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 Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 4:20 pm
coolioneodawg2003 follower00 i had a gay friend and i was in his house "studying" and suddenly he kissed me and for my surprise i liked it a lot, this was when i was 16 that is such a cute story! i wish sumthing like that happened to me! sad I wish that had happened to me too. but I's too ugly.
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 4:21 pm
Shuichi_IV I'm kinda young, I'm 13, I think I found out I was gay around 11-12, I had attractions towards some of my friends and I kinda denied it. I have now accepted my sexuality now, but I have'nt come out of the closet yet. (except to one of my "girlfriends"). Love your screen name. Taking a wild guess, but it's based off of Gravitation right?
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 4:26 pm
dr_bottlecap I guess i found out i was gay when i was 15... but denied it till i was 17... now that i look back i've never really been attracted to girls, always guys. From the age of 15 i've always had problems accepting who i was,.. i always hated myself and didn't know what to do.. untill recently when i came out to a few of my freinds... they r the best... its a hole lot easyer to be confident now that others are cool with me being who i am... I still havn't come out to my parents and i still fear the day that i do... they are very homophobic... sad Dude, don't worry about it. If your parents, are anything like mine, they probably know or have an idea already. My parents knew I was gay before I did, and since I can remember, they've always told me how gay people were like everyone else. Now though, since my coming out, whenever they hear something about how gay marriages got anulled, or how businesses want to cut out benefits for gay employees, etc, it hurts them a lot more now. My point is, if your parents love you as deeply as they say (and should), then they'll accept you for who you are. They'll probably blame themselves, but you can't let them. You have to make them understand that you were *born* gay. It has very little to do with your upbringing, though some psychologists are now saying that homosexuality in a person tends to be "enforced" depending on how you were raised, and how you interacted with others. But, you have friends here, so, when that day comes, you can talk to us first. We'll help you out ^.^
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 4:34 pm
I think I knew that I was completely gay when I was 14. At first, I tried desperately to tell myself I wasn't. I'd look at girls like crazy just so that I could try and brainwash myself. But in the end, I excepted myself for who I was 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 5:07 pm
Matiko-san Dude, don't worry about it. If your parents, are anything like mine, they probably know or have an idea already. My parents knew I was gay before I did, and since I can remember, they've always told me how gay people were like everyone else. Now though, since my coming out, whenever they hear something about how gay marriages got anulled, or how businesses want to cut out benefits for gay employees, etc, it hurts them a lot more now. My point is, if your parents love you as deeply as they say (and should), then they'll accept you for who you are. They'll probably blame themselves, but you can't let them. You have to make them understand that you were *born* gay. It has very little to do with your upbringing, though some psychologists are now saying that homosexuality in a person tends to be "enforced" depending on how you were raised, and how you interacted with others. But, you have friends here, so, when that day comes, you can talk to us first. We'll help you out ^.^ My parents were pretty much the same way( though they had no idea prior to me telling them). But not everyone is so lucky. There's a significant chance his could react badly. While always I recommend coming out as soon as it's feasible, parents can be another matter.
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 5:29 pm
Vague Matiko-san Dude, don't worry about it. If your parents, are anything like mine, they probably know or have an idea already. My parents knew I was gay before I did, and since I can remember, they've always told me how gay people were like everyone else. Now though, since my coming out, whenever they hear something about how gay marriages got anulled, or how businesses want to cut out benefits for gay employees, etc, it hurts them a lot more now. My point is, if your parents love you as deeply as they say (and should), then they'll accept you for who you are. They'll probably blame themselves, but you can't let them. You have to make them understand that you were *born* gay. It has very little to do with your upbringing, though some psychologists are now saying that homosexuality in a person tends to be "enforced" depending on how you were raised, and how you interacted with others. But, you have friends here, so, when that day comes, you can talk to us first. We'll help you out ^.^ My parents were pretty much the same way( though they had no idea prior to me telling them). But not everyone is so lucky. There's a significant chance his could react badly. While always I recommend coming out as soon as it's feasible, parents can be another matter. Parents only react the way they do, mostly out of fear for their children's safety, and not for any realy hatred of their sexuality. But, most parents, not sure what to do, do the first thing that comes to mind, which is either embrace their child and stand by them, or throw them out. Luckily though, more and more parents are learning to be accepting.
