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| Arranged by another person.. ie: blind date, set up by family/friend |
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| high school sweetie/friend |
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 Posted: Sun May 21, 2006 10:25 am
SupRNurse - that was a great story - too cute. heart
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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 7:29 pm
I met Sage thru his Mother Who thought at the time to anger his Ex with me, cos well I was the blonde Barbie trophy type that would make her nuts, ole mom In law Had NO clue her son & I (much to her dismay) would Never part... LOL to this day she still doesnt speak to me, Barbie had a brain. We Raised 11 children together had 3 of our own, He had 5 from his first marriage I had 3 we had 3.. All are related now & it makes for an interesting Life.. Ive been online it seems like forever since 96 at any rate & ive meet some fantastic people & Ive introduced some people to who they are with now from the net. There are those too I wish Id NEVER met.. All in all tho My relationships with people from Online have been a rewarding experiance...
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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 10:01 pm
Ah... yeah. So I was doing the wrong thing when I used to try to pick up women in supermarkets. A friend of mine told me that was a sure fire way to meet someone sympatico, just watch what they were picking up and see if it jived with your tastes ('cause, you know, you don't want to end up with a meat-a-holic if you're vegan or a total corn syrup freak if you're a diabetic. And I do enjoy cooking.) It never worked, of course, no matter how many times I cruised the Fred Meyers looking for a duclet darling who seemed unattached (there were some rules for watching the kind of stuff she bought, you know, clues that the lady was single, but I can't remember them now and it doesn't seem like much point in doing so, even if I wasn't married.)
Oh yeah, and once I turned down a bet on whether or not a woman who seemed my opposite would go out with me, a woman I hated but still found physically attractive, out of ethics. But when I started acting like a jerk I started getting dates. This pretty much confirms the old "nice guys finish last" theory of life, which stinks, because it's much harder to be a nice guy than a jerk. It basically means that those who put out the least effort to be civilized and kind do the best. On the other hand, who wants to be a sucker? Phooey!
I'm not even commenting on the Barbie with a Brain thing.
(But I should since my wife has a thing about Barbie always having brains and class, except when she has string in her back.)
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 11:21 am
I don't have a clue how dating works now. I met my husband when I put a free ad in the personals. heart 4laugh heart
I mean, my ultimate guy when I was looking for one would either be found in the comic book store, the horror movie section of my local video store, or looking at They Might Be Giants CDs in the music store.
And, yeah, I do like Barbie. Except those wide eyed ones from the 80's are kinda freaky.
Not that I ever picked up on any of those guys in those kinds of places, but I always wanted to. heart
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 12:21 pm
jellysundae i have an online friend, we've been talking for around 18 months now, i'm in England, he's in Indianapolis, but i'd still say he's my best friend, we talk for hours, i'm chatting with him now actually, we know LOADS about each other. Have a great deal of similarities in our likes/dislikes and opinions. We are both attracted to each other too, he says if we're both still single by the time we hit 40 (5 years time) we should marry each other, so i'm not all doom and gloom on the subject, but it is a little demoralising to find your soul mate when they live 4000 miles away rolleyes just to update this a little, we are semi-seriously talking about meeting up this year, it would be awkward in several ways.. 1. my fear of travelling so far on my own rolleyes 2.it would only be for a week as he's recently started a new job and wont have the holidays available. 3. the boring excuse, money neutral he's offered to pay my airfare for me, which is the sweetest thing but i couldn't let him do that, neither of us earn much but i don't want to take advantage of his generosity, he is hoping to get a book published, he's sent letters with his novel's synopsis out to a number of publishers, if that happens he says he's going to talk to me online on Saturday and tell me that he's at the library, in my town! He wants to fly over and suprise me whee i wonder how my Mum would react if i told her i was running away to America with someone i met on the internet rofl i can imagine the look on her face now! do you think it would assuage her fears if i told her that his Mum (Mom) is a psychiatrist?? lol
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 11:14 pm
You know, I usually try to be the ombudsman here, but perhaps a romantic adventure to America would do you some good, Poppetta.
I assume you know how to look after yourself (you are allowed to be well-armed here! Just remember to get a permit at the store where you buy the hardware so you don't get tagged for carrying a concealed weapon! And there's always mace, etc. I think six inches is the maximum knife length you can carry without being illegal. You'd have to check your visa!)
If you tell your mother that you feel the need for a little adventure, but you have enough sense to plan for the worst (well, at least plan a little bit - part of the idea of adventure is to see where it takes you) perhaps she'd understand. I mean, you are unattached and this could lead to something inspirational for you both.
In case of disaster, take a look on-line here for nearby women's shelters and advocacy groups in the area. For instance, several churches offer ways to get you back home if things go really bad. And I'm sure your nearest embassy will be of some help should your heart and finances be broken.
