm married or whatever, heck, I talk about my family a lot! There's a lot of weird people on the internet, sometimes you can't avoid them! I hope the scan goes well, I know that's going to be hard. *hugs* I'll hope for you. I understand that completely. I've gone through that twice that I actually remember. Once when my dad went to Egypt. I didn't find out where he went until he came back. He also went to Germany with out us long enough for us to finish a school year. It can be rough, but I'm sure he'll make it. I guess I kind of understood that it was something he had to do. I don't mean to make this about me. I'm just explaining why I understand. May be you could sit down with your husband and son and talk about this. That's what my parents did. It helped a lot. and about boyfriends. We all know how much I talk about Frank. I make it pretty obvious I have a boyfriend. sweatdrop I'm just nuts over him like that.
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Posted: Mon Aug 30, 2004 11:39 pm
*Hugs luna*
I hope he's not being deployed anywhere that's very dangerous. I will be thinking of y'all. I know you are a strong person, but if you do ever feel like you need someone to talk with, don't hesitate to look me up anytime!
*Hugs Grace*
I can identify with your feelings. My hubby kinda acts that way when other girls blatantly hit on him. He kinda brushes it off or ignores it, but it really does bug me. I am afraid, I guess, that some girl may try and take her advances 'too far' one day.
It SERIOUSLY irks me how some other females can have little to NO respect for a man's family (wife, gf, children, etc). All they can think of is, "Hey, here's a cute guy, I think I'll talk to him... oh, he's married.... with kids? I don't care! He'll be my next conquest anyway! Muahahaha!! Cause gawd knows my sex life is waaaay more important than this guy's wife and kids." Okay, that's a bit exaggerated, but that's how I feel when other girls try and flirt with him even after they find out that he's married and has kids.
Maybe it shouldn't bother me (since it doesn't bother him), but it does. I remember one time, my hubby was in a training class (he's Air Force, for those of you who don't know). He was in said class for several weeks. It was enough time for him to make accquaintances. Well, 2 of these accquaintances were girls. He would come home everyday and tell me about his class and he'd bring up these 2 girls he'd talk to on occassion. It didn't bother me at all for him to simply be making friendly conversation with these girls... not in the slightest. I am very open minded about having friends of the opposite gender (as long as the are ONLY friends). So anyways, a few weeks went by, and his class was drawing to an end. One afternoon, he came home and told me about a comment one of the girls had made to him. Ver batum, it was, "Hey, if you're ever lonely, you can always come party with us anytime!" I immediately got pissed about it, but he said it wasn't a big deal and that he'd told them no and put an end to talking with them (after this class, he'd never come across those girls again anyway). But I sure felt like marching over to that little class the next day and telling them off for even implying that he should do ANYTHING with either of them! How dare they??!! Why is so acceptable for them to even think it's ok to try and suggest that my husband be 'unfaithful.' I know he'd never do it (I trust him), but just knowing that there are women who have agendas like that just pisses me right off.
I know I cannot stop other women from saying things to him, but at the same time, I cannot seem to stop myself from getting pissed off when it happens. I know a lot of my insecurities stem from my anxiety issues, but it seems that there isn't a whole lot I can to do to prevent my anger and slight paranoia of these other women. Since I have the similar feelings to your's Grace, I may not can offer much advice (as I am going through it too), but at least know that you're not alone in feeling a bit insecure and/or angry.
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Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2004 1:00 am
Some woman do it to feel like they have control over men because they don't have any control over their own lives. Some of them think of it as a game. I'm just not normally fond of women anyway. stare
No offense to the women here. I like you. I just am used to girls who try to stab each other in the back.
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Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2004 1:57 am
Tomoe_Gozen Some woman do it to feel like they have control over men because they don't have any control over their own lives. Some of them think of it as a game. I'm just not normally fond of women anyway. stare No offense to the women here. I like you. I just am used to girls who try to stab each other in the back. Many women do that play head games, backstab and act out from jealousy, due to that I have a hard time trusting other women on the whole, I dont understand catty women, thankfully I have met a few solid ladies, and I love them with all my heart. Just takes time for me to "trust" now. smile
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Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2004 11:00 am
For some it is a challenge. I have to admit that I use to find it as a challenge (not that I did anything). That was before I got married and that changed everything. Now, I'm the one jealous. I guess it is because I know how I use to be. It is hard for me to see K with another guy even if they are just friends. But I have been working on it. I seem to identify with Grace quite a bit, because I've been there. It brings back old memories of what I use to think or what I use to actually do when I was jealous. Actually, it is an ongoing battle that I doubt will ever be totally won. All I know is that I totally trust her and know she wouldn't do anything. Keeping that in the forefront of my mind helps.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know where all of you guys are when it comes to be jealous at times.
*hugs but in a friendly way*
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Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2004 12:06 pm
Cattivo, I hope you get to feeling better!
I wish I could just sit down with Tommy and Logan and talk about it, but he's only 2, which makes it easier and harder to deal with if he's going to be gone. We'll have to get the family readiness stuff done. Having to go get your husband's will taken care of isn't exactly a pick me up!
Yeah there's some women out there, who don't respect the boundaries of a relationship BUT there's men who do just the same. It's just about how all the go through it. I had this one guy I was friends with before my husband and I were married, befriended me and then "expected" something back in return. Yeah right. My husband's had a patient ask him on a date. I don't know about you ladies, but if I was ever interested in a guy, I look for a the wedding band or the tanline of one before I jumped in and ask.
What eases my mind is just knowing what could these ladies possibly have to offer my husband that I don't? I used to be a very jealous girl in previous relationships from past issues, but it took me to realize I was letting those past issues run my relationships and life! In a humorsome manner though, it's a comfort to know that while my husband is in the army, if he cheats, his a** can go to jail, lmao!!
But yes, the catty women can suck. It helps me too, because Tommy is the type of guy who's always talking about us and same for me. That and my comfort is, he barely has enough energy to handle me, work, Logan, etc. how the heck would he fit in a floozy? LOL That and she wouldn't be getting any money!
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Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2004 12:15 pm
I remember when Chris was in AIT before we got married and he was wearing the ring I gave him (which is also his wedding band n.n) on his left finger and his SGT asked if he were actually married or if he was wearing it because it is the EASIEST way to get hit on (and congratulated him on knowing that secret). :/ He has been hit on from time to time as I have, but neither of us has ever responded kindly to it and pointed out that we are married.
I was reading an article in some women's magazine about how the reason some women hit on married men was because they somehow believe that because he's married, he must be better and have more going for him than the unmarried ones or they'd be snatched up....thus making the married ones more desirable mates. rolleyes
smile And greetings to Cattivo.
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