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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 10:56 am

here we are dear old friend
you and i drunk again
laughs have been and and tears have been shed
maybe the whiskey's gone to my head

but if i were gay
i would give you my heart
and if i were gay
you'd be my work of art
and if i were gay
we would swim in romance
but i'm not gay
so get your hand out of my pants

its not that i dont care -i do
i just dont see myself in you
another time, another scene
i'd be right behind you if you know what i mean

cause if i were gay
i would give you my soul
and if i were gay
i would give you my whole being
and if i were gay
we would tear down the walls
but i'm not gay
so wont you stop cupping my hand

we've never hugged
we've never kissed
i've never been intimate with your fist
you have opened brand new doors
get over here and drop your drawers

-falls over giggling-

Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 11:08 am

to be honest i would choose to stay the way i am i like being bi it makes my life more intresting if not harder in some senses but all around more enjoyable. right now i'm learning to enjoy life and take whatever's thrown at me because i know i can take it and move on.

Anilet

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Aislin Cade

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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 11:44 am

Ooh, song lyrics! whee

Gay Messiah - Rufus Wainwright

He will then be reborn
From 1970s porn
Wearing tube socks with style
And such an innocent smile

Better pray for your sins
Beter pray for your sins
'Cause the gay messiah's coming

He will fall from the star
Studio 54
And appear on the sand
Of Fire Island's shore

Better pray for your sins
Better pray for your sins
'Cause the gay messiah's coming

No it will not be me
Rufus the baptist I be
No I won't be the one
Baptized in c**

What will happen instead
Someone will demand my head
And then I will kneel down
And give it to them lookin down

Better pray for your sins
Better pray for your sins
'Cause the gay messiah's coming

(Rufus Wainwright, for those of you who don't know, is a gay musician who, for 3 albums, didn't use his homosexuality as a marketing tool... he didn't use it at all, actually. It isn't until his 4th album, Want Two, that he even makes so much as a homosexual reference.)

Posted: Wed Jun 29, 2005 4:14 pm

I would choose to be gay. I have gone thru a lot but I have the support of my entire family and friends. It makes life easier. And my gay pride is an asset.

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Leila_Amore

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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 12:55 am

Desirable Ai

I was going to try to resist replying to this thread, but temptations came over me. <3
I think everyday "Would life be better if I were straight?" Truthfully, it would be. I haven't had anyone bash me, except the stupid people who created the law to ban same sex marriage. I probably would've married a guy anyways, unless there is a female out there that is exactly for me. Right now I'm bi. To tell you the truth, sometimes I wish I were lesbian instead. The girls know how to make you happy without any mistakes. The girls know exactly what you want to feel. Guys always make you mad in a way, not sure why, but it's how life works.
There are also times when I wish I were straight. Only so more people could accept me. But it's not about acceptance to me, so I'd rather choose to be lesbian. Or an Asian gay guy. XD They're so damn yummy. *drools*
I do agree with Kage on one thing. I wish I were straight to make my parents proud and continue thinking that I'm going to marry a cute male that'll always be there for me. But once I think of it, are there really any males out there who actually care about me? I've had my share of male lovers, and they break my heart. Which is another reason to why I'd rather be lesbian.
But in a more complicated way, I'd rather be straight.

Urgh, that all sounds so familiar. It's such a horrible self contradiction, all internalised, and well. I totally empathise. Im going to ask you a question in a PM, Please write me back.

Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 2:51 pm

Im still young enough that even when I speak to other people Im not sure of my feelings.Ive hidden myself and I still do hide my emotions and myself from everyone in fear of being rejected if I turn out gay or bisexual.The worst part I dont know how my mother and father would react if I ever turned out to be that way.(My dad's an Irish christien and Im not sure about mom.But the good new's is that I have a high school friend who's a wicken and she will except me for who I am regardless of sexuality.)

