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 Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 2:07 pm
xLaurelX Soleq [~Rommie~] School starts in 8 days. My bf and I are going to two seperate schools. Fuuuuck this is going to be really hard =( It's possible. Just take each day as it comes, find time to talk, and most of all, make the most of the moments you're together. While I'm no fan of LDRs (and certainly not OLRs), if there's a will, there's a way.
Haha, you're so wrong. Sometimes.
Actually, I would consider my relationship a LDR, not a OLR because I've actually seen him a couple times.
Anyways... people shouldn't b***h about not being at the same school as their boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm 1000 miles away from my boyfriend. Har har har.Of course I remember it, mainly because you also took offense to the fact I said "14 year olds in OLRs." Hit the nail on the head, eh? Plus, my original position always has been, and will be (until further notice), that OLRs rarely succeed. That rarely includes a 0.0000189% chance that it does work out. See, I always cover myself.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 3:13 pm
[~Rommie~] You can disregard anything I have said. None of it matters anymore. He dumped me tonight. Sad thing is, never really realized how much I cared about him.
He said he can''t let emotions get in the way of his goals. And I was entering a school ful of diversity and I would find someone I truly loved. What does he think I felt for him?
Whatever. I saw this coming. I refuse to cry, I refuse to take this like all my friends who break down for a few days. I''m sorry for bitching about us being at two different schools, I was afraid this would happen and that was the root or my comments. I''m sorry for posting this here and sounding like the typical annoying breakup heartbroken girl but I needed somewhere to say this and I have a sinking feeling that my friends are tired of me.
So simply right now, I feel like s**t, I feel worth s**t. I know I shouldn''t but I can''t help it. Okay, first, I think you need express your emotions. Holding them in won't help you get over this. It often happens that people don't realize how much they care until they no longer can. I can't really tell, but he sounded generally concerned about breaking up with you, and he also did it the gentlest, most considerate way possible, and tried to make you feel better about it, so please know it wasn't you. He probably just doesn't feel like he will be able to take the strain. I see nothing wrong with 'breaking down for a few days' myself, but if it's not for you, then who is to say? I definitely think it will take some time to recover. I think it's important for you to keep busy a lot over the next week or two and try and make your life fulfilling without him. I know it will be difficult, but we're all here to help you here.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 3:55 pm
Immediate_stance [~Rommie~] You can disregard anything I have said. None of it matters anymore. He dumped me tonight. Sad thing is, never really realized how much I cared about him.
He said he can''t let emotions get in the way of his goals. And I was entering a school ful of diversity and I would find someone I truly loved. What does he think I felt for him?
Whatever. I saw this coming. I refuse to cry, I refuse to take this like all my friends who break down for a few days. I''m sorry for bitching about us being at two different schools, I was afraid this would happen and that was the root or my comments. I''m sorry for posting this here and sounding like the typical annoying breakup heartbroken girl but I needed somewhere to say this and I have a sinking feeling that my friends are tired of me.
So simply right now, I feel like s**t, I feel worth s**t. I know I shouldn''t but I can''t help it. Okay, first, I think you need express your emotions. Holding them in won't help you get over this. It often happens that people don't realize how much they care until they no longer can. I can't really tell, but he sounded generally concerned about breaking up with you, and he also did it the gentlest, most considerate way possible, and tried to make you feel better about it, so please know it wasn't you. He probably just doesn't feel like he will be able to take the strain. I see nothing wrong with 'breaking down for a few days' myself, but if it's not for you, then who is to say? I definitely think it will take some time to recover. I think it's important for you to keep busy a lot over the next week or two and try and make your life fulfilling without him. I know it will be difficult, but we're all here to help you here.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 5:12 pm
[~Rommie~] Thank you. I know it will tke time, that was 6 monthes out of my life just closed off. Though I they were some of the most fun I had so I have no regrets. I don't want to take advantage of the people around me. A lot of people I am friends with are having troubles worse then this and have heard each other complain none of them want to hear anything right now. Now that I look back on me posting that it seems insignificant. Sorry for wasting everyones time, I know there are people who are hurting way more then I am and I apologize. I think you know, but I'll say it anyway: You really don't need to apologize. Very few people like hurting, even only a little bit, and even if there are people here in pain, that doesn't mean they won't help you if they can. I think it was good for you to at least get what is bothering you out to someone, especially if you think you won't be able to 'bother' your friends with it. It's great that you don't regret the relationship. That means you'll probably get the full benefit of the experience and will think about it fondly later on. If you need any help, or just someone to write endless rants about pain to, I'm here, and I'm sure most of the guild is too. At least until guilds go down.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 9:41 pm
Soleq xLaurelX Hey Soleq, remember that time you said OLRs suck and I got all offended? xd
Haha, you're so wrong. Sometimes.
