Yeah...I'm alive. I've been surviving through midterms and whatnot. It was hell but I never feared for my life. Thanks for your time of concern for me. Now I direct your attention elsewhere...TESS. Let me inform you that if Suz/Tess says such lovely phrases such as "I'm fine", "don't worry about me", or "everything is just fine and dandy"...that means something is HORRIBLY WRONG AND THERE IS A PROBLEM. It also means she struggles with telling you what it is. I'm here to make myself sound like an a** by offering you all some options if you really care. You could:
a. leave her alone. Pros--she gets left the ******** alone so she can deal with her issues. She won't have to worry about you. She can relax with slightly less on her mind. She might even get to sleep. Cons--she'll be alone. She won't hear from you. Though you can't nag her you also can't comfort her.
b. hound her a**. Pros--she'll eventually break down and tell you everything so you have a chance to help her heal and recover. Cons--she'll eventually break down and tell you everything so you can ignore her and try to make your bullshit sound more important.
c. both a and b. "loving houndedness" Pros--you check on her periodically and tell her you love her, expressing concern for her while saving your bullshit for later. This method actually shows her that you think she is important and you give a damn. Put the woman first and you'll get everything you want and need from her in return. Cons--This method is EXTREMELY tough and often painful...for YOU. Quite frankly many of you can't pull this off.
I've been at every option with her at some point in time. It's your choice. Or hell come up with your own and see where that takes you, though it pretty much will incorporate those choices one way or another. Have a nice day.
