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That's messed up.
I've only had two boyfriends, both of whom were only a year older than me.
I think the one/two year difference works best.

Four years is ridiculous. That's like dating my brother. -shudder-

Uh, first of all, eleven- too young to date.
Second of all, the biggest age difference I'll go with is five years (my parents are five years apart). Well, it really depends...If it's actual SOUL MATE love, I'll tolerate larger age differences, although I'm still touchy about it...But if it's like, basic lust or a fling, I'll be all, '...no'.

The 11 year old's heart was turning to ashes, hmm?

It's okay, if you're mature enough to handle it. It's not too big of a deal.

I was with someone 4 years older than me at one point. It's weird but it's okay. Of course, the circumstances were different from a normal relationship because it was online...

My bf's only like, half a year older than me.

I have a tendancy to scare people away, so I've never actually had a relationship with anyone (apparently, black-belt girls are scary....D: ). ^^;; I don't want to have a serious relationship before college. Once everyone goes off to college, you'll all be forced to part ways with each other. They can try to have a long distance relationship, but will any one person really stay dedicated to someone so far away when there might be someone better right next to you? Even if you stay loyal to the other person, who's to say that your partner isn't cheating on you? Either way, it hurts. If you both stay loyal to each other, it'll hurt because you can't be together. If one person has a relationship with someone else, it'll break the other person's heart. In any relationship, you open your heart to your partner and welcome them into your life. When the other person walks out of your life, they take a little bit of your heart with them. You can't completely erase all traces of emotion for the other person...;__;

I guess, once you're out of college and live your own life, the all slight age difference shouldn't make a difference. A more significant age difference probably wouldn't work out. Some women like older men because the men can take care of them. But what happens when the men get old? The roles are reversed and the women wind up having to take care of the men. Or they can be heartless and find another man to cling to... stare

....lol, I lost my train of though as I was typing. xd ;;;
I dun even remember what the topic was about...?

She lay down on the grass,
Looking up at the sky,
thinking, it’s all she can do.
If she disappeared she would not be missed.
She will be gone just like everyone else.

Getting up from the grass,
she walks on the sand,
looking outward towards the sea.
She walks into the water high up above her knees.

~~~♥~~~♥ Narc Lit ♥~~~♥~~~

I think that your friend's friend's situation is normal. That what happens with breakups. Perhaps she wasn't ready to date at her age, but I don't really believe that age matters in a relationship. Although I do feel like anyone pre-teen and under don't understand the meaning of love, due to the face that they have not finished maturing yet [as in mentally developed]. There are several teenagers who are not mentally developed enough for love. Because the 11 year old friend was heartbroken because she "loved him", that's how you know she has not matured enough.

I really dislike it when people go into a relationship thinking they love the person. No. You're attracted to the person, and you need time to grow to love the person. Love doesn't just come to you when you meet a person.

I have only been in one relationship and it's almost our two year anniversary. He went into the relationship telling me he loves me and all that stuff, but I told him that I don't love him and I don't want him to love me until he knows me. I don't want him to love me because I am his girlfriend. I want him to love me because he truly feels that way. And I love him because I truly feel that way. If anyone is wondering, I am 18 years old, and so is he. We are going off to college and we're trying to make it work. I'll only be a one and a half hour drive from my home, and he's going to a college at home. It's not so long distance and we trust each other to be loyal. We'll see each other almost every weekend. I'll be visiting home every other weekend and we plan to have him come visit me every weekend I don't come home [And sometimes I won't come home to my parents and spend the weekend at his place, or so we hope to do sometime].

The only relationship age difference I'm worried about is 85 dating 30. If there is actual love, then I have no problem, but if it's a young mistress dating the man until he dies, then I'm against it. Oh yeah and then there are the legal issues of under 16 over 18 relationships... I'm kind of against it, but I have a friend who recently turned 18 and he was dating a freshman, 15. The two of them started having sex after the first month. Now at first I thought she was a slut, and I was totally against their relationship, but once I got to know her I knew that she is a mature person and she knows what she is doing. She didn't lose her virginity to him, she had sex in 7th grade, which I am against. I am totally against sex in high school, but she is fairly mentally mature. In 8th grade apparently she had sex with a 21 year old... But whatever... It depends on the person.

~~~♥~~~♥ Narc Lit ♥~~~♥~~~

The waves softly hit her legs.
She looks at the sunset and its yellow-red hues
she walks into the sea, farther and farther,
opening her arms towards the wave.
The water is high up to her hips.
The wave comes towards her.
She looks at the wave with her arms stretched out;
the water starts to rage, the wave hits her body hard.
Then the water calms down. The water recedes,
then darkness falls, and all goes dark.
The sun goes down and the day is done.

Hmmm......My gf is about 5 months younger than me.