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 Posted: Sun Jan 24, 2010 1:32 pm
Well I can understand why. Girls will always blame themselves first when something goes wrong in a relationship. And unfortunately some guys will use this against girls to get what they want out of the relationship. And it will become a mind set thing where she's always saying, "Oh it's my fault he left me! We never had sex/went on dates/bough him anything." And so on and so forth. And honestly that is just too much for one person.
A lot of girls feel that it is their responsibility to keep a relationship working as long as they can. But it's not and never should the work of the relationship be one-sided. It should be equal, even though sometimes I understand that one person will love the other one more, but it should still be 50-50 no matter how you look at it.
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Posted: Sun Jan 24, 2010 2:38 pm
broken_bleeding_angel Well I can understand why. Girls will always blame themselves first when something goes wrong in a relationship. And unfortunately some guys will use this against girls to get what they want out of the relationship. And it will become a mind set thing where she's always saying, "Oh it's my fault he left me! We never had sex/went on dates/bough him anything." And so on and so forth. And honestly that is just too much for one person. A lot of girls feel that it is their responsibility to keep a relationship working as long as they can. But it's not and never should the work of the relationship be one-sided. It should be equal, even though sometimes I understand that one person will love the other one more, but it should still be 50-50 no matter how you look at it. Exactly! And, my friend doesnt even live near the guy who left her for another girl and shes blaming herself. I'm like 'YOU DONT EVEN LIVE NEAR THEM. If YOU had 2 choices, one that you could only see like once a month or one you saw every day, which would you choose?!' and of course, she still blames herself entirely. No blame on him at all. I want to slap her...
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Posted: Sun Jan 24, 2010 2:46 pm
Ah I see. Yeah a lot of long distance relationships don't work out for young couples. Mostly because they can't be loyal or they find the distance hard.
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Posted: Sun Jan 24, 2010 3:34 pm
broken_bleeding_angel Ah I see. Yeah a lot of long distance relationships don't work out for young couples. Mostly because they can't be loyal or they find the distance hard. Yeah. Before I go to college, if I have a boyfriend, I'm breaking up with him. Doesn't matter how much I may love him, if I'm going to college, I'm starting completely fresh. I don't wanna be one of those people who are like 'we'll keep in touch!' while having a secret boyfriend at the college.
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Posted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 4:19 am
The_Brightest_Moon broken_bleeding_angel Ah I see. Yeah a lot of long distance relationships don't work out for young couples. Mostly because they can't be loyal or they find the distance hard. Yeah. Before I go to college, if I have a boyfriend, I'm breaking up with him. Doesn't matter how much I may love him, if I'm going to college, I'm starting completely fresh. I don't wanna be one of those people who are like 'we'll keep in touch!' while having a secret boyfriend at the college. Well it doesn't necessarily mean you'll be like that. Though the chances of liking someone new are very high when you're in college or a new environment. Simply because you are open to more options and have a lot more freedom to act on your own wishes then you did back in high school when you were living at home.
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Posted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 12:03 pm
>.>;;;;
I admit it. I have changed a hell of a lot. But not for my lover. For me. To better attain a me that is true to form in all places. But my lover is the reason I started to feel that change was necessary.
No, assuming something is wrong with yourself is a horrible thing to do, but all girls are inundated with this psychosis from an early age. (totally suffered from it myself.) But mine was because I was from a lower class family and felt that the guy I really liked in high school (twas love at first sight damn it.) would never want anything to do with me. So I sat back and watched him date girls who treated him like crap. >.<;;;
Met up with him in college, he was not seeing anyone. >.> saw my chance and snatched it up. However one of his ex's who treated him like crap, decided to interfere and cause him to be unfaithful in our relationship. We hadn't even been dating that long and she could not bare the fact that he was with someone else so in order to confuse him she threw herself at him. =.= He being weak against the familiar touch cheated on me. However being that I was not going to give up so easily, I instigated certain circumstances and made sure to prove myself as a better girl. Me as me. Not pretending to be someone else. The underhanded, devious, mean evil b***h who is possessive an nasty.
I won. Being myself. Five years later, we're on the verge of being engaged(I've been dragging my feet about it.) He landed a great job and I'm going back to school.
Being the real slightly less than sweet me, with all my imperfections has landed me happily with I guy I fell for my sophomore year of high school. (his freshman year.)
Proof that if you're really yourself, no matter how crazy some think you are, the right person will come along and find you. ^w^
>.> I totally rambled thare. Sorry! *hides off somewhere else*
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Posted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 12:26 pm
Thank you, Broken! That's exactly what I like to hear. Girls need to be happy with who they are. I still struggle with this, but I actually think I'm a fairly decent person. I'm happy with who I am. I don't understand why girls try to change for a guy. It's ridiculous.
@Rinial: That is very inspirational. =3
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Posted: Tue Jan 26, 2010 8:42 pm
Which is why my bestie doesnt know if this guy shes "friends with benefits" loikes her for her body (she has D's) or her personality which is amazing! no homo
any advice?
oh! And she wants to actually call him a boyfriend instead of just a friend thing
what should she do?
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Posted: Tue Jan 26, 2010 11:15 pm
Dear OP,
I love you. Thank you for writing this.
Love Sarah.
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Posted: Fri Jan 29, 2010 7:03 pm
Rinial Sisterdragon: That's alright. But that is a rather good example/story to inspire other girls on here. Thank you for sharing that with us. ^w^
HaWkGiRL: Lol. You're very welcome. And I agree it is rather ridiculous.
twistedmx: Ah, "friends with benefits" is just a nice way of saying ******** buddies. There is no real relationship there. He's not a boyfriend and she's not his girlfriend. They're just each other's ******** toys. If she wants to change that then she needs to sit down with him and talk about it on a mature level. She needs to ask him straight up what he expects from her and if he wants to establish a sound and meaningful relationship with her.
If he doesn't, be prepared to be on stand-by for her with some of her favourite food, funny movies and a good solid shoulder to cry on. Ok?
SarahlovesDavidH: Lol. You're welcome Sarah. And thank you, I love you as well. XD.
~broken.
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Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:55 am
Fer sure man :]
im always there for her =D
Thank you for the advice <3
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Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 5:18 pm
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Posted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 1:04 pm
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Posted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 2:24 pm
I agree with OP :3
Although I've had this low self esteem I've always thought that a boy should like me for me. If I acted differently, lost 20lbs or something and whatnot I bet I'd get a boyfriend but that's not the point of life isn't it? If I started wearing more makeup than I want and dressing skimpy... I wouldn't be me anymore. And I know I'm not one to dress skimpy or act meek [anymore] or slutty just for a guy. I have a close friend of mine [a guy] who I believe likes me and for him I don't and I've NEVER acted like someone I'm not. While I had this other guy that I liked and I started acting like something I'm not [ was very meek at the time except to close friends ] and in the end.. what? He said to me that I'm ugly and fat and whatnot and we stopped being friends.
Getting a boyfriend seems like the point of life nowadays.
I don't think it's even the most important because boys are distracting with their cuteness or sexiness when I need to concentrate >: xD
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Posted: Tue Feb 02, 2010 5:20 pm
broken_bleeding_angel "i dont liak u nao! D:< i liaked u b4 u changied! y r u sew diff?" I lol'd.
Well, chuckled.
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