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 Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 3:55 pm
I think you should go to NC if your going to be able to travel without risking anything, and be able to save enough money to buy the kids what they need. You and your kids standard of living should come first if it's not going to put anyone at risk, mainly you.
If you can't afford to pay for carseats/cribs, how does your mom expect you to pay for rent and electricity? she should be thinking about what you need, not what she wants, even if she is offering to help if you stay.
I can't tell you what to do, thats just my opinion. I know it would be hard to leave your mom if she's saying she's "never going to help you again", but like i said, your children should be first on your list, and your mom is bound to come around when she realises you need her, no matter where you are.
I hope that helped in some way, and didn't make the decision harder for you, and i hope everything works out for you.
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Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 5:51 pm
Sweet heart, you know your mum. She'l say all kinds of crap about never seeing your or the kids again. next thing you know, she is banging down the door screaming to be let in. Go for what makes sense financially, and ethically, not to mention morally in the best interest of your new immediate family. Dont go putting yourself out though with the move, try and hold the move back to NC till the twinskies are out.
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Corbin DeSeer Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 1:08 am
i think it would be best to move as financially it makes the most sense.
i was in a similar situation with my mum the first time i moved out,
i didnt speak to her for a year and a half.
but she realised she was in the wrong and came around eventually
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 2:52 am
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 4:31 am
good old abbott and costello
they were geniuses of thier time
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 7:59 am
@Corbs- Yeah, I know how she is.. she's been doing it for years and years. I guess I just fear really never seeing her again, even if she isnt the best mum in the world. . . But, you know how it is, you want her there when things arent going right so she can give you advice on what to or not to do. If I waited til the twins were out, we would be SOL ( s**t out of luck) because currently the Blazer is in NC. Not Texas. We have a two door pick up truck that is manual. Its HELL on me, it bounces alot and jerks around alot. It's killer on my body right now. I shouldnt have even traveled at the stage of preggersness that I did to get here....
@Mijin- I think the same way, hell, when I first moved out of her house, -I- didnt speak to her for almost a year. I was so angry at her for all the things that she had done that I just said screw it, I dont need someone like that in my life.. So I know where you are coming from. She's just a stubborn old woman. >_<;;; Makes me want to choke her. But I believe its the best thing too.
@Akiko- Nah, you didnt make the decision harder, it actually put more things in perspective for me, and I appreciate it. It's hard deciding between your family and your new family. She tags me all the time for saying .. ."I need to do what's right for my family". She freakin quotes me on it, WHENEVER I say it. Blaming me and accusing me of not thinking about her and my brothers as "Family" anymore. It's driving me nutty!!!
It would help us out tremendously to move back and I think that it is the right decision. Shes against NC because of his Father, she thinks its "hickabilly" which, Im not, so it makes no sense for her to use that as a weapon. lol.
@Lokapele- Ah yes, the dreaded, will I make it..... Im not even sure.. I dont know if its right to do or not, I dont know if its worth the risk or not... Im trying to do what is right for all of us, not just me. Im having the contractions closer and closer together and they get pretty painful. So, you know.. I havent quite had an OB the entire time Ive been pregnant. >_>;;;;; Long story short, we've been moving too much for me to get one. That's my main issue. Im a high risk pregnancy and if it comes down to it and I go into labor, it will not be about me, it will be about the children. That's the way I would want it. Im already being told I could die from a million things anyway, I think dying for them would be the best way to go. Not to sound morbid or anything. x_x; I fear it, I dont want to... I want to see them grow and Isabelle too. . . But right now the best thing I can do for them is give them what they need. It's not even a want... its a need.
I admit, Im sincerely afraid, but what other choice do I really have?
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 8:18 am
Want to make Lokapele a happy kitty for Christmas? *Huggles Ill.* Oh, hun... you need to try to see a doctor before you leave if you can... but as you said, do what's best for the babies, they're your life now. And I understand the you could do this list. x.x;; Makes you feel all warm and fuzzy, no? xP What's great, too... the dr that's been seeing me through the whole pregnancy, is pregnant herself... she's started to have pre-term contractions and is on bed rest now.... So... I gotta see a new dr that knows nothing, besides what's on my file. x.x;;
And a two door pickup truck? How would you even be able to get the twins in there? They're not usually big enough for five people.... >.< If you're going to move though... do it as soon as you can, the sooner you leave and get in NC, the best. That way you're there and getting things set and you can get a dr and such before the birth... If not, go find a dr now. XP Then get something off of her Christmas Wishlist!
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 9:39 am
Ok. Im REALLY ill atm. I mean REALLY ill. I got in from work on Thurs, fell asleep till tea time, ate then fell back asleep, only to wake at about 10pm to be sick. I was then sick EVERY hour until 7am the next day.
Bard got no sleep, Im physically drained (to the point my muscles wouldnt actually work I was so low on energy) and I had massive trouble keeping ANYTHING down. Be it drink OR food.
The good news is through sheer will power alone, I FORCED myself to stop being sick at 7am, and its now 5pm and I havent been sick again. I have managed to drink a bottle of lucazade, and two glasses of lemonade (thank heaven for lemonade!) and eaten half a slice of toast.
The fact I am this ill and STILL going training tomororw makes me so very callous when I say.... AMerica sucks. You need an NHS like us Lamia.
Corbin, I need to talk to you at some point, and Dag as well. Confirming dates for the holiday and all that, and accomodation. Four months till the end of days folks...
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 10:26 am
I still say it isn't the end. Just the beginning of the end.
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 12:03 pm
the man makes a valid point...wouldn't leave you guys to do anything if it suddenly just ended as you met....It would be more logical if you WANTED us to think it's the end...then when we're not looking the REAL plan starts...besides the world just wnding would be too cliche and lacking of a plot....
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 12:54 pm
Hope your feeling better soon Roany, it sucks a** that your ill sad . If it makes you feel any better,
you can laugh at the fact that Mijin has only just got over man flu,
He's had it for a couple of weeks xd Nature likes to make him suffer smile
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 3:14 pm
hope you get well soon roany
to help i sent bard herpes for the week so you can focus on gettin better
and for everyones info it wasnt man flu i was genuinely ill crying
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 3:42 pm
Man flu is a illness cupcake. But only men get it razz
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 4:24 pm
The holidays are coming! Get well soon. Hugs, kisses, rape, etc.
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Posted: Fri Oct 26, 2007 4:53 pm
YEAH, Im kinda getting the evil looks from ER docs everytime I end up in the ER with contractions... But, soon as I get done explaining the situation, they're less inclined to glare at me.
I have seriously thought of flying, dont see why it would be an issue, then Chris can just drive to NC and all will be well. Though it makes me nervous to put him on an 18 hour drive by himself with no radio and no sort of help to keep him aware. I know how he is when he gets sleepy. Hell. He'll drive til his hands fall off, or he would if he could..lol.
Roany- I agree, America DOES SUCK. Especially right now, Im amazed at the bullshit going on around us, I get sick just turning the news on... sigh.
Sorry to hear you are so danged ill. I hope you feel lots better soon. Remember, get plenty of rest, it does help.. or so they lie and tell me. >_> xD
Seriously though, get better. No one likes to see you down and out. heart
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