Welcome to Gaia! ::

That is wonderful! Maybe it will become as popular as MySpace.

And you are a pretty amiable guy, yes?

Quite frankly, as much as everyone likes to think the Peabody Pirates are just jackasses who talk from their asses all the time, our relationship/dating advice is most always very good, despite the fact that most of you think we're just being malicious bastards.

I think the best advice I could give you guys, Sense and Butterballs, would be to act like your Gaia personas in real life. You have to be confident, and sure of what you're doing. Women can smell fear, and you can't demonstrate it at all. You have to be slick, and you have to be quick. Practice something like saying, in a very confident way, "You WILL go out with me." And it is that kind of tone/confidence you need when you ask someone out. If you act timid and unsure of yourself, you'll be shot down, as women don't want guys like that.

Also demonstrate the concept that you have wealth. (even if you don't). Start wearing clothes that are well maintained, that look good, and just say, "look at me, I have money." Never mention financial difficulty, never mention limits on how much you can spend or how much you can offer. (Though don't go over $40 on a date.). Women want someone who is financially secure, and it really helps your chances.

I also suggest for the self-esteem issue, that you just start asking women out. Make a game of it. Even if you don't like them, just see if they'll go get coffee with you and such. Look at it this way, say you only score one date out of 10 people. If you ask enough people you'll get plenty of dates as the world is overpopulated with women. Also you'll overcome your fear of rejection as it'll become a natural part of the 'dating' process. You'll also get better at it as you get more experience and your chances will improve drastically.

Don't 'befriend' women, be men. Women have plenty of female friends to discuss their problems with. To gossip with. To cry on. They don't need you to serve this purpose.

Trust me, the concept of the timid male that most gaian females claim to want is a lie. You've both seen the Peabody Pirates post it a million times, and it's true.

And no, this advice isn't out of malace or spite. It is actually good advice when you get right down too it. As a supplement also read Shoe's post here, an excerpt from, "A Tribute to Nice Guys"

It's that timid nature that you need to overcome. Somewhere deep down inside is an a-hole just struggling to escape. You have to reach deep down and drag him to the surface. This involves the destruction of that little voice in your head that says 'You shouldn't do that.' Psychologically it's like removing the super-ego, and letting Id run free.

There is a way to conquer fear of women. I read it somewhere, and it seemed like pretty practical advice. Dress well, and like walk around a mall. Say 'Hi' to every woman you come in contact with. Standing in line, window shopping, even passing if they look you in the eye (don't look away). What've you got to lose? It'll help gain confidence, and probably get you into conversations with some chicks too.

It's not that wierd. It's just a smile and a "hi." The idea is to show you that you don't need to be afraid of women.

And I'd argue that confidence and a-holery go hand in hand. Lets look at the most confident people in this world. They by and large tend to be a-holes. In fact, aholery isn't really a bad thing. I mean, lets look at the chicks who other girls say are 'bitches.' They actually tend to be the females with the most confidence in themselves. Lets look at the guys who are assholes, they tend to have high self-esteem and confidence.

Perhaps it's that aspect that truly sets apart an a*****e from the rest of society. They have that ability to hold their head high and just not fear people socially.

They don't count. And I highly doubt they got laid all the time.

I'm not here to create 'great' men. I'm here to help the regular average joe, become more manly.

Yeah, for serious. We need to like go to the clubs when I'm legal. We'll keep workin' out and stuff and let's do it. Then we get Soleq to come with us just because we need to all hangout. Then we get Lev to go bi and she can come with us.