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 10:14 pm
Matiko-san Parents only react the way they do, mostly out of fear for their children's safety, and not for any realy hatred of their sexuality. But, most parents, not sure what to do, do the first thing that comes to mind, which is either embrace their child and stand by them, or throw them out. Luckily though, more and more parents are learning to be accepting. I don't think that's true at all. A lot of religious people have more faith in their religion than their family. Some people just can't accept the fact. and a large number of parents, like Damian's, don't kick the child out but try to change him or talk him out of it because it's "wrong", not out of concern for safety( except maybe spiritual safety).
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2004 10:44 pm
Mines kinda weird. I can remember as far back as to being six years old and being attracted to girls. The female body is just so much prettier, more attractive. Of course, I went through a stage of liking guys but..it wasnt the same. Guys are lovely, yes, but yeah.
The actual realization..hrmm..twelve or thirteen. Acted on it didnt come till about fourteen and I didnt tell any sort of family till I was sixteen or early seventeen but I had always been open with friends.
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Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2004 7:00 pm
I first knew i was gay the first time i saw David Boreanaz shirtless in Buffy:TVS (i was like 12 or 13), but i think i was gay before that...idk tho
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Posted: Mon Sep 06, 2004 5:27 pm
Vague Matiko-san Parents only react the way they do, mostly out of fear for their children's safety, and not for any realy hatred of their sexuality. But, most parents, not sure what to do, do the first thing that comes to mind, which is either embrace their child and stand by them, or throw them out. Luckily though, more and more parents are learning to be accepting. I don't think that's true at all. A lot of religious people have more faith in their religion than their family. Some people just can't accept the fact. and a large number of parents, like Damian's, don't kick the child out but try to change him or talk him out of it because it's "wrong", not out of concern for safety( except maybe spiritual safety). thats wat my parents did, but i said that it was just a phase and i got over it. meh. i hated it.
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Posted: Mon Sep 06, 2004 6:22 pm
I pity anyone who has parents that can't accept their sexual orientation. I mean, to me, a parent's love should be above everything else, including religion. To me, that's what the Christian God is about, Love. in *every* form.
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Posted: Mon Sep 06, 2004 7:11 pm
Matiko-san I pity anyone who has parents that can't accept their sexual orientation. I mean, to me, a parent's love should be above everything else, including religion. To me, that's what the Christian God is about, Love. in *every* form. Yeah, but it's not the way things are. They way things should be often isn't.
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Posted: Thu Sep 09, 2004 2:32 pm
Well when I was a little kid, and up until I was 11-12ish I had no clue what the word "gay" was, or even if it existed, so when I was younger I'd simply look at guys and know if they were cute or not. But in the end of elementry school a friend and I went skinny dipping and I couldn't keep my eyes off of his exposed manhood. A week later I found out I was gay when we started having fun together, so I declared myself Bisexual. I still like girls but guys are still more appealing. I don't think I'll tell my parents though, at least not until after high school because I don't wish to spend 3 years in the house being treated like a little kid who simply needs to be "changed".
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Posted: Sun Oct 17, 2004 8:09 pm
I guess I was never completely sure until I kissed a girl. Then I knew that I liked girls a lot more than guys. I still think there's a possibility of me being attracted to guys, but it's not a very attractive thought. sweatdrop
I was at a youth group con(ference) at my church when I found out I was gay. It's a UU church (if anyone has heard of it) so the advisors didn't care that I kissed my girl. mrgreen I knew she was a lesbian from the time I met her because she was a cross-dresser. I didn't have feelings for her for a year or two, and when we spent the night together at the con and we kissed, I was really really happy. I'd kissed guys before and I just thought, ick. xp That was when I was 15. So, I guess I've wrote enough...
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Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2004 7:29 am
Ummm, well it was around 6th to 8th grade, everone would call me Gay and stuff and i would always feel bad, even thow i always forgived them i would still feel so bad, i was the nice guy that didn't talk to much and i loved by all the teachers, well when i graduated from 9th grade i got to the High School and it was even less bothering but still the guys where starting to get atractive and it just got to me and by the time i was graduating from third year i had a total atraction to guys. I reamember ones when i was arounf 14 i had printed out some fotos off naked guys, and my mom found them in the Bed i had left them there; thing is she had ripped it into shreeds, i she was so worried but thing is i told her that i was just a think i was doing with my bestfreind (like a joke or something) and she said: "are you sure, becuase i can get an appointment to the psicologist" and i told her: "Noo!!! Nooo!!! its ok a told you its just a joke"; thing is she tooked it, and she believed me since then ive just been cool and try to blend in with crowed. im 19 now in my seconf year off College and i still don't have a boyfreind. sweatdrop Well anyways that's for hearing me out. Love you all. /Hugs/
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