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| Telling Parent/Gardian |
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33% |
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| Telling Friends |
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1% |
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| Knowing who to tell/who NOT to tell |
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| Finding the perfect time to tell them |
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5% |
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| Two or more of the above |
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46% |
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 Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 11:41 am
jene-chan Cisum I've been comming out slowly now for almost a year... THus far it's been pretty easy, although i've only told friends and on relitives yet. I know personally the hardest part will be tell my mother. Only becaus ei'm her only daughter and well, she'll want me to marry a man a be happy and "normal"... How about all of you? What's the hardest part of coming out, do you think? Feel free to describe any personal experiance, or future fears... The hardest thing about coming out is telling your parents/ Gardian, and when to tell them. I have not told my parents that I am bi yet, because I do not know how they are going to react, and when to tell them. have you tried hints?
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Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 11:50 am
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Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 11:53 am
ive tried hinting to my mother... the page before this one explains it on my post. she still doesnt get it. whats better than hints besides coming out?
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Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 1:53 pm
I dont' know but sometimes I just wish I would'nt have said anything till I graduated and moved out. She treats me like im some kinda disease or something.
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Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 2:13 pm
I think the hardest part is definitely coming out to your parents, I tried, and I only felt ashamed of myself, as if it wasn't the way they wanted me to be. But I know thats not how they feel. . . sad Hopefully. After I told them, they never brought it up again, and I think they still don't believe it. Not sure if I should talk to them about it.
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Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 2:14 pm
What are some good hints?
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Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 2:15 pm
Palegentleman What are some good hints? asking.. " do you support gay/les/bi people?"
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Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 2:23 pm
It really depends on your parents. For instance if your 'rents are Atheist they probly won't have a problem. If there supposedly Christians then they may have a problem. My aunt thinks shes all that cause she claims to be a Christian dosn't the Bible say that God loves everyone regardless? If he loves me and she dosn't then that shows what kind of Christian she really is dosn't it. Sorry thas a lil off topic but shes been really buggin me lately. crying
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Posted: Sat May 07, 2005 12:58 pm
pretty much everyone who knows me [and lots of people who dont] at my school, know im bi. hell, im in a Gay Straight Alliance club and i walk around wearing "i love lesbians" shirts lol. but i have yet to tell my family = and last night, a "family friend" type of person found out... lets just say, my gay best friend was joking around and the "family friend" was right there, and he was so obvious about it..so yeah.. i was really upset and i couldnt help but to cry.. and she told me everything was going to be ok and stuff like that and she said she wouldnt tell my mom... but.. she's not exactly the type of person who keeps secrets. shes 23 with a 1 yr old son, and another on the way. annnd idk. she acts like we are the greastest of friends, but we really arent. she used to babysit me since i was like 5 but then...she got a life and stuff.... but yeah, im scared about whats going to happen. im afraid she's going to act weird around me now. and im afraid shes going to tell my mom.. i dont know how shes going to react and i dont want to find out. shes one of those people that think "you have to have some sort of bad experience in your life that makes you gay. or that its just a faze." but shes not homophobic.... and she probly wouldnt let me sleep over chicks houses anymore sad
i dont know what to do....
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Posted: Sat May 07, 2005 6:17 pm
I didn't have a problem telling my Mom, she was actually the first to know because she asked me one day and "yes" just slipped out. All my friends accepted it, my best friend already knew and practically forced me to tell her.
The hardest dilemna I have is telling my Track and Cross-Country teams. I love the girls on my team, and I feel like I'm almost hiding something from them by not saying anything. Almost everyone in drama club and the theatre knows, but my team is clueless.
On one hand, they really don't need to know. But on the other hand, I know it would do so much good to let them know, "hey, Tracy has been your friend for four years now, and she is gay. She is alright, so what's the big deal with it?" I know it is lame I feel a moral obligation to come out, but I do.
I think the only way we are really going to get people to accept us is to let them know that we do exist, that we are their family members, loved ones, friends, teammates. But anyway, I'm done spewing out my views.
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Posted: Wed May 11, 2005 3:49 am
The hardest part is telling my mum I suppose... I've told my dad, but my mum has a knack in reacting in a strange way I don't seem to understand... After a while of thinking about her reaction I do, but at the moment I just get angry or really sad... That's whats the hard part...
Its not hard in any other way because its accepted in my family... Luckily, my friends are just acting normally still, now that they know.. My sister and sister-in-law know too...
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2005 10:13 am
Well I believe that if anyone doesn't approve of the sexuality of the person they should remeber that it doesn't affect them unless they allow it to. stare What I mean is that you are the master of your own destiny and that if you choose to let something that is as simple as the type of sex a person prefers affect you I believe that individual has no life of their own.
domokun What I'm saying is that you can't let the sexuality of a person affect the type of person you believe he or she is it issimple pathetic xp .
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Posted: Thu May 12, 2005 5:02 pm
I don't think i'll tell my parents till I'm not living at home any more. I'm Catholic and I would like to have a place to crash at night when I'm disowned.
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Posted: Sat May 14, 2005 3:26 pm
I came out to my mom 2 years ago, dad last summer...mom seemed cool, but she totally grilled me on how I know and stuff, with dad, we were driving home from Oregon and I was all...dad, you know my friend sara that is always over...well, we've been dating for almost 3 months and he just looked over and was all...ok, like he was disappointed or something, he's weird but my mom is ok with it, my friends are totally supportive though biggrin I heart my friends
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Posted: Sun May 15, 2005 3:21 pm
I came out to my mom last year and she took it quite well. I mean she just couldn't believe that me her daughter was Bi but she saild she would love me all the same because I was her daughter and she loved me no matter what. I told my friends and some of them have not talked to me since. I told my boyfriend and he said he didn't mind that he would love me no matter what, he said that being Bi was an okay thing. Unlike my last boyfriend who told his dad that he turned me straight. I think that coming out is a long process but after we do it we kinda feel better about it. I told my grandparents and they still don't believe me but my mom told me to give it time. I have yet to tell my dad, but I have a fear that he won't love me anymore if I did tell him...
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