I say these things not to discourage you, but to remind you that, big step 'tho it may be, you do not exist alone in this world. You can, with reasonably safety, take a risk. You can respond to the call of your heart and it will probably all go really well. And if it doesn't (pessimist that I am) people will still help!
Er... just make sure you know the addresses, contact information and locations of those people who are most likely to help when you begin your journey. Er... excelsior!
(PS we dial 911 here not 999. Do you guys still dial 999 for assistance?)
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 4:22 am
[ Message temporarily off-line ]
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 9:32 am
Harbone! you sweetie heart
thanks for the advice blaugh don't tempt me with guns though cool i think they would appeal to my mean side WAY too much.
you know posting here is the first time i've ever really told anyone about my possible budding romance..feels slightly strange actually ninja i tell my Mum things that he's said in general conversation because he lives in the same city as her penpal who we visited back in 1981, he finds it freaky to think that we've been within range of each other years ago, then start talking online and become great friends over 20 years later eek
but the world's full of little incidents like that isn't it?
i have no fears of him turning out to be some weirdo, i think we've spoken for too long for him to have been playing me for this length of time, and i'm not easily fooled. It's only in recent weeks, when he found out that i was interested in him too, that we've been more open about our feelings for each other, so now our conversations can include things like whether i'd want children, and do i talk in my sleep, and what i like to eat for breakfast ( i've told him he's going to have to learn how to make me a cup of tea blaugh )
but we're both still so sensible about it all rolleyes
it does give me a warm, happy feeling though, knowing that he's over there, even if it is such a great distance away, the net makes it no distance at all 3nodding
so there you have it, it's really all down to when now i suppose, i have cash tucked away, but i'm not travelling that far for just one week, that's just plain silly, but on the other hand...maybe my lottery numbers will come up this week wink
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 9:34 pm
Okay then. I hope you, in the end, at least get a chance to visit your budding beau face-to-face. What a great excuse for travelling abroad!
But always remember it's easier to fool someone who's confident than someone who isn't. It's easier to DEFEAT someone who isn't confident, but at least they know it's coming.
**wanders off to the periodicals section grumbling to himself about trust and sweetness***
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Posted: Sun Jun 04, 2006 1:40 pm
I'm a nurse IRL, and 3 of my co-workers met their husbands on-line. All of them are happily married. No horror stories to report. biggrin
I've tried the online thing a couple of times. Once I met the first guy, we decided we were better off as friends but we had a lot of fun hanging out together. ^-^
The 2nd time I tried it, I dated the guy for a few months and he was also a great guy.
Wierdos are everywhere no matter where/how you meet someone. You just have to be cautious.
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 4:28 pm
if my friend turns out to be an undesirable i shall be trully shocked, i think a person's true colours come through soon enough in online chat, unless they're trully devious, and if they were i think they'd give up on me soon enough because i'm not an easy target. if anyone's even vaguely interested, here's a link to his blog.. Killsilly
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 11:59 pm
Good luck with your friend, Poppetta - update us on how you get on? smile
As Angelwings4me said, no matter where/how you meet people, some turn out to be less desirable than others, after you get to know them a bit better, so there's no reason why someone you met online should automatically be a bigger weirdo than someone from offline. (I'm sure we can all testify to knowing offline weirdos... xp ) I agree about people's true colours coming through online more quickly than offline, but I'm not sure how that works. You'd think the physical presence, body language, etc., would help, but it's sometimes that aspect that confuses and gives out false messages, leading us to ignore the subtle clues that this person isn't really somebody you want to be involved with. Or it can work the other way round, making us ignore somebody who is actually really interesting, but maybe isn't that easy to get to know because they're a bit more reserved.
There are a lot of happy-ending stories in this thread about relationships that started online, so go ahead ...but take care (I know you will!). heart
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Posted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 4:51 pm
My friend is in my guild, under the name of garbagesauce, i bullied him into signing up for Gaia ages ago, but he's only started posting since another member started up a lyrics game, and he posted a sweet little poem that he wrote too, i'll get him hooked on Gaia yet ninja
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Posted: Tue Jun 06, 2006 8:58 pm
You are all doing much better than me ~ I've got serious dating phobias, online and off... tis a good thing I don't meet anyone these days.
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Posted: Wed Jun 07, 2006 5:27 am
I actually met the love of my life online. I found him on the HP RP I used to play. I was a stay at home mom at the time, and like all good relationships, we started off as friends. When my other relationship that I was in fell apart, my Mike (that's his name) asked me to see where he and I could go. That was a year ago. We have yet to meet, but I have a good feeling that we will soon. I simply adore this man and am hoping for the best. I.E., you can plainly see I am pro-online dating.
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