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 Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2006 4:44 pm
a_bit_off_kilter Ok, here goes. I was at my friends house last night, and one of my old crushes was there. I am extremely attracted to him, and would really like to date him. My problem is this, that he is REALLY not a Christian, and Paul says in the New Testament, not to be "yoked together" with an unbeliever. I'm afraid that if we do go out, that if the relationship were to progress, I would have to break it off, because of his unbelief. I don't know if I would be able to do that. What would you do? I want to do what's right, but its so freakin' hard. HELP!!!!!!!! STOP! THINK! CONSIDER WHAT YOU WILL GET YOURSELF INTO! wahmbulance I am in a relationship with somebody who isn't a christian, and let me tell you...it is very hard to talk to her about God. She doesn't understand half of who I am, and why I choose to do what I do. For instance, when I told her that I only listen to Christian music, she had me listen to her music in an attempt to have me consider buying secular music. It was all good-intentions on her part, though. She just thought that I was missing out on a lot of great music. But she just doesn't understand that I like to listen to music that glorifies God. She doesn't understand that I must no longer comform to the patterns of this world (Romans 12:2). She doesn't understand that I no longer belong to the world, but to Christ. And she doesn't even understand the joy of being with Christ. I've tried to talk with her about Christianity and how wonderful it is, and I'm pretty sure I've told her the plan of salvation...maybe not as clearly as I should have....I'll talk with her again very soon... But anyway, I've just been trying to answer all her questions and stuff, but she seems planted firm in the world. Though there is still time, it's very hard. I don't get a lot of time to talk with her about God and stuff, cause I need to give her space with that stuff, otherwise she'll get tired of it and stop listening to me. She'll think I'm stuffing it down her throat. Do you see the trouble? It's so hard. She's a nice person, though. She's really really nice. I think she's really cool and stuff. We've had some great times. But, she's not a christian, and that makes it so hard for me because Jesus is my LIFE. It's very hard to relate with her. (Oh, and if you read this Shelby, understand that I do enjoy going out with you. I'm just sharing the one downside. 3nodding ) So just be warned. It may end up being harder than you think.
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Posted: Fri Sep 29, 2006 3:20 pm
OK, here's a problem: One of my friends (she is a Christian) seems like she's trying to won up (sp?) my other two friends and I. She got mad at one of my friends because they won some game and she didn't and tried to get them to give her their prize. Then when I posted a poem online on this website, she told me that she had seen my ego swelling from a five-star rating (the highest, I didn't know about it til she told me), so she rated it lower to "deflate" my ego. Every time someone posts something on that website, she seems to have to post three more things. Now, there's a top 20 members list--you get points for doing different things there like you get gold here-- and she was really mad at me when I go t into the number 5 spot (which I thought was cool, since I didn't think I was that active). she is now in the #2 spot, number one being the webmaster of the site. I'ts not just healty competition anymore--if it ever was. And I confronted her about something else in a NICE way--totally didn't intend for it to be mean--and she got all stuck up about it and ignored me and used a line from one of my writings against me when describing why she was angry. It seems that now she's out of her previous dating drama, she needs something else to occupy her time with. Help?
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Posted: Fri Sep 29, 2006 3:54 pm
If you can, and I say this with caution because I'm going through the same thing in a different way, just ask her why she has to be so competetive(sp?). And tlel her that you aren't wanting to compete just hang out and have fun or whatever. And if it really gets to be a problem tell her that you just aren't enjoying being around her or whatever and just kind of ease away some. Maybe it's just that yall need some space from each other, not like ending the friendship but just giving each other space. Just anything just pray for this whole situation. And I don't mean to pray for her attitude to change, because I honestly can take sides on this since I don't know her but just pray to God for the whole thing and for the answers and stregnth to handle it. And maybe help your friend if she really is trying to occupy her time since her other drama is out of her life.
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Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 4:53 pm
Thanks!! mrgreen And, to tell you the truth, we do kinda need space. But, it's ;ike, she sticks to us like some kind of little bug you can't flick off, like a tick....ew, bad image. *shudder* Well, you get the point. Thanks again! biggrin
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Posted: Sat Sep 30, 2006 5:09 pm
You're welcome and yes I understand.
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Posted: Mon Oct 09, 2006 5:11 pm
Friend crisis solved (yay!) but I've been wondering about something. If you are two-four years older than someone, and they ask you out (presuming they are Christian), what would you do? I've been wondering about that, because I've always said that I wouldn't go out with someone youger than me, but now I'm beginning to wonder....no, I haven't been asked out by someone younger than me, just to make that little detail clear....don't need any awkward questions.... mrgreen
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 4:29 pm
i never had someone ask me out who is 4 years older then me but there where people in the bible who where like more then four years apart.
