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 Posted: Fri Jun 30, 2006 6:41 pm
Let us know how it goes. It's not so much that I'm anti-online dating, it's just that I'm anti-dating period. The whole dating thing terrifies me. But it sounds like some of our geezers have found success with online romances.
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Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 8:20 pm
I used to be all for internet relationships, was in one for nearly 4 years until two weeks ago when the jackass decided to cheat on me......now I doubt I will ever do an internet relationship ever again.......
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Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 10:16 pm
Out of curiosity, how often did you and your cad of an ex-online beau see eachother offline, fatalbeauty?
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Posted: Wed Jul 05, 2006 12:48 pm
Online dating is hard, for one an email or IM can be taken in the wrong way, it is hard to place the right emotion into a sentence. Also there is a matter of trust, many people don’t trust enough to do online dating, truth be told, if you do not trust them to not cheat on you, then you shouldn’t be dating them. Trust does need to be earned, but it also needs to be given, if you start out with mistrust then how do you learn to trust. Also you need to meet in real life, you might get alone get online but in real life you might not, it happens, trust me. But don’t be afraid, there are some wonderful people out there, and many of them are to shy in real life, online is an environment that lets you step out of your shell.
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Posted: Wed Jul 05, 2006 11:14 pm
Actually, I was just trying to find out what the nature of the cheating was - I just had an eye opening conversation with my own wife about what constitutes cheating. I was laboring under some dangerous misapprehensions!
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Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 9:42 am
I once dated a woman who felt that looking at porn was cheating. Even if it was a movie for both people to watch.
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Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 5:51 pm
I have to admit that I am one of those people that feel porn is not right... Why do you have to watch total strangers getting off on each other when you are in a relationship or married... is what you have not good enough? I would not like feeling like my husband would prefer to watch some strangers having sex over coming to bed and making love to me.
As for internet cheating... If someone is actively looking for an online relationship when he/she is in a RL relationship than that is cheating... if you are looking for someone online or even get approached by someone that is looking for someone and you "accept" their invitation and become personal, with or without cyber sex as part of that relationship, you are cheating. Once it crosses that line and becomes intimate in any way you are being unfair to the person in your life... be honest and get out of one or the other relationship.
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Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 9:23 pm
Lil-Jo I have to admit that I am one of those people that feel porn is not right... Why do you have to watch total strangers getting off on each other when you are in a relationship or married... is what you have not good enough? I would not like feeling like my husband would prefer to watch some strangers having sex over coming to bed and making love to me. I think it really depends on how far along the relationship is, at some point yeah don’t look at porn, unless it is agreeed upon by both. But on the 3rd date, that is a bit early to get upset. Though at the time I was young and stupid, lol.As for internet cheating... If someone is actively looking for an online relationship when he/she is in a RL relationship than that is cheating... if you are looking for someone online or even get approached by someone that is looking for someone and you "accept" their invitation and become personal, with or without cyber sex as part of that relationship, you are cheating. Once it crosses that line and becomes intimate in any way you are being unfair to the person in your life... be honest and get out of one or the other relationship.
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Posted: Fri Jul 07, 2006 10:34 pm
Well, that's pretty darned strict, there.
I can see Umberella and I have a lot to work out.
Fortunately, she isn't a Christian while I have the additional problem of that bit in the Bible where it says just LOOKING at another woman lustfully is the same thing as adultery. A sin which I often commit, I must confess.
But, you know, it's more important to me right now to know what I can get away with amidst other people, the ones I care about, than poor old God, because, I appreciate what he did, but I just can't live up to this Being Good stuff. If other people are going to stop letting me get away with stuff, then I have to start busting the head of the monster of tyranny more - uh, proverbially speaking.
For instance, I am currently wearing one of Umberella's old slips because I ran out of underwear and it's real hot and muggy here. It's very comfortable, but, you know, I gotta keep the window open so my fan can blow in air (the slip is black and you can't see through it, it's not built to be pretty) and I have a shirt on over the top, but, if anyone manages to look in the window... well, I'll deal with that monster Dobson when he comes knockin'... (probably by hiding under the sink and sobbing, rocking back and forth in a foetal position until he and his RelgioFacist goons go away.)
PS All the porn in our house actually belongs to Umberella, except the stuff I cut up for collages and artwork.
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 1:03 am
burning_eyes *has vivid image of Harbone in black slip* blaugh
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 10:21 am
Yea... that image kinda scares me.. xp
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 1:01 pm
I just hope he does the laundry before Umberella comes back home... whee
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 5:41 pm
lol, i was hoping he was going to post a picture for us!
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 12:42 am
Harbone Out of curiosity, how often did you and your cad of an ex-online beau see eachother offline, fatalbeauty? spent four days together last May.....we tried to do phone calls whenever possible, webcamed a lot towards the end but he still cheated, oi vie....
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 11:42 am
fatalbeauty Harbone Out of curiosity, how often did you and your cad of an ex-online beau see eachother offline, fatalbeauty? spent four days together last May.....we tried to do phone calls whenever possible, webcamed a lot towards the end but he still cheated, oi vie.... Thanks for answering, fatalbeauty, I realize it's a sensitive issue. Not many men are all that great at a long-distance relationship. It's tough. I hope you realize it's his failing and not your own. PS. I hope when you say "cheated" you actually mean "had an affair" and not "had dinner alone with another girl" or "bought some porn." This is mostly for my own sake, who has committed both acts, in the most innocent of fashion that such acts can be committed, while my wife, Umberella, has been away.
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