Zercia
I need a advice I have a friend who keeps up with a behaviour that gets other people to do something she hates. For the longest time she didn't see she was doing it. We fought one day about this it been building up for months. She said she does do it but it is not her want for what people are doing to her. Bottom line if your going to put it out there people are going to go after it. I totally believe she likes it and wants the attention she is getting but not wanting me to believe she it.
She is being fake to me and I am getting to the point I am starting to hate her. I am hating her so much that it is driving me crazy. Trust me she is one of the people I left to get away from I thought little time away from her would help that. We could fix it. All I want is her to be truthful to me and herself. See the truth if you like being a flirt and a tease then do it. Let people desiring you and wanting you that is fine you can't complain about it later. Be truthful to these people too don't play them. I always beleive in the what you see is what you get. How do I stop this turing into hate? how do I fix this friendship. stressed sweatdrop
She is being fake to me and I am getting to the point I am starting to hate her. I am hating her so much that it is driving me crazy. Trust me she is one of the people I left to get away from I thought little time away from her would help that. We could fix it. All I want is her to be truthful to me and herself. See the truth if you like being a flirt and a tease then do it. Let people desiring you and wanting you that is fine you can't complain about it later. Be truthful to these people too don't play them. I always beleive in the what you see is what you get. How do I stop this turing into hate? how do I fix this friendship. stressed sweatdrop
First and foremost *hugs* As for the question at hand... I don't enitrely agree with Joe.. (I'd hate to see the friendship lost over this) and yet I don't disagree with him either. Friendships have to be based on honesty and openess. And you don't feel like she's being honest, the problem is though.. I think she probably isn't being honest with herself and therefore doesn't even realize she isn't being honest with you. Unfortunately you can't make someone else see or change their flaws... now I understand you aren't asking her to change, just admit that she's doing it and stop complaining about the reactions she gets from doing it. If it is bothering you so much that you are clearly stressing over it than really you do only have two options.. You can either continue to try and help your friend "see the light" and error of her ways.. which I honestly don't see happening or you do as Joe suggested and perhaps draw back a bit from the friendship...
Personally? It depends on how good the friendship was to begin with as to what I would do... I would either tell her that I'm not asking her to change simply to quit complaining to me about it because I think she is bringing it upon herself and then hope that she would understand and we could keep the friendship or I would do as Joe suggested and just back off the friendship... She can't keep complaining if I quit answering the phone right? Well let us know how it goes okay Z? *hugs again*