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Fuuka_Faery

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Posted: Sat Jul 02, 2005 7:47 pm

I had to put alot of thought into this thread and i am still not sure of my answer. As i am now i would not change anything. I am bi and i am proud of that. But if i could go back to when i was born and look down at myself and decide right then and there whether i would be bi straight lesbian or what ever i think i would still choose to be bi. I feel that being bi is the best thing you can be because you fall in love with their personality. Not what shape their bodies take. There certainly are more hardships and difficulties that i will have to go through but if that is the price of love then i'm willing to pay it. (i hope that didnt sound all sappy redface )

Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2005 1:13 am

I would choose to be bi, I may not be open about it IRL but I would still choose it

Music Never Stops

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Hatushara-Sama

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Posted: Sun Jul 03, 2005 1:27 am

Fuuka_Faery

I had to put alot of thought into this thread and i am still not sure of my answer. As i am now i would not change anything. I am bi and i am proud of that. But if i could go back to when i was born and look down at myself and decide right then and there whether i would be bi straight lesbian or what ever i think i would still choose to be bi. I feel that being bi is the best thing you can be because you fall in love with their personality. Not what shape their bodies take. There certainly are more hardships and difficulties that i will have to go through but if that is the price of love then i'm willing to pay it. (i hope that didnt sound all sappy redface )

I agree completly. I don't care what others think anymore. I'm bisexual and that's all there is to it. If they have a problem, wish to bust me up, they can have a taste of one of the many 4 belts I wear at one time, one being a chain belt. xd I'd hate to do it, but I would if I had to. As for if I was born and could deside then wiether I would be bi, gay, straight or asexual, I would still choose bi. Why? The same as her's. *points to quote*

Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2005 8:36 pm

Well, I am bi.. and sometimes I wish I was either straight or gay so people would stop asking me "how can you like both?" And other times I simply wish I was straight so people would stop giving me dirty looks or avoiding me when they find out. But I really like the way I am. I would hate to be a bisexual guy, though, because people are MUCH less accepting of guys with different orientations in my experience.

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foxychildofplayfullness

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Posted: Mon Oct 17, 2005 2:24 pm

truth be told if i could i would be completly gay and a guy because i just would prefer it that way then again ive always had a part of me that wanted to be a guy.... i just always look at my brother and his friends and realize that there much less supperficial and they dont hold grudges but where im at right now is really confussing because i never know what im going to be atracted to (let alone what gender) so i would say no matter what u would want to be there is always a problem but given that now in society there is a higher acceptence of heterosexual relationship where as in Renasance times around florence it was an almost 75% tile of men under the age of 35 were in homosexual relationships of somesort and even no one out of every too people you ask will have had a homosexual experience so yeah i would rather be a gay man but hopefully once the truth is proven and accepted then it wont matter u can just be open no matter what ur considered

Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 12:26 am

ForgottenExistence

"...you cannot marry the person you love (and marriage entails a LOT of things as far as rights to your spouse, i.e. because you're not married nor have a recognized relationship, when your partner is sick in the hospital, you do not have visitation rights, you also don't have any rights to make medical decisions for your spouse, there's a way to get around that, but its a hassle too.)

Um, well, first things first.. I believe gay marriage is legal in Canada, which therefore is a good thing, in my case, as I'm a lesbian. But, yes... Anyways. I haven't quite finished reading yer post yet, so... But, I believe gay marriage IS legal for me... heart

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Posted: Sun Oct 23, 2005 11:44 am

ForgottenExistence

Leyndrasha

In a way, I did choose to be a lesbian, but only by virtue of the word.

Better way to put this: No you DIDNT choose to be a lesbian, you are a lesbian, but you did choose to live your lesbian lifestyle.

