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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 5:27 pm
Captain_Sipid_Peabody All righty, I'm going to attempt to make an all-inclusive post to everything going on. First off, good job on procuring a date. That's half the battle. Dinner dates are typically pretty good, so long as you have the ability to hold your own in conversation. Second, fast food = awful place to go on a date. I've never taken my GF to fast food, mainly because I'd consider it well... tacky. I'd suggest a restaurant where, at bare minimum you have a waiter. Even if it's like a hole in a wall, make sure you have a server. Mid quality restaurants that serve this need well are like Coco's, Red Lobster, Sizzler, Chilies, etc. Upper-mid would include, Cheesecake Factory and Olive Garden. Also some exclusive restaurants to your city tend to be nice too. Expect to pay about $40. Also, suggest the restaurant and see if it's okay with her. As it shows you're able to make a decision though be considerate of her as well. I'd also suggest having a backup if she shoots down your initial idea. Asking her out to the formal as early as possible would be for the best, truthfully. As my Girlfriend explained to me, women buy dresses for almost every occasion, and the act of buying a dress entails buying new shoes as well. And unless she's a weird gothy/punk chick she'll probably care. (Though I'd never suggest dating anyone who does their shopping @ Hot Topic anyway, but that's just me.) Therefore giving her the maximum amount of time to do so would be strong. I also suggest though that you ask her at the end of, or during your first date with her, as doing so over the phone would seem less masculine. After the date, if it went well, I'd suggest taking her for a walk, or a movie or something. Though you should make sure you already have showtimes in mind, for various movies. That way you can time dinner/lunch/whatever properly. (Sadly though, there really aren't any good movies showing. This weekend my GF and I were looking over the current movies playing and found nothing that we'd like to see.) A cold evening would be suggestible, as you'll have the opportunity to raise your standing in her eyes by offering your jacket to her. Speaking of jackets, I'd suggest you dress halfway well. This includes some slacks and a polo shirt, I'd say. As it's not formal you won't be expected to wear a sport coat or anything (though they tend to look pretty decent when thrown over polo shirts.[They also tend to be extremely warm, though they don't look it.]) As an individual and in my own life, I tend to overdress as a rule. (I wear business suits to school, and am never far from my sport coats.) But this isn't required. One of my rules of thumb is that you should stand out, but not stick out. Well, I didn't do that. I think we agreed on "hanging out" but I don't think it's for certain so maybe I could suggest that. Also, this is for High Schoolers you know? I mean, maybe fast food wouldn't be so bad. I know what you're talking about though.
Yeah, so talking about myself isn't really the greatest. What if I just like hung out with her? Probably not the greatest idea since I'll be at my dad's this weekend. Which brings up that I need to learn how to dance.
I saw Tristian and Isolde. It's a romance. Might be good. Or you got the horror, Hostel. Or we could go to Edwards which has like everything.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 5:38 pm
ButterBalls
How come I always gotta call the confident ones? There's a good chance she wasn't confident at all, but just as nervous as you. You said you weren't all that anxious when you asked her, so you must have sounded pretty confident yourself. Don't assume anything, is what I think. If she's interested in making any kind of impression on you at all, she's a bit antsy, too.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 6:11 pm
Soleq Ah yes, the hot college professor. Too bad most of them were at least 35 and usually unattractive. Though there was the occasional hottie. Yeah..... Now, the TA's on the other hand......some of them are hot. And then we are only talking about a 2-3 year difference.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 6:36 pm
ButterBalls Well, I didn't do that. I think we agreed on "hanging out" but I don't think it's for certain so maybe I could suggest that. Also, this is for High Schoolers you know? I mean, maybe fast food wouldn't be so bad. I know what you're talking about though.
Yeah, so talking about myself isn't really the greatest. What if I just like hung out with her? Probably not the greatest idea since I'll be at my dad's this weekend. Which brings up that I need to learn how to dance.
