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 Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2004 12:34 pm
hmm well dont tell her about the bed part...take it a step at a time, like, first tell her about yourself, then a month later or something tell her about tabby- that way she's not too shocked =D
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2004 12:41 pm
(doublepost crap sorry)
uhh yeah as far as my problem goes... i really like my friend andrew...but there's a few problems...i cant tell if he likes other men or not. i mean, we're about as close as straight people can be...we're going to visit new york together this winter vacation, etc, but i dont exactly know what to do or say. i try to be subtle and stuff...but subtlety is overrated XD. for example- the other day, i couldnt find a chair and he was like "adham *points to lap*" so i sat in his lap for a few minutes, then i sat next to him on the chair and watched the movie XD. we can be so...homosexual (for lack of a better term)- but i dont know if he really is or not...it leaves me stuck between a rock and a hard place. i know for a fact that my parents dont know about me (and probably never will), and considering i dont know if he likes me, his parents dont know either. i want to tell him...but then i'd be afraid of losing his friendship if he did turn out to be homophobic or something... crying
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2004 1:08 pm
adm-kun (doublepost crap sorry) uhh yeah as far as my problem goes... i really like my friend andrew...but there's a few problems...i cant tell if he likes other men or not. i mean, we're about as close as straight people can be...we're going to visit new york together this winter vacation, etc, but i dont exactly know what to do or say. i try to be subtle and stuff...but subtlety is overrated XD. for example- the other day, i couldnt find a chair and he was like "adham *points to lap*" so i sat in his lap for a few minutes, then i sat next to him on the chair and watched the movie XD. we can be so...homosexual (for lack of a better term)- but i dont know if he really is or not...it leaves me stuck between a rock and a hard place. i know for a fact that my parents dont know about me (and probably never will), and considering i dont know if he likes me, his parents dont know either. i want to tell him...but then i'd be afraid of losing his friendship if he did turn out to be homophobic or something... crying You can't realy know intill you ask him or he tells you, If you realy are close friends then it should not matter if you are homo, he will act weird for a little while but he will get over it. If his realy gay then you coming out to him will help him come out too. buit remember that guys will be guys ...you know how guys act around guys sometimes there hormones get to them and ya...and remember this, a thing that i have confurmed over and over again, to admite is to create reality, so when you finaly admite you are gay to him then you realy will be gay to him till then your gayness to him is just a passing thought.hope i helped
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Posted: Wed Dec 22, 2004 2:14 pm
Jyger OK, I have another question: I have a want to be a girl instead of a guy. Is that weird? If not, how much would it cost to have the ol' switch-a-roo? It's not common, but it's not wierd. Transsexuality goes a but deeper than getting a sex change. It's more that you KNOW you were supposed to be born the opposite sex, like a girl in a guy's body...
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Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2004 1:21 am
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Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2004 10:14 am
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Posted: Thu Dec 30, 2004 11:19 am
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Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2005 1:50 pm
Jyger Black_Rain Jyger OK, I have another question: I have a want to be a girl instead of a guy. Is that weird? If not, how much would it cost to have the ol' switch-a-roo? GRS (Gender Reassignment Surgery) can cost from 12,000 to 150,000 depending on the quality and the surgeon. ...Umm, or I can try throwing a coin in the fountain at the mall, make a wish, and see what happens. That's more likely to work...which is so sad, I think I'm gonna cry. crying its soooo sad they need to make it cheaper for people ... I mean really...(i don't want to trans but i ffel sorry for the peps that want to and can't)
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Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2005 7:01 pm
Yeah I just told my best friend that i thought i was gay. Then he told me that he was bi. I was loke eek eek eek eek for like 10 minutes....i never wouldve guessed. I like him cause hes the only bi friend i have but sadly he has a girlfriend.... but i hope hes serious about it and not lying to me....btw, he is REALLY cute....can anyone help me? E-mail me at my Gaia account.