Actually, I also had the choice. I chose to be bi. I did this when I chose to except the fact I'm bi, and chose to live the lifestyle because of it. Without the self-exceptance, you can't claim the lifestyle of being gay, lesbian or bi. If I didn't except the fact that I'm bi, I would probably still have the mind-set of "I'm straight, I'm straight, I'm straight!" and I wouldn't even think twice of ever dating a girl. I chose to ignore my sexuality, so to say, until June this year. It had been about 10 years since I had my first seemingly odd feeling that I was attracted to girls, but I didn't really think much of it since then short of the two other times that the same feeling hit me.

ForgottenExistence

I dont think any of us want to be defined firstly by our sexuality... however that is the world we live in today. We cannot choose what other's will label us as, and I think it's a bad idea to not have gay pride just because you dont want to be seen first and foremost as a lesbian or gay man.

We are in the middle of our equality movement... it is so important that we are all out there showing our pride, marching... You dont have to make it your whole life, thats for the activists, but every day when you come home to your girlfriend... being a lesbian IS your life... and I'm sure (or I hope) its just as important a piece of you as is being an artist and a musician.

I dont want to be seen as a lesbian actress who listens to punk music and plays rugby but you know, some people are just going to view me that way, that is our world today and I cannot help that... however I'm fighting to change that... But until we are equal and mainstream lesbian will be a word that many will define me as first and foremost...

It is so important that we are out, even if it means just a little rainbow sticker on your car, because the more people riding around with them on their car, the more people realize that gays are everywhere... not just in drag shows on the Vegas strip and at construction sites. Could you imagine if every gay person in America had a rainbow sticker on the back of their car in the center of the window... could you imagine the impact that would have if a straight person was driving down the street and looked around and saw five cars around him with those stickers...? People are still having to realize that we're everywhere, and that we are a huge part of the population, that we are your doctors and musicians and teachers and chefs...

We have to have a much louder voice for the government and America to hear us... they've noticed us shouting in the background a couple times, like with San Francisco, and Massachusetts, but we're still not loud enough... I do a lot but I'm one person... when the African American's (who... unfornately for them couldn't hide the fact that they were black, obviously) fought... they came out in a million man march... thats a loud voice...

No, I dont want to be defined as a lesbian... but I'm not going to pretend like its not there... I join my fellow gays at gay parades... I vote, and for the love of all that is rainbow if you do nothing else, PLEASE vote or these anti gay legislations will keep passing. But I mean... on the back of my car I have rugby stickers, theatre stickers, punk band stickers... its only fitting that I have gay stickers amongst that... With every gay sticker thats displayed, and every gay t-shirt thats worn we get louder...

You dont have to make your whole life about being gay... but just have some gay pride... I know it doesnt seem important but it is... and people will define you by your sexuality, but that will change... thats why its important that you show your pride now... now is the time, because later it wont matter anymore that your gay... and people who even see your rainbow stickers, wont see you as a lesbian artist and musician but a musican and artist who is also a lesbian.

Anywho, lol I'll stop preaching now...

We don't have to do big things to push this on people. How would you feel if the gay population were the mojority and the straight people were forcing people in large groups to except their sexuality, if it was us saying that they were "infecting" people with their behavior. People have to be educated, their not going to except what they don't understand. Even if we are excepted and seen as eqaul by the "higher powers" in sociaty it may only be because we pushed it rather than help them to understand. In turn nothing really changes much. People will still have their crude way of labeling us.

I do have pride in who I am, but that doesn't mean I'm going to put it on everything I own. Living this lifestyle seems like pride to me. If we weren't proud we wouldn't be living the way we are, would we? Would we have told people even though we may have been afriad of the way they could re-act if we weren't proud?
Mass advertising the fact that we are proud of our sexuality won't help them understand that we're not infecting people, and that we are much the same as those who are striaght.

I think, and this is just my oppinion, that if we were to educate people on this topic, then we would proabably progress more in the equality thing, and it may go over smoother.

Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 8:35 pm

Heh.. this isn't really a lyric/poetry thread. But those are humorous. Now for the question, would I choose to be gay? Not really. The thought of me even kissing another person of the same sex as me doesn't really make me feel satisfied..nor happy