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 Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:33 am
Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat People are only willing to put up with so much. It'd be rather unenjoyable for her, if she tried to stick with it. You kidding? AJ puts Dashy back in line all the time, and Dash let's her. They're already way past that. Friends do not always make the best partners, as many people find out, unfortunately. What's deal-with-able as friends can become unbearable as a couple. Paying bills? Doing housework? Rainbow Dash strikes me as rather irresponsible, and unless we're talking short term casual fling, it'd be destined to burn, unless Dash changed, of course. That'd be boring. AJ likes doing that stuff, hell she does it already for an entire company, one more pony wouldn't be a big deal. Besides, it seems like Rainbow already can do that stuff for herself, she does live alone in a massive cloud house after all. I'd be surprised if she couldn't take care of that stuff herself. There are different ways of dealing with money and responsibility in a relationship, the way that works best (In my experience) is having separate responsibilities, separate bank accounts, you decide beforehand who pays for what, you split big one time expenses, everyone has their own chores and responsibilities, as well as shared chores and responsibilities, but you share everything at home. If someone buys a big a** TV, it belongs to the household, groceries belong to everyone, etc...Point is, you plan all this stuff out first, so there is no friction later over who has to take out the trash or anything like that. I would bet money that AJ would insist on a system like this. This method would probably end up perfect for these two, and it's the reason that every time I've had a relationship end it has never been over money or responsibilities. And Dash wouldn't care about it at all. She's irresponsible, so all the planning in the world would tank the system. What if she wants something that AJ does not? Does she go out and get it anyways, even if it means AJ will not be able to get what she wants? Foreseeable, and as such, weakness of the relationship. Now, I can see Jack and Rarity simply because both are heavily business minded and understand the virtues of planning and responsibilities. They're mature enough to handle a relationship. Dash? No. Twilight? Maybe, though her snarkiness, while amusing, would get old really fast if it was in the context of a relationship. Pinkie Pie? Don't break her heart, because it'll be the last thing you ever do, and it seems like that wouldn't be hard, so no. Fluttershy would just drive me insane with her indecisiveness and weakness, so no for me. Some people like babies (emotionally needy, can't stand up for oneself). And personally, I favor communal accounts with separate discretionary accounts on the side which are funded equally by the couple's decided disposable income. Of course, that requires a partner willing to have more or less than they earn based upon their job if I earn more or less than they do. Not everyone likes that and go for the "I earn more, so I get to spend more" method which sounds like it has fail written all over it.You would think so, wouldn't you? But it actually works out quite well, because if you think about it, what is the person who makes more going to spend it on that the person who makes less won't benefit from? If the person who makes more spends it on a TV or computer, it belongs to the household (one aside here: I've always had my own computer, because I use it for work too.). If one wants to go see a movie, they'll probably pay for the other too, and make a date out of it. And it's not like you can't share some expenses, like if she wants to get a new pair of shoes or something, and I end up making more, I would probably pay for it if I could comfortably do so, if not, I would split the expense with her. Separate bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together, it just eliminates the feeling that someone has a hand in your wallet. And as I've said before, AJ is really good at putting Dashy back in line. And Dash manages to take care of her self obviously, so I fail to see how she couldn't/wouldn't do the same if she was with AJ.