I saw Tristian and Isolde. It's a romance. Might be good. Or you got the horror, Hostel. Or we could go to Edwards which has like everything. I'm not too far out of high school (Just a year and a semester), and my GF still is in high school, though a senior. In fact as a college student I tend to have less money than most high school students xd probably due to the fact that I pay for textbooks and a bunch of other costs they don't incur. I only look and act like I have money (which works). As for talking about yourself, you'd actually be surprised. Or rather, talking about things you like. I mean, you can't instantly know what she'll be into; therefore attempting to discuss things that you're into (music, politics, whatever) would be the strongest possible option, as it'll make you seem knowledgeable. Also if she has a similar personality to you that also helps. The less concessions you have to make the better. Truthfully the movie you see should be based on well mutual interest. If you guys like similar movies it may work out. It's hard to find all-inclusive movies. Therefore I'd suggest going to something she likes. (Though on our first date I took my GF to see 'Good Night and Good luck,' though we didn't watch most of the movie... well, it was one I chose purely based on my interest.) And Hostel seems less like a horror movie and more of an excuse to show brutal torture (from the reviews I've read), therefore I wouldn't advise it. Maybe a romantic comedy like Casanova... Though if you were to suggest it, it would feminize you in her eyes. As for dancing, well, no one knows how to dance. And I say that because, though some people have a higher skill in it than others, no one really pays attention to your dancing at all, as everyone tends to be focused on themselves. Which is the truth, believe it or not. Now, I often jokingly say that I can stop the beat with my dancing, (because it's true), it has yet to merit any serious embarrassment for me, as no one really pays attention to it. The only pertinent person is the female in question, and if she's really into you, she won't care much. Unless she's really a dance buff or something.... As for a 'hanging out' type thing, I've never been so hot at it, so I couldn't advise you properly. I may suggest somewhere like Starbucks, as it has proper atmosphere. Also places like the Santa Monica Promenade wouldn't be bad either, as they tend to have multitudes of people and shops. A mall may not be bad either. (Though my GF and I both find them decidedly boring.)
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 7:06 pm
Thomas Neo Anderson ButterBalls
How come I always gotta call the confident ones? There's a good chance she wasn't confident at all, but just as nervous as you. You said you weren't all that anxious when you asked her, so you must have sounded pretty confident yourself. Don't assume anything, is what I think. If she's interested in making any kind of impression on you at all, she's a bit antsy, too. True, but I alway assume what's probably not true, or the worst.
I don't know. I thought I'd feel pretty good that I did it but I feel kind of crappy about it.
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Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 7:20 pm
Captain_Sipid_Peabody ButterBalls Well, I didn't do that. I think we agreed on "hanging out" but I don't think it's for certain so maybe I could suggest that. Also, this is for High Schoolers you know? I mean, maybe fast food wouldn't be so bad. I know what you're talking about though.
Yeah, so talking about myself isn't really the greatest. What if I just like hung out with her? Probably not the greatest idea since I'll be at my dad's this weekend. Which brings up that I need to learn how to dance.