yeah... mrgreen
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 8:17 pm
flyingemu27 a_bit_off_kilter Ok, here goes. I was at my friends house last night, and one of my old crushes was there. I am extremely attracted to him, and would really like to date him. My problem is this, that he is REALLY not a Christian, and Paul says in the New Testament, not to be "yoked together" with an unbeliever. I'm afraid that if we do go out, that if the relationship were to progress, I would have to break it off, because of his unbelief. I don't know if I would be able to do that. What would you do? I want to do what's right, but its so freakin' hard. HELP!!!!!!!! STOP! THINK! CONSIDER WHAT YOU WILL GET YOURSELF INTO! wahmbulance I am in a relationship with somebody who isn't a christian, and let me tell you...it is very hard to talk to her about God. She doesn't understand half of who I am, and why I choose to do what I do. For instance, when I told her that I only listen to Christian music, she had me listen to her music in an attempt to have me consider buying secular music. It was all good-intentions on her part, though. She just thought that I was missing out on a lot of great music. But she just doesn't understand that I like to listen to music that glorifies God. She doesn't understand that I must no longer comform to the patterns of this world (Romans 12:2). She doesn't understand that I no longer belong to the world, but to Christ. And she doesn't even understand the joy of being with Christ. I've tried to talk with her about Christianity and how wonderful it is, and I'm pretty sure I've told her the plan of salvation...maybe not as clearly as I should have....I'll talk with her again very soon... But anyway, I've just been trying to answer all her questions and stuff, but she seems planted firm in the world. Though there is still time, it's very hard. I don't get a lot of time to talk with her about God and stuff, cause I need to give her space with that stuff, otherwise she'll get tired of it and stop listening to me. She'll think I'm stuffing it down her throat. Do you see the trouble? It's so hard. She's a nice person, though. She's really really nice. I think she's really cool and stuff. We've had some great times. But, she's not a christian, and that makes it so hard for me because Jesus is my LIFE. It's very hard to relate with her. (Oh, and if you read this Shelby, understand that I do enjoy going out with you. I'm just sharing the one downside. 3nodding ) So just be warned. It may end up being harder than you think. ......so what your saying is stay clear from people that don't believe in christ?....that's a bit harsh isn't it? I mean I've been dating wit me girlfriend for like...I don't know...2 years...and yes she is christian but still we don't really talk about christian stuff anyways so....yes it can be hard becuase you will have different veiws of the other person...but if you truly love that person you've got to give them a chance mike....not just blow them off because they haven't really experienced a spiritaul moment....
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 8:26 pm
Anora Galenlas Friend crisis solved (yay!) but I've been wondering about something. If you are two-four years older than someone, and they ask you out (presuming they are Christian), what would you do? I've been wondering about that, because I've always said that I wouldn't go out with someone youger than me, but now I'm beginning to wonder....no, I haven't been asked out by someone younger than me, just to make that little detail clear....don't need any awkward questions.... mrgreen look my friend...you really shouldn't worry if they are christian or not (even though mike says ya have too)...you should worry wether you love that person...if you truly love that person....than that means you love them for who they are..................what I'm trying to say here is that you shouldn't be going around saying "oh that guys nice....but he's not a christian so I can't date him.......I don't really like that guy...but he's a christian so I can totally date him!...." do you see where I'm getting at?
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Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 8:25 pm
okay I am very very very very very boy crazy! This is not good becuz I could be doing much more productive things if I didn't think about this. I tried to pray, but then I forget about it and think about how my life would be if I dated this guy or that guy. I just have to remind myself. Anyone else with this problem? sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri May 04, 2007 8:35 pm
well....I do like getting hugs from me friends (from me friends that happen to be girls) so yes it is a hard thing....just think though....would you MARRY that guy? would you trully love him enough to die for him?
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Posted: Sun May 13, 2007 12:30 pm
When you put it like that of course not! I'm not looking for my husband. I'm only in high school. I'm just boy crazy, I know this may not make complete sense.
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Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 3:54 pm
well im not boy crazy cuz ima guy biggrin
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2007 9:46 pm
Piano_Freek okay I am very very very very very boy crazy! This is not good becuz I could be doing much more productive things if I didn't think about this. I tried to pray, but then I forget about it and think about how my life would be if I dated this guy or that guy. I just have to remind myself. Anyone else with this problem? sweatdrop Hey! i know what you're taling about! I'm not exactly boy crazy but I still know what you mean... I always have to remind myself that the right guy will come too.
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Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 4:49 am
I don't even know why I'm telling a bunch of people I don't even know this... well, yeah, I dunno, I want to write my testimony sometime soon and definitely include this part of my life in it, so maybe telling a bunch of strangers will help me be able to tell people at youth group.. or church. Or something.. but yeah. Anyways..
I'm only 15. The first time I had sex was last summer, so I was 14. I know, I know, I'm young. But in alot of cases, being naive comes with being young. I was pathetic and in love with somebody who I wasn't dating, and who didn't care about my feelings at the time... he does now, but thats an entirely different story. I thought if I put out enough he would fall in love with me.
The pattern I developed with this guy became comfortably numbing to me. We would have sex, and then he would kiss another girl right in front of me, I would cry, he would apologize, and then the cycle started all over again. This continued until just a few months ago.
The details of this story are unnescessary, and would make this story much to long, but after reading this back to myself I've decided I have a question to ask.
I don't regret actually having sex, but I do regret the circumstances in which I had it (I thought that if I put out enough, he would fall in love with me). Now obviously I'm aware sex before marrige is a sin, and I haven't had any more sex since I re-dedicated my life to God in May, but is not regretting it a sin aswell...?
I feel better now.
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