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 Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 7:54 am
Sounds like me. Forever single with no plan for the future. I'm in between jobs at the moment, never went to college, and still live at home though I love my family so that's not bad.
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Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 9:04 pm
At least living in a small town is a valid excuse. I'm 22, male, make 17.32/hour, and live in Eugene Oregon a college town of over 100,000 people. I'm not bad looking, 6'3" 180pounds athletic, shower daily, women always hit on me in the store and at the bar but whenever i try to get a phone number or arrange a date i always get a "sorry i'm busy that night" or "i have a boy friend" or that number you call to get an automated rejection. This happened 3 times in one day just last week. I mean I'd understand if was conceded or arrogant, but when i talk to people i listen to what they have to say, look them in the eye, i don't argue or always agree, and i tend to only speak about myself if its relevant, and i ask lots of questions.
I even started volunteering just to try to meet people.
It's like because I'm a nice guy i have a tattoo on my forehead that says "f*#% with me" that only the opposite sex can see. If it wasn't for alcohol i probably would have gone on a killing spree a long time ago. In public i always have a smile, stand upright with good posture.
Long story short i think some people are just destined to be alone. I've been a lot happier since i stopped trying to get dates, giving up on finding someone altogether has granted me a sort of serenity that, though depressing, has brought me a relaxing contentment i haven't felt in about five years.
So to anyone in this thread good luck finding someone and if you give up on looking i hope you find contentment.
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Posted: Tue Sep 23, 2008 7:16 am
Sleeping_Sage At least living in a small town is a valid excuse. I'm 22, male, make 17.32/hour, and live in Eugene Oregon a college town of over 100,000 people. I'm not bad looking, 6'3" 180pounds athletic, shower daily, women always hit on me in the store and at the bar but whenever i try to get a phone number or arrange a date i always get a "sorry i'm busy that night" or "i have a boy friend" or that number you call to get an automated rejection. This happened 3 times in one day just last week. I mean I'd understand if was conceded or arrogant, but when i talk to people i listen to what they have to say, look them in the eye, i don't argue or always agree, and i tend to only speak about myself if its relevant, and i ask lots of questions. I even started volunteering just to try to meet people. It's like because I'm a nice guy i have a tattoo on my forehead that says "f*#% with me" that only the opposite sex can see. If it wasn't for alcohol i probably would have gone on a killing spree a long time ago. In public i always have a smile, stand upright with good posture. Long story short i think some people are just destined to be alone. I've been a lot happier since i stopped trying to get dates, giving up on finding someone altogether has granted me a sort of serenity that, though depressing, has brought me a relaxing contentment i haven't felt in about five years. So to anyone in this thread good luck finding someone and if you give up on looking i hope you find contentment.
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Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 5:18 pm
every story i read here, is just like me, yay!! i'm not alone!! 28, single, living with parents, working for my dads business, i have a degree, have been denied from grad school 3 times, sigh, I really do hope something exciting happens to me soon... xp
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Posted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 6:29 pm
God i miss being single sad
You know being in a relationship is not always what it's cracked up 2 be.
I live in a fairly small town but i live in a like dump of a state utah blech
its where people go to have their personalities die.
I work 50 hours a week. A corporate slave because i had to become an over achiever and go to college and then rack up 90 k in loans. hurray for me
i'm basically and indentured servant for the rest of my life smile
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Posted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 8:27 pm
I got married when I was 19, had a kid at 21, left the @$$hole three years later, went back home to live with Mom to take care of my grandfather ...
Then I went back to school, found my calling, and pursued it as a single parent. The year my son turned 18 -- I met the love of my life. We married a year later and are still together going on 8 years.
Point is: It can take a long time. You just never know. I would recommend finding something you like that puts you in direct (non-Internet) contact with other humans who like the same thing. I found my husband role-playing. Yeah, we're co-nerds. mrgreen
Nerd Love.
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Posted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 8:31 pm
Sleeping_Sage At least living in a small town is a valid excuse. I'm 22, male, make 17.32/hour, and live in Eugene Oregon a college town of over 100,000 people. I'm not bad looking, 6'3" 180pounds athletic, shower daily, women always hit on me in the store and at the bar but whenever i try to get a phone number or arrange a date i always get a "sorry i'm busy that night" or "i have a boy friend" or that number you call to get an automated rejection. This happened 3 times in one day just last week. I mean I'd understand if was conceded or arrogant, but when i talk to people i listen to what they have to say, look them in the eye, i don't argue or always agree, and i tend to only speak about myself if its relevant, and i ask lots of questions. I even started volunteering just to try to meet people. It's like because I'm a nice guy i have a tattoo on my forehead that says "f*#% with me" that only the opposite sex can see. If it wasn't for alcohol i probably would have gone on a killing spree a long time ago. In public i always have a smile, stand upright with good posture. Long story short i think some people are just destined to be alone. I've been a lot happier since i stopped trying to get dates, giving up on finding someone altogether has granted me a sort of serenity that, though depressing, has brought me a relaxing contentment i haven't felt in about five years. So to anyone in this thread good luck finding someone and if you give up on looking i hope you find contentment. LOL, shower daily! Seriously, the volunteer thing is smart. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 10:26 pm
Aurora Avalon My life basically sucks I have no job and I am in college. I live with my grandmother in her home town. There are not many jobs where I live and no decent guys either that not already taken. ~sighs~ I don't want to be around hunters, fishers, or anything think that dinner has to be shot and killed. I wish I had been able to live with my grandmother. She was a tough old broad and went through much of her life without a man. My grandfather was a real pistol and drank too much. Ruined her opinion of men thereafter. But she never let that interfear with her ability to respect men and have them as friends only. Sometimes it takes time to find the right one. A friend of mine was 33 before she found mister right and she didn't weaste time "searching" through the riffraff to find him. She said she'd rather wait for mister right to find her. He did. Some where among all those hunters is a gentleman, who shares some of your views, waiting to find you. You'll see. Don't give up. biggrin
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Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 4:44 pm
Yeah, I'm 27 and a single mom. I live on my own and have only had one boyfriend. The guy I like now is freakin' what I've been looking for, but I'm terrified that he won't feel the same way about me. Gar! Why is this stuff so difficult? I've been single for at least 3 years and feel out of place with people. Despite that, I still keep on going and hanging out with people and having fun. sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Sep 26, 2008 10:31 pm
Marriage isn't any great shakes, either. You spend most of it unhappy and arguing and, if you can't cut the mustard, you end up alone... and regretting that, too!