I saw Tristian and Isolde. It's a romance. Might be good. Or you got the horror, Hostel. Or we could go to Edwards which has like everything. I'm not too far out of high school (Just a year and a semester), and my GF still is in high school, though a senior. In fact as a college student I tend to have less money than most high school students xd probably due to the fact that I pay for textbooks and a bunch of other costs they don't incur. I only look and act like I have money (which works). As for talking about yourself, you'd actually be surprised. Or rather, talking about things you like. I mean, you can't instantly know what she'll be into; therefore attempting to discuss things that you're into (music, politics, whatever) would be the strongest possible option, as it'll make you seem knowledgeable. Also if she has a similar personality to you that also helps. The less concessions you have to make the better. Truthfully the movie you see should be based on well mutual interest. If you guys like similar movies it may work out. It's hard to find all-inclusive movies. Therefore I'd suggest going to something she likes. (Though on our first date I took my GF to see 'Good Night and Good luck,' though we didn't watch most of the movie... well, it was one I chose purely based on my interest.) And Hostel seems less like a horror movie and more of an excuse to show brutal torture (from the reviews I've read), therefore I wouldn't advise it. Maybe a romantic comedy like Casanova... Though if you were to suggest it, it would feminize you in her eyes. As for dancing, well, no one knows how to dance. And I say that because, though some people have a higher skill in it than others, no one really pays attention to your dancing at all, as everyone tends to be focused on themselves. Which is the truth, believe it or not. Now, I often jokingly say that I can stop the beat with my dancing, (because it's true), it has yet to merit any serious embarrassment for me, as no one really pays attention to it. The only pertinent person is the female in question, and if she's really into you, she won't care much. Unless she's really a dance buff or something.... As for a 'hanging out' type thing, I've never been so hot at it, so I couldn't advise you properly. I may suggest somewhere like Starbucks, as it has proper atmosphere. Also places like the Santa Monica Promenade wouldn't be bad either, as they tend to have multitudes of people and shops. A mall may not be bad either. (Though my GF and I both find them decidedly boring.) That makes a lot of sense. Though, I still say I'm worst off money wise then you since I don't have a job and never have.
I don't know about that one. I can be really bad at it. I guess it just depends on the day or something.
Haha, that's awesome. I really want to see that movie too. I think it'd be awesome to see. I saw Hostel and Tristian and Isolde last weekend so I know what they are already. Hostel has a lot of sex or sexual references in the starting and then a bunch of gore at the end. Personally, like I've said to many people, it needed more sex and more gore. That's just me though. Tristian and Isolde is based on a legend (I'm pretty sure) about ancient time kind of stuff. The entire time they're trying to form an alliance. I don't want to give away the ending to anyone, but it's a love story pretty much. I liked it. I really don't care what I watch as far as movies. I like any type of movie. Well, usually anything over PG. So, yeah, I probably would have asked her anyway.
Yeah, but I don't even know the basics. Like, I'd get out there and probably just go off what everyone else is doing.
Alright, I'll keep that in mind.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 4:00 pm
I seem to have hit another growth spurt. I'm hungry a lot.
Maybe I will become taller.
I find myself very wrapped up in other people. I become excessively obsessive and downright suffocating. I don't know how they can stand it (obviously not for long, Kathleen could only take it for a few months), but I don't want to drive people away because I am too dependent. And I also don't want to change, I fear it too much.
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Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:46 pm
I need the new Yellowcard song.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 4:34 am
Mreow, I never cared much for Yellowcard. I am usually to busy with tests though. Wish reminds me, I have a math exam today. *sigh* Gonna be a long day.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 3:31 pm
A mindblowing 3/4 of one of the 8th grade classes failed my last math test. Now, this is surprising, as the other class did relatively fine. The same material was taught, and things seemed pretty equal. The only difference is that the second class is more apathetic than the first class. Good times.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 5:21 pm
KageShujin Mreow, I never cared much for Yellowcard. I am usually to busy with tests though. Wish reminds me, I have a math exam today. *sigh* Gonna be a long day. They're fine by me.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 5:22 pm
Soleq A mindblowing 3/4 of one of the 8th grade classes failed my last math test. Now, this is surprising, as the other class did relatively fine. The same material was taught, and things seemed pretty equal. The only difference is that the second class is more apathetic than the first class. Good times. Makes sense.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 7:07 pm
Soleq A mindblowing 3/4 of one of the 8th grade classes failed my last math test. Now, this is surprising, as the other class did relatively fine. The same material was taught, and things seemed pretty equal. The only difference is that the second class is more apathetic than the first class. Good times. My algebra teacher must think I'm pretty apathetic too. (He'd be very right.) Its the only class I don't have an A in. Matter of fact, I have an F.
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 8:08 pm
Eh, math is hard to be excited about. I rarely, if ever, see someone enter class and say "OMFG I"M GUNNA HAVE AN ALGEGASM!!1"
But, the whip has to be cracked, and these bums need to start doing work.
!!!!!1one
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Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 8:12 pm
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