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:35 am
TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat Testament of Death Close Quarters Combat I don't expect it would last, unless Dash suddenly personality shifts into not saying the first thing on her mind at any provocation. She seems to have trouble accepting blame and those things would prove ruinous to a relationship. Dash is awesome, but not really relationship material. I don't know, Applejack seems like the only that would be able to put up with her s**t. Sure, it wouldn't be a cakewalk, but Applejack is the kind of pony to put as much work into something as needed to make it worthwhile. People are only willing to put up with so much. It'd be rather unenjoyable for her, if she tried to stick with it. You kidding? AJ puts Dashy back in line all the time, and Dash let's her. They're already way past that. That definitely is what it seems like :nod: Yeah I think CQC is just haveing a hard time coming to terms with it...he likes to think ponies are all pure and innocent, and doesn't like to play with the idea of them NOT being all pure and innocent... Speaking of...Hey CQC:  And guess what? That's an actual screenshot from an episode. Certainly seems like Faust is trying to drop us little hints huh? Edit: Note the wingboner 3nodding Wingboner is an entirely fan based concept. Fluttershy and Dash both randomly have one or both up, or down, and it fluctuates even in the same scene. This is not evidence except for those who want it to be. #lawyered
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:36 am
Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat People are only willing to put up with so much. It'd be rather unenjoyable for her, if she tried to stick with it. You kidding? AJ puts Dashy back in line all the time, and Dash let's her. They're already way past that. That definitely is what it seems like :nod: Yeah I think CQC is just haveing a hard time coming to terms with it...he likes to think ponies are all pure and innocent, and doesn't like to play with the idea of them NOT being all pure and innocent... Speaking of...Hey CQC: And guess what? That's an actual screenshot from an episode. Certainly seems like Faust is trying to drop us little hints huh? Edit: Note the wingboner 3nodding Wingboner is an entirely fan based concept. Fluttershy and Dash both randomly have one or both up, or down, and it fluctuates even in the same scene. This is not evidence except for those who want it to be. #lawyered Aww lighten up, it's cute and you know it. Edit: Plus, AJ doesn't have her hat on, making her symbolically naked wink
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:37 am
TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat People are only willing to put up with so much. It'd be rather unenjoyable for her, if she tried to stick with it. You kidding? AJ puts Dashy back in line all the time, and Dash let's her. They're already way past that. That definitely is what it seems like :nod: Yeah I think CQC is just haveing a hard time coming to terms with it...he likes to think ponies are all pure and innocent, and doesn't like to play with the idea of them NOT being all pure and innocent... Speaking of...Hey CQC: And guess what? That's an actual screenshot from an episode. Certainly seems like Faust is trying to drop us little hints huh? Edit: Note the wingboner 3nodding CQC is a guy? As am I, hell most people on gaia with female avi's are guys...it always surprises me when people are surprised by this... 
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:44 am
TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat People are only willing to put up with so much. It'd be rather unenjoyable for her, if she tried to stick with it. You kidding? AJ puts Dashy back in line all the time, and Dash let's her. They're already way past that. Friends do not always make the best partners, as many people find out, unfortunately. What's deal-with-able as friends can become unbearable as a couple. Paying bills? Doing housework? Rainbow Dash strikes me as rather irresponsible, and unless we're talking short term casual fling, it'd be destined to burn, unless Dash changed, of course. That'd be boring. AJ likes doing that stuff, hell she does it already for an entire company, one more pony wouldn't be a big deal. Besides, it seems like Rainbow already can do that stuff for herself, she does live alone in a massive cloud house after all. I'd be surprised if she couldn't take care of that stuff herself. There are different ways of dealing with money and responsibility in a relationship, the way that works best (In my experience) is having separate responsibilities, separate bank accounts, you decide beforehand who pays for what, you split big one time expenses, everyone has their own chores and responsibilities, as well as shared chores and responsibilities, but you share everything at home. If someone buys a big a** TV, it belongs to the household, groceries belong to everyone, etc...Point is, you plan all this stuff out first, so there is no friction later over who has to take out the trash or anything like that. I would bet money that AJ would insist on a system like this. This method would probably end up perfect for these two, and it's the reason that every time I've had a relationship end it has never been over money or responsibilities. And Dash wouldn't care about it at all. She's irresponsible, so all the planning in the world would tank the system. What if she wants something that AJ does not? Does she go out and get it anyways, even if it means AJ will not be able to get what she wants? Foreseeable, and as such, weakness of the relationship. Now, I can see Jack and Rarity simply because both are heavily business minded and understand