Maybe we're all better off alone... Or maybe we shouldn't be so hung up about casual sex? Or maybe we should look into cloning a little closer.
What if there were no men? Wouldn't that be great?!?
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Posted: Sat Sep 27, 2008 12:18 am
Hang in there I'm sure things ill get better for you. I too didn't find the one right for me until this year(being 27 years old). He's younger than me at 22, but I kept my options open this time. I had back luck dating guys older(about 10 yrs older) than me, which most people suggested. I'm also in college and not until I am done will I have the job I want, instead of just getting by. Jobs are also hard to get here. My best advice is keep some options open with dating and don't look too hard, because when you look they never are there, love happens when you don't look for it. Also, relocation to a different city/town may work, if possible when you are down with college.
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Posted: Sat Sep 27, 2008 12:41 pm
Aurora Avalon Revy-2-Hands Aurora Avalon My life basically sucks I have no job and I am in college. I live with my grandmother in her home town. There are not many jobs where I live and no decent guys either that not already taken. ~sighs~ I don't want to be around hunters, fishers, or anything think that dinner has to be shot and killed. Same here never dated, never had my first kiss never had my first boyfriend so still i beat you I am a VIRGIN and besides growing up for me was hell, I was teased, kicked, tripped and stabbed in the leg, I also had my head banged against a brick wall in 8th grade. Where I live all the guys that are my age are married its a small town In mississippi and there isn't anything to do except go to the library for two hours a day.
Wait, Mississippi? Where in MS might I ask...? >_> I know all to well of that one, I was down there and getting proposed to left and right....Of course, I declined. Especially when it was a 60yr old african-american guy... I worked at a fruit stand in Laurel. I kept getting hounded, especially by the regulars.
I've had plenty of kisses, dated once, and the person I'm in love with, I've been in love with them for 9 years. Nothing will happen, but that's beside the point.
I grew up abused, raped, neglected, abandoned, starved...I was raised as a fighter by militant parents, bred to be an emotionless shell. I went into foster care and later joined a gang. I've been shot, hung, attacked with knives, and in plenty of accidents. The tattoo on my right hand and the gashing scar on my leg is proof enough of that one. Mistakes of youth that I'm working for redemption for...
Later on in my younger days, I met the person I'm in love with and I bettered myself for them. Never really worked to get them to date me, but it worked in a way that I matured and have continued on a good path with my life. Joining the Army is the biggest improvement.
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Posted: Sat Sep 27, 2008 11:46 pm
Just to counterpoint the unfairness:
I'm 37, unattractive*, rarely employed and horribly rude to... well just about every woman I've ever met. These days, anyway.
I get hit on a lot more now than when I was young, just out of college with a promising degree, well-taken care of, 30 lbs thinner and much more polite to women in general. In fact, I was NEVER hit on when I was just out of college... in Portland, Oregon, as a matter of fact. AND I was cute back then, too (not jowly and snaggle-toothed like I am, now!)
What does that say?
I'm telling you, women do NOT need men! Support cloning.
*I slouch, belch in public, scratch myself absent-mindedly, shave haphazardly, dress poorly, drive an old car and have eyebrows that meet in the middle. I'm fat, lazy and possessed of a nose that no longer fits my face. One eye is bigger than the other and my hair is never combed. I've inherited a cross-bite and I have a greasy complexion. Yesterday, a woman I'd never met asked me if she could stroke my hair. I told her to go do something rude to herself and right then and there a perky young lady next to me tried to strike up a friendly conversation with me (and offered to exchange numbers.) When I was thin and chivalrous, I couldn't get the time of day! What the hell is going on?!?
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Posted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 2:51 pm
Aurora Avalon My life basically sucks I have no job and I am in college. I live with my grandmother in her home town. There are not many jobs where I live and no decent guys either that not already taken. ~sighs~ I don't want to be around hunters, fishers, or anything think that dinner has to be shot and killed. Too bad you weren't bi... xd I'll be 25 next month.
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Posted: Sun Sep 28, 2008 4:00 pm
I'm gonna be 22, and although I'm dating, and things are going great. I have an ever increasing sinking feeling that he's not the one. Seriously, I finally find someone who doesn't make me sink, and wouldn't stab me in the back, and am plagued by the idea that our days together are numbered; something about having different dreams and goals! mad
On top of that college graduation is 8 years away. My job allows me enough money to be short almost every month. (2/3rds of it go to gas.) I still live with my parents, and the only friends I have are ones that are so mentally/emotionally distant. Ugh! Everyone I go to school with is young, dumb, and not driven at all, or too old to relate to.
I wish I could change my life faster. I think I'm depressed simply because I feel stuck. sad
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