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 Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 6:10 pm
Spartan-4202 Tenaku Hey it's me again ^_^. Yeah my thing now is that I wanna come out to my familty about being Bi but I'm not quite sure how to. Anyone have any suggestions? Don't do it in the middle of an argument. sweatdrop trust me, i learned the hard way. Oooo..just reading that made my ears hurt....(as in I'm assuming there was yelling to be heard! gonk )
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 6:49 pm
Fadia Stalyr Spartan-4202 Tenaku Hey it's me again ^_^. Yeah my thing now is that I wanna come out to my familty about being Bi but I'm not quite sure how to. Anyone have any suggestions? Don't do it in the middle of an argument. sweatdrop trust me, i learned the hard way. Oooo..just reading that made my ears hurt....(as in I'm assuming there was yelling to be heard! gonk ) oh yeah. It sucked, i mean my mom has calmed doen noe, but it sucked at first.
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 8:51 pm
Spartan-4202 Fadia Stalyr Spartan-4202 Tenaku Hey it's me again ^_^. Yeah my thing now is that I wanna come out to my familty about being Bi but I'm not quite sure how to. Anyone have any suggestions? Don't do it in the middle of an argument. sweatdrop trust me, i learned the hard way. Oooo..just reading that made my ears hurt....(as in I'm assuming there was yelling to be heard! gonk ) oh yeah. It sucked, i mean my mom has calmed doen noe, but it sucked at first. You have my fullest sympathies.. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 9:58 pm
Um, so, like, i've pretty much come out to all my friends (all the ones I trust anyway) and all that has worked out just wonderfully, expect...
One of my friends keeps telling me that I need to be more open about being bi. And, I know, it's true. I mean, I accept that this is the way I am, and I can't do anything to change it, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it anyway. But, like, the day I told my best friend (about being bi) she (the previously mentioned friend) had the nerve to IM her (my best friend) and tell her that I am. But, of course, since I had just told my best friend a couple of hours earlier, she immediately proceeded in informing me of this. And well, I really don't think it's right.
See, I figure, if she told one of my friends, than she's bound to tell another. And, well, -sigh- I really don't want that to happen. See, all the friends i've told were totally cool with it, and that's awesome. But, not all of my friends know, which I assume is for the best. Because the ones I didn't tell, well, actually, just one in particular seems to be extremely homophobic. Like, the type of person who assumes that any lesbian/bi person is going to just randomly fall in love with her, or like attack her or something. (gosh I hate people like that) Well, anyway, that's why i'm not quite ready to tell her, yet...
Yes, I know that if she were really my friend that she'd accept me for who I am, and, i'm totally sure she'd get used to it eventually, I just know it would take some time. Anyway, she's also a loud-mouth. Meaning, if I tell her, all of the 8th grade will know by mid-year. Which, is really not what I want. I mean, i've had enough trouble in school already, and blah, I just really don't need people harassing me because of this. And like I really wanna enjoy my last year of middle school...
So, anyway, basically I need to find a way to keep my friend from telling anyone else.....I've tried telling her that it's really important to me that she doesn't tell, but she just doesn't seem to get it...
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 10:05 pm
I'm sorry I keep posting about all this stuff. (in self-made threads, and in this particular thread)
It's just, there's really no one else I can talk to. And like, the people here have been so helpful, and yeah....
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 10:12 pm
Fadia Stalyr Spartan-4202 Fadia Stalyr Spartan-4202 Tenaku Hey it's me again ^_^. Yeah my thing now is that I wanna come out to my familty about being Bi but I'm not quite sure how to. Anyone have any suggestions? Don't do it in the middle of an argument. sweatdrop trust me, i learned the hard way. Oooo..just reading that made my ears hurt....(as in I'm assuming there was yelling to be heard! gonk ) oh yeah. It sucked, i mean my mom has calmed doen noe, but it sucked at first. You have my fullest sympathies.. sweatdrop thanks hon
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 10:17 pm
Freshpaint987 I'm sorry I keep posting about all this stuff. (in self-made threads, and in this particular thread)
It's just, there's really no one else I can talk to. And like, the people here have been so helpful, and yeah.... *Gives you a HUGE hug* hon, it's ok, that's why we're here. Look, sit your friend doen and tell her point blank, "If you go around and tell people this could be bad for me, so if you care at all about me or my feelings, keep it on the down low."
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 10:40 pm
Spartan-4202 Freshpaint987 I'm sorry I keep posting about all this stuff. (in self-made threads, and in this particular thread)
It's just, there's really no one else I can talk to. And like, the people here have been so helpful, and yeah.... *Gives you a HUGE hug* hon, it's ok, that's why we're here. Look, sit your friend doen and tell her point blank, "If you go around and tell people this could be bad for me, so if you care at all about me or my feelings, keep it on the down low." Hehe. Thanks. -hugs back- But, yeah, that does seem like a good idea, it's just, well...i'm not sure how to put this nicely... She's quite dense. And, well, when she "told" my best friend, she said she only did it because she was worried about me... Though, personally I think she's just doing it because she gets a kick out of it. See, everyone always thought she was a lesbian, or bi, or something like that. And, well, she's always tried to convince my other friends and I that she's not. But, I must confess, we (all of her friends) used to give her a hard time with all of this, but, of course we were only joking...So I think she's just doing this to get revenge. Though, I suppose telling everyone would be karma taking its effects...
