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 Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 9:12 am
Lainauriel Real life can sometimes suck. And I thought I have some "problems". Ha-ha. Sometimes I really need a kick in the butt and some perspective! I have still made no progress about the thesis and I made myself send an email to the professor promising Ill send something by the end of the week, so I can motivate myself more. Work starts Tuesday. Im serious. Im scared. Sometimes my heart beats too fast and I get a little too anxious because of this school stuff + search for new apartment + generally being scared of anything just collapsing into total chaos; I think its simple panic. Im gonna talk to my doc about this. Shouldt I be all cool and stuff, since I have my meds? What is the normal amount of general anxiety and fear of life? In all honesty I think the "normal amount" really varies. In your particular stage in life I'm not at all surprised it's really high. When I was trying to finish grad school and find a job and look for a place to live I was having regular panic attacks too! Not just anxiety; full on, heart racing, can't sleep because you think you're going to die, can't eat, panic attacks. It was my year in hell. One thing that helped a little was knowing I wasn't the only one that this happened to - and to a certain extent I leaned to ride the attacks out. But the only thing that really made things improve was that the situation eventually changed as I did get a job and did find a place to live and outside sources of stress changed.
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 9:59 am
Thank you Camwen. That made me feel better. All this grown-up stuff is hard... but when I was a teenager, I was stressed about other stuff, so I guess I just have to learn to relax a little and not try to control everything!
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 10:33 am
Lainauriel Thank you Camwen. That made me feel better. All this grown-up stuff is hard... but when I was a teenager, I was stressed about other stuff, so I guess I just have to learn to relax a little and not try to control everything! Oh believe me, there will always be new things to be stressed about. But it does vary and the times that seem the worst are when there are a lot of major changes/transitions going on at the same time. I don't think it's that life gets easier - it's that you learn better how to ride things out. It helps if you can focus on one thing at a time. The biggest thing that helped me is I stopped caring as much about other people's expectations for me - about what I "should" be doing. It's not that I care less about other people... it that I realized if I try to please everyone all the time I'm only going to fail and make myself miserable at the same time. They are mostly wrapped up in their own things anyway and not as worried about what I'm doing as I thought. Edit: I don't know.... the whole stressed-not stressed.... happy vs. unhappy stuff is such a complicated soup of environment and internal chemistry. I think Exxos had a great post a while back regarding this.
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Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2011 10:06 pm
It is hard to know what is too much or too little panic (yes, there is such a thing, people with too little are easy to spot as they usually have missing fingers and no fight or flight response, heh). Some people deal with stress phenomenally, through having a high threshold or through applied ambivalence, while others are constantly on edge. I would belong to the latter group, I freak at the drop of a hat.
Seeing a problem with it is somewhat easier. If the stress/panic/anxiety keeps you from functioning (it may be hard to see if it is or not), then it is a problem. If your terror is keeping you alive and safe though, it is an unpleasant necessity and your life is the problem. It's basically the difference between piling on the drugs and changing your life.
As for treatment with drugs, it's a question of how much is due to wiring problems in your head and how much it is problems in life. Drugs can only treat depression/anxiety/panic/whatever if the culprit is imbalances in the brain. If your life is just messed up, no amount of meds can treat all the other parts of your brain responding to proper external stimuli.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 8:25 am
Happy Valentines Day to you everyone in the AGA!! I'm sorry I won't be around much today. My hubby is working from home and will be using the computer. dramallama
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 2:41 pm
Hope you are all having a good Valentine's Day fellow AGAers. It is going well here.
Also hope you all enjoyed the weekend and were able to relax.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 7:39 pm
 Happy Valentine's everyone! Well it's the day after for me and I spent it working, oh well. I understand the stress thing too, been busy two weeks getting 'affairs in order' as in boring paperwork stuffs. Plus am on day 7 of quitting smoking so that has put the nerves on edge but hopefully that will be worth it xd btw the dog looks strangely like it's cross-bred with a pig hehe.
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Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 8:38 pm
Hope everyone had a good Valentine's Day!
Also this avi.. is my vision of me if I was a German Nazi Kid lol smile
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 4:51 am
Thank you everyone. I think its not messing up my life, not now - it used to, but then I got the meds and now Im fine most of the time.
Lamb I LOVE your nazi kid avi, its cool!
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 4:59 am
happy late valentine's day. had a busy day running errands with the kids.
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Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2011 8:28 am
Rajeshri Anjal btw the dog looks strangely like it's cross-bred with a pig hehe. hehe you're right! I think it's that ear... very cute xd Did everyone survive another Valentine's Day? My hubby and I ended up making it mostly about our kids instead of trying for some super romantic thing. It was fun.
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 12:36 am
ok this new little bar gaia added at the bottom of the screen is getting on my nerves very quickly with its stupid little add that is always there!
So I quickly hide it asap! plz make it go away lol!
Also thx for the comment Lainauriel
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 8:10 am
Lamb of God27 ok this new little bar gaia added at the bottom of the screen is getting on my nerves very quickly with its stupid little add that is always there! So I quickly hide it asap! plz make it go away lol! Also thx for the comment Lainauriel I completely agree about the ad. Icky icky! If it didn't move around so much it wouldn't be as bad.
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 9:27 am
Lol so it tells me I got 10 new guild announcements.. I was like huh! I look and for some reason.. It had them back from DECEMBER! lol I always check them. Wonder why gaia had them appear again smile
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Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 11:47 am
Lamb of God27 Lol so it tells me I got 10 new guild announcements.. I was like huh! I look and for some reason.. It had them back from DECEMBER! lol I always check them. Wonder why gaia had them appear again smile yes very strange lol I got them all again too
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