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Cyfin

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2004 6:12 am


I came out about a year ago....to my mom, not any friends or anything.

She flipped out to the point of pushing me and screaming louder than I've ever heard her scream...We haven't gotten along for a second since then...

So, always remember, if coming out of the closet doesn't work as well as you hoped, at least someone had it worse ^^
PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2004 10:29 am


Honestly, I came out when I was 10. See, my parents divorced when I was like...5 I think, because my dad was/is Gay. So, I was raised around it seeing as I grew up with my dad. He encouraged it so when I was first getting all those "teenage hormones" he well.... redface bought me my first porn mag...it was a gay mag and I dont know...I just liked it I guess. Been gay every since. Don't get me wrong, girls are cool and can be nice to look at but when it comes down to it...I want a guy laying next to me. Not a girl.

Matsu_Undertonne


FalconFlame

PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2004 1:27 pm


Matsu_Undertonne
Honestly, I came out when I was 10. See, my parents divorced when I was like...5 I think, because my dad was/is Gay. So, I was raised around it seeing as I grew up with my dad. He encouraged it so when I was first getting all those "teenage hormones" he well.... redface bought me my first porn mag...it was a gay mag and I dont know...I just liked it I guess. Been gay every since. Don't get me wrong, girls are cool and can be nice to look at but when it comes down to it...I want a guy laying next to me. Not a girl.


If only it were that easy....I'd kill for parents that ENCOURAGED it....
PostPosted: Tue Aug 10, 2004 9:32 pm


I was 15. Throughout the year I'd been coming out to friends and such, one at a time, then, entirely coincidentally (I didn't know this until later, when Ethan [Vague] pointed it out to me) I came out to my parents on national coming out day. I left a book and a note in their bed, and its all been pretty good. My dad couldn't care less, which is awesome, and my mom was kinda weird about it at first, but she's cool now.

Peter Rabbit


Matsu_Undertonne

PostPosted: Wed Aug 11, 2004 10:51 am


FalconFlame
Matsu_Undertonne
Honestly, I came out when I was 10. See, my parents divorced when I was like...5 I think, because my dad was/is Gay. So, I was raised around it seeing as I grew up with my dad. He encouraged it so when I was first getting all those "teenage hormones" he well.... redface bought me my first porn mag...it was a gay mag and I dont know...I just liked it I guess. Been gay every since. Don't get me wrong, girls are cool and can be nice to look at but when it comes down to it...I want a guy laying next to me. Not a girl.


If only it were that easy....I'd kill for parents that ENCOURAGED it....


Yeah, Dad rocks! heh. But my mom fliped when she found out. She was like "first your father now you! What are you doing to me!!" Yeah. she wasn't to happy about the whole thing. She still isn't. But hey, if she can have every guy in the neiborhood in her bed, then I certainly can have one in mine.
PostPosted: Fri Oct 22, 2004 5:40 pm


I have come out to some of my friends, but not my family. When I was fifteen (I'm sixteen now) I had my First Gay Experience. I was with my friend Abbe, who I knew had a crush on me. We ended up kissing at our church. (Hooray for UU churches!) Then I felt like I needed to come out to somebody, so I screwed up my courage and told two of my friends at school that I was bisexual. My friend Sade was quietly supportive, as she always is, and my friend Tiara said she didn't expect me to say that, but she hugged me when I cried. I also came out to my friend Erica, who said she wasn't really surprised and some other people who I don't know as well.

I don't know when I'll ever be able to come out to my family. My family always has crap happening to them, there's never a "good time" to tell them. For example, in the last month my grandfather died, my grandmother was diagnosed with leukemia, and my mother quit her job. gonk

pinnipedbuddy


lolibakaneko

PostPosted: Fri Oct 22, 2004 10:05 pm


pinnipedbuddy
I have come out to some of my friends, but not my family. When I was fifteen (I'm sixteen now) I had my First Gay Experience. I was with my friend Abbe, who I knew had a crush on me. We ended up kissing at our church. (Hooray for UU churches!) Then I felt like I needed to come out to somebody, so I screwed up my courage and told two of my friends at school that I was bisexual. My friend Sade was quietly supportive, as she always is, and my friend Tiara said she didn't expect me to say that, but she hugged me when I cried. I also came out to my friend Erica, who said she wasn't really surprised and some other people who I don't know as well.

I don't know when I'll ever be able to come out to my family. My family always has crap happening to them, there's never a "good time" to tell them. For example, in the last month my grandfather died, my grandmother was diagnosed with leukemia, and my mother quit her job. gonk


*hugs* i understand how things like that can build up. but i promise they'll get better and you'll find a time to tell them. it may not seem like the best time, but there is no best time.

*hugs more and feeds you cookies* heart
PostPosted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 9:14 am


I came out to a few close friends but that's it. I'm scared to tell my parents even though I know they'd be very understanding. I'm just shy and don't like to talk about myself on any issue to my parents.

