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 Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 8:17 am
there is really no way to have set description of love for everybody.. it is different for each person... not in a major way, but in a subtle way... that is why every person has to find what kind of person they themselves are before they can have true love... love is an emotion most often confused with infatuation... teenagers are the most common instance. what they think is love is just a desire for something... love can be a desire too.... but love's desire is to protect someone (at least for me), to cherish them, to spend your life with someone whom, even though you may have problems... you know you can get through them and live a happy life... science cannot explain love... science hasn't even brought us hardly any understanding of the brain... which is where the emotion love comes from. the reason many people feel something in their chest when they believe they aer in love is because many people look as hearts as love. just a bit of symbolism that personally i don't have a problem with. as a final thought... love takes much time... most often years... you may be in love... but your not deeply in love for a long time. there is no way of knowing within a year whether or whether not this is the person you want to spend your life with. if you think your in love, take your time, 2 years after you feel like your in love and maybe a year engaged before you finally realize that your in love... my two cents
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Posted: Tue Dec 05, 2006 3:29 pm
SiberDrac What's love got to do... got to do with it? What's love but a second-hand emotion? What's love got to do... got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken? whee Sorry, had to put that particular song reference out there- on to the post. thelovelyLIZ This is kinda something that I've been dealing with recently. I believe love in unconditional, and I think that is a huge determinate between plain infatuation or lust. I have a friend, and he's basically my best friend. And we've been friends for about five or six years now. And he has done things that have just furiated me, and I never get angry. The longest I have every really been angry at anyone is two weeks, and it was at him. I love him, platonically, of course. He's my best friend, and I love him no matter what. I may get angry, and I'll yell and scream at him, but I always love him. And he's told me if I'm ever angry at him, he wants me to yell at him, because he's afraid if I hold it all in, I'll get myself sick. I mean, I think that's an amazing friendship right there. There's more to our relationship then that of course. We're very comfortable with one another. We have this weird thing we do where we basically cuddle/spoon in the back seats of our cars. We kiss on the cheek, we lie on one another, we hold hands, we're very itimate. But we know there's nothing more than a platonic relationship. He's also the only guy I know who will actually ask me about my period XD I've never actually been in love, but I really think love is defined as being unconditional, along with intimacy and companionship. That sounds like a fairly ideal situation. I mean, obviously amore is important, as well, but philos/platonic love is a thing I think is too rarely seen to its full extent. Congratulations on that. Love is the capacity to forgive and forget. You can forgive certain people, but you'll always remember whatever @$$holery they were up to. Someone you truly love is someone to whom you can apply a catchy phrase I may or may not have come up with- "Forgiven, forgotten, forever." It is actually vastly possible that I heard that somewhere, forgot about it, and decided I had invented it later sweatdrop . Whatever the case may be, that is the capacity of love. Exactly! I think if you love someone you should probably realize that they're not perfect, prone to mistake. But you love them anyway. I know it's cheesy but that saying "Love isn't finding someone perfect, it's seeing an imperfect person perfectly" is really true. Like, said friend in pervious post... eh. I had another really goods friend come to me and say that during homecoming he and her made out and she was under the impression they would have a secret relationship thing going on and then he hurt her because he was ignoring her. And she's one of my best friends also, but I talked to him about it. He said he didn't remember ever making out with her, but I could tell he was genuinely upset by this information. I was angry, but it wasn't worth being angry at him about it. And you know, I believe him. Probably very naive of me, but I do. I think if you cannot forgive someone, you cannot really love them.
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Posted: Tue Dec 05, 2006 8:47 pm
Quote: I think if you cannot forgive someone, you cannot really love them. Wait, then that means that I don't love anybody. sad That can't be right.
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Posted: Wed Dec 06, 2006 4:21 pm
Susiowong Quote: I think if you cannot forgive someone, you cannot really love them. Wait, then that means that I don't love anybody. sad That can't be right. I guess it works differently for everyone. I mean, if someone makes me angry I yell at them. I get upset. I kick, I scream, I cry. I get over it. I, personally, don't understand holding grudges and my thoughts have always been if you care about someone enough you'll forgive them.
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 2:42 pm
in the romantic: to paraphrase "Wedding Crashers": love is the soul's recognition of its counterpart in the other.
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