the virtues of planning and responsibilities. They're mature enough to handle a relationship. Dash? No. Twilight? Maybe, though her snarkiness, while amusing, would get old really fast if it was in the context of a relationship. Pinkie Pie? Don't break her heart, because it'll be the last thing you ever do, and it seems like that wouldn't be hard, so no. Fluttershy would just drive me insane with her indecisiveness and weakness, so no for me. Some people like babies (emotionally needy, can't stand up for oneself). And personally, I favor communal accounts with separate discretionary accounts on the side which are funded equally by the couple's decided disposable income. Of course, that requires a partner willing to have more or less than they earn based upon their job if I earn more or less than they do. Not everyone likes that and go for the "I earn more, so I get to spend more" method which sounds like it has fail written all over it.You would think so, wouldn't you? But it actually works out quite well, because if you think about it, what is the person who makes more going to spend it on that the person who makes less won't benefit from? If the person who makes more spends it on a TV or computer, it belongs to the household (one aside here: I've always had my own computer, because I use it for work too.). If one wants to go see a movie, they'll probably pay for the other too, and make a date out of it. And it's not like you can't share some expenses, like if she wants to get a new pair of shoes or something, and I end up making more, I would probably pay for it if I could comfortably do so, if not, I would split the expense with her. Separate bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together, it just eliminates the feeling that someone has a hand in your wallet. And as I've said before, AJ is really good at putting Dashy back in line. And Dash manages to take care of her self obviously, so I fail to see how she couldn't/wouldn't do the same if she was with AJ. Which only works if they people have similar interests. What if say one of them really likes em-ceeing (but the other does not) and drops a grand on a new rig. The partner can't use that. Well, they could, but I hope the buying partner didn't think that they were buying it for the couple, because that's another sign of relationship illness. OH, YOU DON'T WANT TO USE IT? I ONLY GOT IT BECAUSE I THOUGHT WE BOTH WANTED IT. confused Further, what happens if one of the partners is unemployed for an extended period, regardless of reason (illness/injury, traditional choice, obsolescence of field so layed off, et cetera)? Equal money for both people is always the best choice. If they want to get a communal item, they can discuss which person'll drop for it, or even better, split the cost. Trust me, I've had issue with your method. Still bugs me. How can you be a commie and say this? O-o
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:49 am
Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death That definitely is what it seems like :nod: Yeah I think CQC is just haveing a hard time coming to terms with it...he likes to think ponies are all pure and innocent, and doesn't like to play with the idea of them NOT being all pure and innocent... Speaking of...Hey CQC: And guess what? That's an actual screenshot from an episode. Certainly seems like Faust is trying to drop us little hints huh? Edit: Note the wingboner 3nodding CQC is a guy? As am I, hell most people on gaia with female avi's are guys...it always surprises me when people are surprised by this... 
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:58 am
TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death That definitely is what it seems like :nod: Yeah I think CQC is just haveing a hard time coming to terms with it...he likes to think ponies are all pure and innocent, and doesn't like to play with the idea of them NOT being all pure and innocent... Speaking of...Hey CQC: And guess what? That's an actual screenshot from an episode. Certainly seems like Faust is trying to drop us little hints huh? Edit: Note the wingboner 3nodding CQC is a guy? As am I, hell most people on gaia with female avi's are guys...it always surprises me when people are surprised by this... lol, well my battery is damn near dead, so I gotta get goin. See you girls uh... guys, later.
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 11:58 am
Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat Friends do not always make the best partners, as many people find out, unfortunately. What's deal-with-able as friends can become unbearable as a couple. Paying bills? Doing housework? Rainbow Dash strikes me as rather irresponsible, and unless we're talking short term casual fling, it'd be destined to burn, unless Dash changed, of course. That'd be boring. AJ likes doing that stuff, hell she does it already for an entire company, one more pony wouldn't be a big deal. Besides, it seems like Rainbow already can do that stuff for herself, she does live alone in a massive cloud house after all. I'd be surprised if she couldn't take care of that stuff herself. There are different ways of dealing with money and responsibility in a relationship, the way that works best (In my experience) is having separate responsibilities, separate bank accounts, you decide beforehand who pays for what, you split big one time expenses, everyone has their own chores and responsibilities, as well as shared chores and responsibilities, but you share everything at home. If someone buys a big a** TV, it belongs to the household, groceries belong to everyone, etc...Point is, you plan all this stuff out first, so there is no friction later over who has to take out the trash or anything like that. I would bet money that AJ would