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 Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 6:36 am
Well, I'm 26, and have been single (as in no serious boyfriend - been on a couple of dates that turned into nothing) since I was 19. For the moment, I'm relatively happy being single. There's nobody I know who I want to be with, and the last guy I was with was a manipulative, possessive ...... you can fill in the expletive yourselves! He hasn't put me off men, but I know I'd rather be single than just be with someone for the sake of it, or be with someone who was totally wrong for me and miserable in the relationship.
To be honest, I think your family and friends can give most of the things you want from a relationship (not everything lol!). Of course, I want to get married and have kids one day, but I'm not too concerned about it being now. I'm not in a rush. Hehe, but talk to me on a bad day and you might hear a different story mrgreen
I know I'm very lucky and have a wonderful family and friendship circle (despite them being in the uk and me in Japan - thank goodness for the internet!) and others don't have that. But some people (one of my friends in particular!) have so much in their lives, but they get so caught up in the fact that they don't want to be single any more, that they can't see what they already have. And that's sad.
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Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 12:58 pm
I'm 29, single, and STILL consider myself young. I have so much to do that a family would make impossible. I have a bit of geezerism when I go out to the bars and whatnot (calling the college freshman who ordered a wine cooler a whippersnapper and giving him a shot of whiskey, for example). But overall, you need to be complete yourself before you bring someone else into your life.
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Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 1:22 pm
Vincent Valintine It could be worse, you could be 22, and going through a nasty divorce. Looking back, I wish I'd stayed single. i'm23 and going through a nasty divorce! you are not alone! *hugs*
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Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 2:47 pm
Jadyn Fortysix I'm 29, single, and STILL consider myself young. I have so much to do that a family would make impossible. I have a bit of geezerism when I go out to the bars and whatnot (calling the college freshman who ordered a wine cooler a whippersnapper and giving him a shot of whiskey, for example). But overall, you need to be complete yourself before you bring someone else into your life.
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Posted: Mon Sep 29, 2008 5:40 pm
Wow... at least my day gotten alittle better after reading thoughout this topic twisted
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Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 3:00 am
Jadyn Fortysix I'm 29, single, and STILL consider myself young. I have so much to do that a family would make impossible. I have a bit of geezerism when I go out to the bars and whatnot (calling the college freshman who ordered a wine cooler a whippersnapper and giving him a shot of whiskey, for example). But overall, you need to be complete yourself before you bring someone else into your life. Definitely agree with you there! And like your Firefly signature mrgreen
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Posted: Tue Sep 30, 2008 8:15 pm
Quote: I was teased, kicked, tripped and stabbed in the leg, I also had my head banged against a brick wall in 8th grade.
well i see alot of us are in the same boat.
i was was never stabbed, but all the same more often everyday, from 1st to the end of high school.
now i'm 26. went to a trade school but now i can't get a job doing what i'm train for. i'm in a retail, not fond of it. but it is a job. around were i'm at, retail is the really only jobs close by.
guys around here only want only one type of gal. and i'm not it.. i'm the overweight, large gal. i rp. i like WOW. i use to rpg alot. but most fized out.
most of my short life has been spent taken care of someone eles, i still live at home, and with how things are. i can't afford to move.
i have been walking with a cane for over 10 years now on and off.
i have never been on a date.
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Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 5:30 am
Harbone Marriage isn't any great shakes, either. You spend most of it unhappy and arguing and, if you can't cut the mustard, you end up alone... and regretting that, too! Maybe we're all better off alone... Or maybe we shouldn't be so hung up about casual sex? Or maybe we should look into cloning a little closer. What if there were no men? Wouldn't that be great?!? I've been married for a LONG time and it's been a load of fun. Sometimes it just depends on how much your willing to put into a marriage as to how it will work. Most people I've seen today are not willing to put any work into any relationship. No men? I like laughing too much to live in a world with no men.
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Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 9:06 pm
Well, Irahatam, maybe I'm just tied of being laughed at.
Also, although it sounds like you married a great guy, I'd like to point out that a lot of us guys aren't so great. You lucked out.
I've been married 8 years, which maybe isn't so long as you, and I've put a lot of effort into it, but it turns out that isn't enough. Right now, it's hard enough keeping the divorce from turning messy!
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Posted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 11:06 pm
Sorry to double post, but something weird's going on with this thread.
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Posted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 3:14 pm
steggimite Jadyn Fortysix I'm 29, single, and STILL consider myself young. I have so much to do that a family would make impossible. I have a bit of geezerism when I go out to the bars and whatnot (calling the college freshman who ordered a wine cooler a whippersnapper and giving him a shot of whiskey, for example). But overall, you need to be complete yourself before you bring someone else into your life. Definitely agree with you there! And like your Firefly signature mrgreen I agree as well. It's so important to be happy with who you are before you can have a healthy relationship with someone. BTW, I was 33 when I got married 7 years ago, and I married a guy I went to college with when we had first graduated high school (a long long time ago)! Besides, "alone" and "lonely" are two completely different things! smile Hope all works out!
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Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 8:17 pm
boneymuggle every story i read here, is just like me, yay!! i'm not alone!! 28, single, living with parents, working for my dads business, i have a degree, have been denied from grad school 3 times, sigh, I really do hope something exciting happens to me soon... xp
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Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 9:41 pm
Nothing wrong with being single, at any age. Far better single than unhappily married. Hang in there, you are not alone. I do remember when I was your age and wondered what was wrong in my world that I had no one. Took me awhile to realize I can be just fine on my own. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:13 pm
I just got over a good online relationship a few months back. We got along well and all. What held us back was our distance and differing life goals.
Yep, this geezer of (soon to be) 31 years was before this past April, and again since this past early September, the single bachelor. I have a family and friends who love me though, and I try to keep myself occupied during my spare time or when nothing's going on with my job by doing things I enjoy. Of course, those things I enjoy (namely anime, gaming (esp. RPGs), and online RPing) are often loathed or just misunderstood by the masses who all follow the same things (the same music styles, same TV series, same this, same that...).
Don't feel so bad about it. Being single has its perks too, just as being in a blossoming working relationship does. Someone above put it best too....it's WAY better than going through a messy relationship or ...worse to worst.....bitter divorce. Those two things are probably the lowest negatives of relationships, and ...although I hope to be lucky in not having to go through such rough spots in life, I can imagine it's quite a drag.
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Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 2:31 pm
I foolishly got married when I was young because I had kids and society said I needed to be married, so I said yes to the first person who really asked... not those guys that string you along to keep you involved with them saying that you will be married SOMEDAY. After that quick divorce I did not plan to get married ever again, but it happened... and I have a wonderful guy that I wish was home more. I was in my early 30s when I met him online... and I will agree with those that say that when you meet the right person you will know...
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