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Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2005 8:26 pm
my dad once said if any of us r bi or gay, he'd put us in a hospital (if u get me, if not he's gonna beat us untill we need a hospital) i found out he was honest after he did it to my brother, but my brother divorced my parents afterwards, the problem is i wanna tell him but i don't wanna go into hospital or divorce them (my dads a d**k yeah, but my moms really kind to me) so how am i gonna tell my parents?
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Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2005 9:21 pm
dont_cry_for_pain my dad once said if any of us r bi or gay, he'd put us in a hospital (if u get me, if not he's gonna beat us untill we need a hospital) i found out he was honest after he did it to my brother, but my brother divorced my parents afterwards, the problem is i wanna tell him but i don't wanna go into hospital or divorce them (my dads a d**k yeah, but my moms really kind to me) so how am i gonna tell my parents? Lemmie think about this one ... ummm ... I probably advise you not telling them ... in this case ... until you are free from them. Moved out ... in college ... if they aren't paying for it. If you must though I encourage the one parent angle. Perhaps your mother she appears to be the nicer of the two. Ensure ground rules for discussion ... Then tell her how you feel. That you are gay or bi. Allow her to soak it in. Explain to her why you are Gay or Bi. She'll want to know. Ensure her that you aren't a pervert ... etc ... That you still love her reguardless of how she feels, but you can't change who you are. Okay I'm getting sleepy ... my advice is getting lame ... lemmie think about this ... I'll think of something better. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Jan 13, 2005 4:34 am
ok i want to tell my mom im bi but im not sure how too go about it i mean i could tell my loudmouth sister and let that be that but it sounds 2 easy btw my cool sis knows shes like meh best friend
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Posted: Thu Jan 13, 2005 4:44 am
blakart ok i want to tell my mom im bi but im not sure how too go about it i mean i could tell my loudmouth sister and let that be that but it sounds 2 easy btw my cool sis knows shes like meh best friend It's great that you have a sibling that you can confide in. biggrin Hmm,.... you want to tell you mom, eh? Well first, consider a few things: 1.) Do you sort of have an idea of how she would react? If so, then try to build your approach around that prediction 2.) Understand the consequences of telling her. If you're fully ready to handle any criticisms or judgements that she may discuss with you afterwards, then more power to you. biggrin 3.) Think of why you feel the need to open up to her now. Just because you want to be honest about your sexual orientation,nopw might not be the best of times. (i.e.: a stressful period of time in the family occuring right now. might want to wait until things cool down a bit) 4.) Love yourself. And reassure her that you are still you and always will be. 3nodding This is just a small part of you, and doesn't define you as a human being. You have many more complex sides to your personality and the way she and others look at you should not be based off of this, alone. biggrin Hope that helps. whee What you say and how you say it is ultimately up to you. I hope things go well and good luck! heart
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Posted: Thu Jan 13, 2005 7:08 pm
a friend i know from gaia. a good friend she is, has offered to let me live with her. it would mean leaving my friends and my computer and stuff but live with her. im currently 14 also. my home life is rotten and school aint fun either for me. i live with my mother and her bf. they both hate gays. if i were to come out hed most likely threaten me and my mom would throw me out. my dad and my mom are seperated. i have been in a few verbal fights with them and one physical. my mother stopped him because if he hit me i could press charges. well i dont wanna be in the closet forever but its fear that keeps it all inside. id like to live with my aunt. she is accepting and well she thinks im bi. i never told her i was gay. it was easier to say bi. and a few of my friends do. im just afraid of havin my mother hate me and some friends hate me and feel alone. but i really dont know how. im currently in 8th grade. yea i know im young and all but i just am stuck right now. i could talk to my aunt about it i guess but i dont know about saying im gay just yet. ive been (and at times am) seriously depressed and i dont want things to get all messed up again and become like that again.
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Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2005 11:55 pm
I am unknown to the world, yet i cant keep too many things inside of me. I am bi (i think) and i don't know what to say or do, im just quite messed up at the mo can anyone help me?
I have a few close m8s but i don't think i have the courage to tell anyone, nobody knows about me being a bi out of this guild.
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