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I'm excusing myself from this thread now. This is making me sick. I can't believe I even responded in the first place and that's what is disappointing me the most.

I hope this gets figured out. I hate to know that Krista is leaving gaia (possibly for good) because of this and I hate to know that we're all fighting and just creating more hurt for so many other peoeple who just read this.

She's seriously concidering it. The stress has just gotten to her.

As of now the only posts I make in this thread will be on behalf of others. I hate that it came to this. I know that Iwas fairly blunt about any problems I had, here or in IM. If you want something posted or aired out but don't want to do it yourself PM me and I'll wuote it anonymously. Other than that, I'm out.

*reads this then curls up in a ball*

Oh dear God ... what a mess.

*pulls pillow over her head*

...

*pokes head from under the pillow*

crying I AM VERY SORRY crying THIS IS ALL MY FAULT crying

I should have worried about you guys getting along with each other this summer instead of trying to draw all the teens. Really, in retrospect it seems far more important. Maybe I could have prevented this situation. And I am sorry for giving you all so much RP and story freedom. I suppose I should have restricted that, too. I just thought that you guys were mature enough to stay away from godmodding and whining and ... various other vices. But reading this thread it seems like Fa'e need some RP guidance after all.

Seriously, if you WANT me to impliment all these rules and punishments and what not, and create rigid point system or whatever else you guys are suggesting - we can do that, I guess. But it's not my thing. It will take my time away from drawing. And I understand Lenore or Eirnae could do that ... but I feel that it is a lot of ungrateful and boring work for ANYONE to handle.

I have been trying to NOT burn on Fa'e very hard for the past few months. It comes in it's ups and downs. Currently, it's very down. I really like the concept of the Fa'e and I like the Guardians. But this has become an ugly, ugly thing. Yes, I authorized this, but I didn't expect it all to turn out so nasty and vicious. I don't think I want to be part of this anymore.

*hides under her pillow again*

Yeah, it's ugly... but you know what? People... FAMILIES... have ugly times too. It's part of being human. You get any large group together, conflicts are going to happen. It's in our nature.

So it happens. But you know what? They happen, and then the people involved get through the conflict.

We can get through this. Maybe not unscathed, but hopefully unscarred and whole.

I firmly believe the time for pointing fingers and delivering accusations, be they true or not, is past.

We are a family. We will have sibling squabbles from time to time. It's normal. Yes, this is a big one, bigger than normal, but I firmly believe it's not impossible to heal! While modding on Gaia I have seen TINY things tear groups to shreds. I have seen groups heal amazing wounds I would have thought fatal, because people had the strength to stand up, to forgive, and to make a supreme effort.

I know I'm also very much an optimist, and I always will be. I also believe in you, in EVERY DAMN ONE OF YOU, from Anya down to Jiora (the newest Guardian). Yes, this includes Neith.

Neith did some things she shouldn't have done. A lot of things.

We've all done those. Maybe not in the Fa'e arena, but we all have. That doesn't make it right, or okay, but it does mean we have common ground. There is no holier-than-thou here.

It's time to bind together and figure out compromises. Create solutions. We have the problem, now let's work, all of us, to patch up this rift, lest it break us apart.

Riven and I will be here until the damn bitter end, if nothing else.

I agree with Youko - and I'd like to add something. This is not Anya's fault. It is each and every one of us that have held back and simmered silently. Problems with Neith should be taken to Neith - not whispered among the rest of the Guardians behind a false name, and behind someone's back.

While we're on the subject, let's remember our OWN flaws. It's like I said before - people make mistakes. And that includes all of us. Neith just happens to be the straw that broke the camel's back.

I personally invite anyone that has had problems with me - past, present, or future, to adress them to me now - via AIM or here. As long as we're bashing, let's not leave out anyone, ne?

This is a mess - and we have no one but ourselves to blame.

Yes. While I don't feel we need rules codifying plotlines as it were - we don't want to be too rigid, the freedom to plot within metaplot guidelines has always been one of myf avorite things - a few rules here and there to help resolve conflicts before they escalate to this level would be a good thing.

I would be happy to offer myself as a judge when such matters come up. It's not like modding is anything I'm a stranger too, heh. We don't want to stress out Anya. *hugs her*

I also wouldn't mind being a judge to help settle disputes. I'm generally able to stay neautral when I have to be... and I've wanted to be a Gaia mod for over a year now, so, that counts for something, eh? ^^;

Unless a punishment system is worked out, there's not anything more the sheriffs can do but listen and offere suggestions. People have complained to me before about Neith, and I've told them everything I could suggest, including blocking her from there AIM name. ANd I've talked to Neith, asking her to caln down, quit arguing everytime someone gives her a suggestion, and not to badger people.

They are only temporary fixes. Something else happens that gets Neith upset (whether is be legitamately OR not, there have been cases of both), and the whole things starts over again. People don;t block her... so they argue back, get offended and insulted, etc. Vicious cycle.

To me, I can hear someone rant and steam and argue for hours and it doesn't get to me. To other people it drives them insane. I think this is one of the biggest problems.

If there was an actual rules-and-punishment procedure that could be hammared down, the sheriffs could do much more.