insist on a system like this. This method would probably end up perfect for these two, and it's the reason that every time I've had a relationship end it has never been over money or responsibilities. And Dash wouldn't care about it at all. She's irresponsible, so all the planning in the world would tank the system. What if she wants something that AJ does not? Does she go out and get it anyways, even if it means AJ will not be able to get what she wants? Foreseeable, and as such, weakness of the relationship. Now, I can see Jack and Rarity simply because both are heavily business minded and understand the virtues of planning and responsibilities. They're mature enough to handle a relationship. Dash? No. Twilight? Maybe, though her snarkiness, while amusing, would get old really fast if it was in the context of a relationship. Pinkie Pie? Don't break her heart, because it'll be the last thing you ever do, and it seems like that wouldn't be hard, so no. Fluttershy would just drive me insane with her indecisiveness and weakness, so no for me. Some people like babies (emotionally needy, can't stand up for oneself). And personally, I favor communal accounts with separate discretionary accounts on the side which are funded equally by the couple's decided disposable income. Of course, that requires a partner willing to have more or less than they earn based upon their job if I earn more or less than they do. Not everyone likes that and go for the "I earn more, so I get to spend more" method which sounds like it has fail written all over it.You would think so, wouldn't you? But it actually works out quite well, because if you think about it, what is the person who makes more going to spend it on that the person who makes less won't benefit from? If the person who makes more spends it on a TV or computer, it belongs to the household (one aside here: I've always had my own computer, because I use it for work too.). If one wants to go see a movie, they'll probably pay for the other too, and make a date out of it. And it's not like you can't share some expenses, like if she wants to get a new pair of shoes or something, and I end up making more, I would probably pay for it if I could comfortably do so, if not, I would split the expense with her. Separate bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together, it just eliminates the feeling that someone has a hand in your wallet. And as I've said before, AJ is really good at putting Dashy back in line. And Dash manages to take care of her self obviously, so I fail to see how she couldn't/wouldn't do the same if she was with AJ. Which only works if they people have similar interests. What if say one of them really likes em-ceeing (but the other does not) and drops a grand on a new rig. The partner can't use that. Well, they could, but I hope the buying partner didn't think that they were buying it for the couple, because that's another sign of relationship illness. OH, YOU DON'T WANT TO USE IT? I ONLY GOT IT BECAUSE I THOUGHT WE BOTH WANTED IT. confused Further, what happens if one of the partners is unemployed for an extended period, regardless of reason (illness/injury, traditional choice, obsolescence of field so layed off, et cetera)? Equal money for both people is always the best choice. If they want to get a communal item, they can discuss which person'll drop for it, or even better, split the cost. Trust me, I've had issue with your method. Still bugs me. How can you be a commie and say this? O-o Listen to what I said: Just because you don't share bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together. Joint bank accounts are a nightmare. This system is actually one based much more on trust than a communal system, you trust that your partner won't drop a grand on anything before consulting you, and in turn, they trust that you both can work out a way in which everyone gets what they want. The only reason I support this system, is that it eliminates that feeling that you don't have control over your assets, (which isn't a problem for me, so long as I'm comfortable, I'm happy...but it tends to be a problem for other people) Effectively nothing is different from any relationship with a shared bank account, the only think that is different is the feeling of control, and some people need that feeling. When people feel like they have control they are less likely to fight over every expense, and more likely to share their assets willingly. It's important to note that this is not a business arrangement, it's a relationship. And as I said, one which requires trust and understanding.
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:02 pm
Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun As am I, hell most people on gaia with female avi's are guys...it always surprises me when people are surprised by this... lol, well my battery is damn near dead, so I gotta get goin. See you girls uh... guys, later. C ya, hope I didn't scare you off >.<
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:05 pm
Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death TANRailgun Testament of Death That definitely is what it seems like :nod: Yeah I think CQC is just haveing a hard time coming to terms with it...he likes to think ponies are all pure and innocent, and doesn't like to play with the idea of them NOT being all pure and innocent... Speaking of...Hey CQC: And guess what? That's an actual screenshot from an episode. Certainly seems like Faust is trying to drop us little hints huh? Edit: Note the wingboner 3nodding CQC is a guy? As am I, hell most people on gaia with female avi's are guys...it always surprises me when people are surprised by this... Granted, I don't always feel that way, so I don't particularly care what you describe me as. Frequently the Q.