Asghar


Keithing
Crew

PostPosted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 11:59 am


Asghar
I came out to a few close friends but that's it. I'm scared to tell my parents even though I know they'd be very understanding. I'm just shy and don't like to talk about myself on any issue to my parents.
That's great to hear. I was in nearly the same position at 16, where you reach the point the you have to tell someone, namely friends. If and when you decide to tell your parents, be sure to plan it out a bit. Messy coming out experiences aren't the greatest, but at lest you have the assurance that they will likely be alright with it. It makes it that much easier. 3nodding
PostPosted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 3:37 pm


Keithing
That's great to hear. I was in nearly the same position at 16, where you reach the point the you have to tell someone, namely friends. If and when you decide to tell your parents, be sure to plan it out a bit. Messy coming out experiences aren't the greatest, but at lest you have the assurance that they will likely be alright with it. It makes it that much easier. 3nodding


I think I'm going to wait till a point where I have to tell them. I don't really see the point in coming out to them for no reason. It'd be like going up to them and telling them that my favourite colour was blue and not red which they'd always assumed. That last sentence was hypothetical but I hope you get what I'm saying. It'd just seem random and pointless. I think I'll just be myself and if they ask I'll be honest.

Asghar


Keithing
Crew

PostPosted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 4:13 pm


I just meant that you should know how to approach it if the occassion arises. I know I didn't handle my own opportunity to clear everything up as well as I should have. How else are you suppose to react when your father drags you out of bed in the middle of the night trying to wake up half the block by screaming about gay porn?

It was only later that I found out his "evidence" was images of shirtless men. By then I had finished bawling my eyes out and yelling at my dad for daring to call me abnormal. Not the most mentally stable summer of my life. stare
PostPosted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 7:55 pm


Keithing
I just meant that you should know how to approach it if the occassion arises. I know I didn't handle my own opportunity to clear everything up as well as I should have. How else are you suppose to react when your father drags you out of bed in the middle of the night trying to wake up half the block by screaming about gay porn?

It was only later that I found out his "evidence" was images of shirtless men. By then I had finished bawling my eyes out and yelling at my dad for daring to call me abnormal. Not the most mentally stable summer of my life. stare


Aww that's so sad! [hugs]
I don't think I'll be as unfortunate but, I'll make sure to be organized and prepared for when that day comes.
I'm sorry your experience was so bad. I hope your father is fine now.

Asghar


Keithing
Crew

PostPosted: Sat Oct 23, 2004 10:38 pm


Thanks! *returns the hug* whee

Unfortunately, I have yet to patch things up. The only concession he's made is that I'm not as feminine as "my kind" were in his mind. I keep saying that I'm going to sit the two of them down for a thorough discussion about this, but I never seem to find the time. It doesn't help that they aren't on speaking terms with each other, though they still live in the same house. So many issues to address, so little time. sad

On a side note: I haven't seen the neon green glitch on avatars for a long time. Lime green jell-o or radioactive sludge, will we ever know?
PostPosted: Sun Oct 24, 2004 7:10 am


My parents and have yet to patch things up as well...

I was accused for looking at porn but like your father's... Evidence was just that I was spending time chatting in the usual rooms that I had chatted in every night. But since I came out he hasnt left me alone since. Heh. That is why I am thankful that Gaia doesnt post a link to everything you post like some forums do. Otherwise hed be all over meh again with questions and such of what I was writing this and that for. What I still dont get ((nor do I like to hear)) is that my father said that going to look for support groups was the worst thing I could do. "It will only make you more like them..." he said. Well I went anyways and it helped me out of my deep depression so I think it helped me see the better of things through out all of this home life eh? *Hugs Keithing too just because...*

Its kind of fun being a masculine homosexual... Hehe. None of my friends could believe it when I came to the point where I told them about "me" and that made me feel good. Heh. There is just something about turning down girls and running into the arms of one of my guy friends that makes me smile... Hehe

Reticence


Asghar

PostPosted: Sun Oct 24, 2004 8:20 am


Keithing
Thanks! *returns the hug* whee

Unfortunately, I have yet to patch things up. The only concession he's made is that I'm not as feminine as "my kind" were in his mind. I keep saying that I'm going to sit the two of them down for a thorough discussion about this, but I never seem to find the time. It doesn't help that they aren't on speaking terms with each other, though they still live in the same house. So many issues to address, so little time. sad

On a side note: I haven't seen the neon green glitch on avatars for a long time. Lime green jell-o or radioactive sludge, will we ever know?


I had a really rough home life when I was a kid. My real father is a crack addict. When I say my parents now, I mean my loving mother and step father.
I hope you'll be able to have an understanding conversaion with them one day.
I don't know why I have the green stuff. Maybe once I get some nice clothes it'll go away.
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