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 8:55 am
Freshpaint987 Spartan-4202 Freshpaint987 I'm sorry I keep posting about all this stuff. (in self-made threads, and in this particular thread)
It's just, there's really no one else I can talk to. And like, the people here have been so helpful, and yeah.... *Gives you a HUGE hug* hon, it's ok, that's why we're here. Look, sit your friend doen and tell her point blank, "If you go around and tell people this could be bad for me, so if you care at all about me or my feelings, keep it on the down low." Hehe. Thanks. -hugs back- But, yeah, that does seem like a good idea, it's just, well...i'm not sure how to put this nicely... She's quite dense. And, well, when she "told" my best friend, she said she only did it because she was worried about me... Though, personally I think she's just doing it because she gets a kick out of it. See, everyone always thought she was a lesbian, or bi, or something like that. And, well, she's always tried to convince my other friends and I that she's not. But, I must confess, we (all of her friends) used to give her a hard time with all of this, but, of course we were only joking...So I think she's just doing this to get revenge. Though, I suppose telling everyone would be karma taking its effects... Hon...screw Karma. ok, just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you understand that jokes are jokes and that you really don't want her running around blabbing cuz it would really hurt you. Start talking about how you feel about it all, and tell her that you want to make sure talking to her is safe. That you can trust her.Cuz friendships are built on trust.
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 3:01 pm
Spartan-4202 Freshpaint987 Spartan-4202 Freshpaint987 I'm sorry I keep posting about all this stuff. (in self-made threads, and in this particular thread)
It's just, there's really no one else I can talk to. And like, the people here have been so helpful, and yeah.... *Gives you a HUGE hug* hon, it's ok, that's why we're here. Look, sit your friend doen and tell her point blank, "If you go around and tell people this could be bad for me, so if you care at all about me or my feelings, keep it on the down low." Hehe. Thanks. -hugs back- But, yeah, that does seem like a good idea, it's just, well...i'm not sure how to put this nicely... She's quite dense. And, well, when she "told" my best friend, she said she only did it because she was worried about me... Though, personally I think she's just doing it because she gets a kick out of it. See, everyone always thought she was a lesbian, or bi, or something like that. And, well, she's always tried to convince my other friends and I that she's not. But, I must confess, we (all of her friends) used to give her a hard time with all of this, but, of course we were only joking...So I think she's just doing this to get revenge. Though, I suppose telling everyone would be karma taking its effects... Hon...screw Karma. ok, just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you understand that jokes are jokes and that you really don't want her running around blabbing cuz it would really hurt you. Start talking about how you feel about it all, and tell her that you want to make sure talking to her is safe. That you can trust her.Cuz friendships are built on trust. Okay, i'll talk to her as soon as I can. Thanks for the advice. heart
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 3:20 pm
Freshpaint987 Spartan-4202 Freshpaint987 Spartan-4202 Freshpaint987 I'm sorry I keep posting about all this stuff. (in self-made threads, and in this particular thread)
It's just, there's really no one else I can talk to. And like, the people here have been so helpful, and yeah.... *Gives you a HUGE hug* hon, it's ok, that's why we're here. Look, sit your friend doen and tell her point blank, "If you go around and tell people this could be bad for me, so if you care at all about me or my feelings, keep it on the down low." Hehe. Thanks. -hugs back- But, yeah, that does seem like a good idea, it's just, well...i'm not sure how to put this nicely... She's quite dense. And, well, when she "told" my best friend, she said she only did it because she was worried about me... Though, personally I think she's just doing it because she gets a kick out of it. See, everyone always thought she was a lesbian, or bi, or something like that. And, well, she's always tried to convince my other friends and I that she's not. But, I must confess, we (all of her friends) used to give her a hard time with all of this, but, of course we were only joking...So I think she's just doing this to get revenge. Though, I suppose telling everyone would be karma taking its effects... Hon...screw Karma. ok, just sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you understand that jokes are jokes and that you really don't want her running around blabbing cuz it would really hurt you. Start talking about how you feel about it all, and tell her that you want to make sure talking to her is safe. That you can trust her.Cuz friendships are built on trust. Okay, i'll talk to her as soon as I can. Thanks for the advice. heart No problem-o hon. Now you must do me a favor: HELP ME TAKE OVER THE WORLD USING RUBBER DUCKIES!!!!!!!! *insert evil laugh here* lol...yeah...j/k... sweatdrop ok i'm shutting up now.
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 5:33 pm
You can't use rubber duckies, you have to use dishwashers lol.
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 5:54 pm
Tenaku You can't use rubber duckies, you have to use dishwashers lol. LMAO! But rubber duckies are sexier!
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 9:16 pm
Spartan-4202 Tenaku You can't use rubber duckies, you have to use dishwashers lol. LMAO! But rubber duckies are sexier! I must say, I am inclinde to agree
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 9:23 pm
Freshpaint987 Spartan-4202 Tenaku You can't use rubber duckies, you have to use dishwashers lol. LMAO! But rubber duckies are sexier! I must say, I am inclinde to agree HA! SEE! Rubber duckies shall rule the world!!!! sweatdrop ...man i'm such a dork.
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