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:06 pm
TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat Friends do not always make the best partners, as many people find out, unfortunately. What's deal-with-able as friends can become unbearable as a couple. Paying bills? Doing housework? Rainbow Dash strikes me as rather irresponsible, and unless we're talking short term casual fling, it'd be destined to burn, unless Dash changed, of course. That'd be boring. AJ likes doing that stuff, hell she does it already for an entire company, one more pony wouldn't be a big deal. Besides, it seems like Rainbow already can do that stuff for herself, she does live alone in a massive cloud house after all. I'd be surprised if she couldn't take care of that stuff herself. There are different ways of dealing with money and responsibility in a relationship, the way that works best (In my experience) is having separate responsibilities, separate bank accounts, you decide beforehand who pays for what, you split big one time expenses, everyone has their own chores and responsibilities, as well as shared chores and responsibilities, but you share everything at home. If someone buys a big a** TV, it belongs to the household, groceries belong to everyone, etc...Point is, you plan all this stuff out first, so there is no friction later over who has to take out the trash or anything like that. I would bet money that AJ would insist on a system like this. This method would probably end up perfect for these two, and it's the reason that every time I've had a relationship end it has never been over money or responsibilities. And Dash wouldn't care about it at all. She's irresponsible, so all the planning in the world would tank the system. What if she wants something that AJ does not? Does she go out and get it anyways, even if it means AJ will not be able to get what she wants? Foreseeable, and as such, weakness of the relationship. Now, I can see Jack and Rarity simply because both are heavily business minded and understand the virtues of planning and responsibilities. They're mature enough to handle a relationship. Dash? No. Twilight? Maybe, though her snarkiness, while amusing, would get old really fast if it was in the context of a relationship. Pinkie Pie? Don't break her heart, because it'll be the last thing you ever do, and it seems like that wouldn't be hard, so no. Fluttershy would just drive me insane with her indecisiveness and weakness, so no for me. Some people like babies (emotionally needy, can't stand up for oneself). And personally, I favor communal accounts with separate discretionary accounts on the side which are funded equally by the couple's decided disposable income. Of course, that requires a partner willing to have more or less than they earn based upon their job if I earn more or less than they do. Not everyone likes that and go for the "I earn more, so I get to spend more" method which sounds like it has fail written all over it.You would think so, wouldn't you? But it actually works out quite well, because if you think about it, what is the person who makes more going to spend it on that the person who makes less won't benefit from? If the person who makes more spends it on a TV or computer, it belongs to the household (one aside here: I've always had my own computer, because I use it for work too.). If one wants to go see a movie, they'll probably pay for the other too, and make a date out of it. And it's not like you can't share some expenses, like if she wants to get a new pair of shoes or something, and I end up making more, I would probably pay for it if I could comfortably do so, if not, I would split the expense with her. Separate bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together, it just eliminates the feeling that someone has a hand in your wallet. And as I've said before, AJ is really good at putting Dashy back in line. And Dash manages to take care of her self obviously, so I fail to see how she couldn't/wouldn't do the same if she was with AJ. Which only works if they people have similar interests. What if say one of them really likes em-ceeing (but the other does not) and drops a grand on a new rig. The partner can't use that. Well, they could, but I hope the buying partner didn't think that they were buying it for the couple, because that's another sign of relationship illness. OH, YOU DON'T WANT TO USE IT? I ONLY GOT IT BECAUSE I THOUGHT WE BOTH WANTED IT. confused Further, what happens if one of the partners is unemployed for an extended period, regardless of reason (illness/injury, traditional choice, obsolescence of field so layed off, et cetera)? Equal money for both people is always the best choice. If they want to get a communal item, they can discuss which person'll drop for it, or even better, split the cost. Trust me, I've had issue with your method. Still bugs me. How can you be a commie and say this? O-o Listen to what I said: Just because you don't share bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together. Joint bank accounts are a nightmare. This system is actually one based much more on trust than a communal system, you trust that your partner won't drop a grand on anything before consulting you, and in turn, they trust that you both can work out a way in which everyone gets what they want. The only reason I support this system, is that it eliminates that feeling that you don't have control over your assets, (which isn't a problem for me, so long as I'm comfortable, I'm happy...but it tends to be a problem for other people) Effectively nothing is different from any relationship with a shared bank account, the only think that is different is the feeling of control, and some people need that feeling. When people feel like they have control they are less likely to fight over every expense, and more likely to share their assets willingly. It's important to note that this is not a business arrangement, it's a relationship. And as I said, one which requires trust and understanding. Most people I know are dicks. Rules work better than expectations of trust or understanding. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:10 pm
Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat And Dash wouldn't care about it at all. She's irresponsible, so all the planning in the world would tank the system. What if she wants something that AJ does not? Does she go out and get it anyways, even if it means AJ will not be able to get what she wants? Foreseeable, and as such, weakness of the relationship. Now, I can see Jack and Rarity simply because both are heavily business minded and understand the virtues of planning and responsibilities. They're mature enough to handle a relationship. Dash? No. Twilight? Maybe, though her snarkiness, while amusing, would get old really fast if it was in the context of a relationship. Pinkie Pie? Don't break her heart, because it'll be the last thing you ever do, and it seems like that wouldn't be hard, so no. Fluttershy would just drive me insane with her indecisiveness and weakness, so no for me. Some people like babies (emotionally needy, can't stand up for oneself). And personally, I favor communal accounts with separate discretionary accounts on the side which are funded equally by the couple's decided disposable income. Of course, that requires a partner willing to have more or less than they earn based upon their job if I earn more or less than they do. Not everyone likes that and go for the "I earn more, so I get to spend more" method which sounds like it has fail written all over it.You would think so, wouldn't you? But it actually works out quite well, because if you think about it, what is the person who makes more going to spend it on that the person who makes less won't benefit from? If the person who makes more spends it on a TV or computer, it belongs to the household (one aside here: I've always had my own computer, because I use it for work too.). If one wants to go see a movie, they'll probably pay for the other too, and make a date out of it. And it's not like you can't share some expenses, like if she wants to get a new pair of shoes or something, and I end up making more, I would probably pay for it if I could comfortably do so, if not, I would split the expense with her. Separate bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together, it just eliminates the feeling that someone has a hand in your wallet. And as I've said before, AJ is really good at putting Dashy back in line. And Dash manages to take care of her self obviously, so I fail to see how she couldn't/wouldn't do the same if she was with AJ. Which only works if they people have similar interests. What if say one of them really likes em-ceeing (but the other does not) and drops a grand on a new rig. The partner can't use that. Well, they could, but I hope the buying partner didn't think that they were buying it for the couple, because that's another sign of relationship illness. OH, YOU DON'T WANT TO USE IT? I ONLY GOT IT BECAUSE I THOUGHT WE BOTH WANTED IT. confused Further, what happens if one of the partners is unemployed for an extended period, regardless of reason (illness/injury, traditional choice, obsolescence of field so layed off, et cetera)? Equal money for both people is always the best choice. If they want to get a communal item, they can discuss which person'll drop for it, or even better, split the cost. Trust me, I've had issue with your method. Still bugs me. How can you be a commie and say this? O-o Listen to what I said: Just because you don't share bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together. Joint bank accounts are a nightmare. This system is actually one based much more on trust than a communal system, you trust that your partner won't drop a grand on anything before consulting you, and in turn, they trust that you both can work out a way in which everyone gets what they want. The only reason I support this system, is that it eliminates that feeling that you don't have control over your assets, (which isn't a problem for me, so long as I'm comfortable, I'm happy...but it tends to be a problem for other people) Effectively nothing is different from any relationship with a shared bank account, the only think that is different is the feeling of control, and some people need that feeling. When people feel like they have control they are less likely to fight over every expense, and more likely to share their assets willingly. It's important to note that this is not a business arrangement, it's a relationship. And as I said, one which requires trust and understanding. Most people I know are dicks. Rules work better than expectations of trust or understanding. 3nodding Then don't date dicks. I've had relationship problems, OH GOD have I had problems, but the only time I've ever had a problem with someone over asstes, it was when she demanded shared custody of our dog...which I denied...I love Jack too much, and stupid b***h cheated on me, so she can suck it! scream
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:12 pm
TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat And Dash wouldn't care about it at all. She's irresponsible, so all the planning in the world would tank the system. What if she wants something that AJ does not? Does she go out and get it anyways, even if it means AJ will not be able to get what she wants? Foreseeable, and as such, weakness of the relationship. Now, I can see Jack and Rarity simply because both are heavily business minded and understand the virtues of planning and responsibilities. They're mature enough to handle a relationship. Dash? No. Twilight? Maybe, though her snarkiness, while amusing, would get old really fast if it was in the context of a relationship. Pinkie Pie? Don't break her heart, because it'll be the last thing you ever do, and it seems like that wouldn't be hard, so no. Fluttershy would just drive me insane with her indecisiveness and weakness, so no for me. Some people like babies (emotionally needy, can't stand up for oneself). And personally, I favor communal accounts with separate discretionary accounts on the side which are funded equally by the couple's decided disposable income. Of course, that requires a partner willing to have more or less than they earn based upon their job if I earn more or less than they do. Not everyone likes that and go for the "I earn more, so I get to spend more" method which sounds like it has fail written all over it.You would think so, wouldn't you? But it actually works out quite well, because if you think about it, what is the person who makes more going to spend it on that the person who makes less won't benefit from? If the person who makes more spends it on a TV or computer, it belongs to the household (one aside here: I've always had my own computer, because I use it for work too.). If one wants to go see a movie, they'll probably pay for the other too, and make a date out of it. And it's not like you can't share some expenses, like if she wants to get a new pair of shoes or something, and I end up making more, I would probably pay for it if I could comfortably do so, if not, I would split the expense with her. Separate bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together, it just eliminates the feeling that someone has a hand in your wallet. And as I've said before, AJ is really good at putting Dashy back in line. And Dash manages to take care of her self obviously, so I fail to see how she couldn't/wouldn't do the same if she was with AJ. Which only works if they people have similar interests. What if say one of them really likes em-ceeing (but the other does not) and drops a grand on a new rig. The partner can't use that. Well, they could, but I hope the buying partner didn't think that they were buying it for the couple, because that's another sign of relationship illness. OH, YOU DON'T WANT TO USE IT? I ONLY GOT IT BECAUSE I THOUGHT WE BOTH WANTED IT. confused Further, what happens if one of the partners is unemployed for an extended period, regardless of reason (illness/injury, traditional choice, obsolescence of field so layed off, et cetera)? Equal money for both people is always the best choice. If they want to get a communal item, they can discuss which person'll drop for it, or even better, split the cost. Trust me, I've had issue with your method. Still bugs me. How can you be a commie and say this? O-o Listen to what I said: Just because you don't share bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together. Joint bank accounts are a nightmare. This system is actually one based much more on trust than a communal system, you trust that your partner won't drop a grand on anything before consulting you, and in turn, they trust that you both can work out a way in which everyone gets what they want. The only reason I support this system, is that it eliminates that feeling that you don't have control over your assets, (which isn't a problem for me, so long as I'm comfortable, I'm happy...but it tends to be a problem for other people) Effectively nothing is different from any relationship with a shared bank account, the only think that is different is the feeling of control, and some people need that feeling. When people feel like they have control they are less likely to fight over every expense, and more likely to share their assets willingly. It's important to note that this is not a business arrangement, it's a relationship. And as I said, one which requires trust and understanding. Most people I know are dicks. Rules work better than expectations of trust or understanding. 3nodding Then don't date dicks. I've had relationship problems, OH GOD have I had problems, but the only time I've ever had a problem with someone over asstes, it was when she demanded shared custody of our dog...which I denied...I love Jack too much, and stupid b***h cheated on me, so she can suck it! scream Wasn't talking about my relationship history, just most people I know. In general, most aren't mature enough for serious relationships. Doggy! biggrin
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:14 pm
Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat Which only works if they people have similar interests. What if say one of them really likes em-ceeing (but the other does not) and drops a grand on a new rig. The partner can't use that. Well, they could, but I hope the buying partner didn't think that they were buying it for the couple, because that's another sign of relationship illness. OH, YOU DON'T WANT TO USE IT? I ONLY GOT IT BECAUSE I THOUGHT WE BOTH WANTED IT. confused Further, what happens if one of the partners is unemployed for an extended period, regardless of reason (illness/injury, traditional choice, obsolescence of field so layed off, et cetera)? Equal money for both people is always the best choice. If they want to get a communal item, they can discuss which person'll drop for it, or even better, split the cost. Trust me, I've had issue with your method. Still bugs me. How can you be a commie and say this? O-o Listen to what I said: Just because you don't share bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together. Joint bank accounts are a nightmare. This system is actually one based much more on trust than a communal system, you trust that your partner won't drop a grand on anything before consulting you, and in turn, they trust that you both can work out a way in which everyone gets what they want. The only reason I support this system, is that it eliminates that feeling that you don't have control over your assets, (which isn't a problem for me, so long as I'm comfortable, I'm happy...but it tends to be a problem for other people) Effectively nothing is different from any relationship with a shared bank account, the only think that is different is the feeling of control, and some people need that feeling. When people feel like they have control they are less likely to fight over every expense, and more likely to share their assets willingly. It's important to note that this is not a business arrangement, it's a relationship. And as I said, one which requires trust and understanding. Most people I know are dicks. Rules work better than expectations of trust or understanding. 3nodding Then don't date dicks. I've had relationship problems, OH GOD have I had problems, but the only time I've ever had a problem with someone over asstes, it was when she demanded shared custody of our dog...which I denied...I love Jack too much, and stupid b***h cheated on me, so she can suck it! scream Wasn't talking about my relationship history, just most people I know. In general, most aren't mature enough for serious relationships. Doggy! biggrin They're out there, they're just hard to find.
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Posted: Wed Nov 02, 2011 12:17 pm
TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat TANRailgun Close Quarters Combat Which only works if they people have similar interests. What if say one of them really likes em-ceeing (but the other does not) and drops a grand on a new rig. The partner can't use that. Well, they could, but I hope the buying partner didn't think that they were buying it for the couple, because that's another sign of relationship illness. OH, YOU DON'T WANT TO USE IT? I ONLY GOT IT BECAUSE I THOUGHT WE BOTH WANTED IT. confused Further, what happens if one of the partners is unemployed for an extended period, regardless of reason (illness/injury, traditional choice, obsolescence of field so layed off, et cetera)? Equal money for both people is always the best choice. If they want to get a communal item, they can discuss which person'll drop for it, or even better, split the cost. Trust me, I've had issue with your method. Still bugs me. How can you be a commie and say this? O-o Listen to what I said: Just because you don't share bank accounts doesn't mean you don't spend your money together. Joint bank accounts are a nightmare. This system is actually one based much more on trust than a communal system, you trust that your partner won't drop a grand on anything before consulting you, and in turn, they trust that you both can work out a way in which everyone gets what they want. The only reason I support this system, is that it eliminates that feeling that you don't have control over your assets, (which isn't a problem for me, so long as I'm comfortable, I'm happy...but it tends to be a problem for other people) Effectively nothing is different from any relationship with a shared bank account, the only think that is different is the feeling of control, and some people need that feeling. When people feel like they have control they are less likely to fight over every expense, and more likely to share their assets willingly. It's important to note that this is not a business arrangement, it's a relationship. And as I said, one which requires trust and understanding. Most people I know are dicks. Rules work better than expectations of trust or understanding. 3nodding Then don't date dicks. I've had relationship problems, OH GOD have I had problems, but the only time I've ever had a problem with someone over asstes, it was when she demanded shared custody of our dog...which I denied...I love Jack too much, and stupid b***h cheated on me, so she can suck it! scream Wasn't talking about my relationship history, just most people I know. In general, most aren't mature enough for serious relationships. Doggy! biggrin They're out there, they're just hard to find. Hell, I know I'm not mature enough. At least, not in that way. Until I stop feeling like a relationship is a comparative waste of resources (time, money, emotion), then I'm going to avoid entering into them, because that'd be rather selfish. And I used to want to have kids, but now that my sister is over very frequently with her baby, I'm pretty sure I do not. Drains the life force out of me like a Shin-Ra facility and I don't even change the thing.
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