Actually, I would consider my relationship a LDR, not a OLR because I've actually seen him a couple times.
Anyways... people shouldn't b***h about not being at the same school as their boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm 1000 miles away from my boyfriend. Har har har. Of course I remember it, mainly because you also took offense to the fact I said "14 year olds in OLRs." Hit the nail on the head, eh? Plus, my original position always has been, and will be (until further notice), that OLRs rarely succeed. That rarely includes a 0.0000189% chance that it does work out. See, I always cover myself.
I really really really hope my stupid OLR works out. Would make my life a lot easier...
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2005 11:48 pm
xLaurelX Soleq xLaurelX Hey Soleq, remember that time you said OLRs suck and I got all offended? xd
Haha, you're so wrong. Sometimes.
Actually, I would consider my relationship a LDR, not a OLR because I've actually seen him a couple times.
Anyways... people shouldn't b***h about not being at the same school as their boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm 1000 miles away from my boyfriend. Har har har. Of course I remember it, mainly because you also took offense to the fact I said "14 year olds in OLRs." Hit the nail on the head, eh? Plus, my original position always has been, and will be (until further notice), that OLRs rarely succeed. That rarely includes a 0.0000189% chance that it does work out. See, I always cover myself.
I really really really hope my stupid OLR works out. Would make my life a lot easier... Hehe, I hope that it works out for you too, hun! I do agree with Soleq to a degree on this one, but it really all depends on the strength of the two people's convictions to each other. If both are able to stay in love with each other, and only each other. My only experience with an OLR was with a girl I met up here in Maine, but she lived in Florida. After about 8 months of talking with her on the phone, and about 5 days before she was supposed to come back, she told me that one of her friends had 'Stolen' her heart. Really sucked, but oh well. Really hope that you're situation works out a lot better than mine did.
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 1:19 am
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 1:43 pm
I got a question. Is I hate the government, does that make me an anarchist?
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 1:43 pm
My main beef with OLRs is that relationship need physical contact in order to be considered "real" in my book. Sure, it's nice to IM that special someone, but that's more like having a relationship with your computer screen than anything else. Mmmm...pixels turn me on. There's no substitute for simply being with the person you care for. Over time, without that ability to touch their physical being, the emotions become detached, and with it, love goes bye-bye. Therefore, OLRs are most certainly emotional doom as that phsycial closeness was never even established in the first place.
Now, Laurel & Paterack are slightly different: they've actually been with each other, made that initial physical bond, and therefore are not in an OLR. They've transcended into LDR land, and while it's a significant jump above OLRs, they still take a tremendous amount of work in order to succeed. I'm not saying it's impossible, but I'll give 625:1 odds for LDRs, and 49682:1 for OLRs.
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2005 4:05 pm
Soleq My main beef with OLRs is that relationship need physical contact in order to be considered "real" in my book. Sure, it's nice to IM that special someone, but that's more like having a relationship with your computer screen than anything else. Mmmm...pixels turn me on. There's no substitute for simply being with the person you care for. Over time, without that ability to touch their physical being, the emotions become detached, and with it, love goes bye-bye. Therefore, OLRs are most certainly emotional doom as that phsycial closeness was never even established in the first place. Now, Laurel & Paterack are slightly different: they've actually been with each other, made that initial physical bond, and therefore are not in an OLR. They've transcended into LDR land, and while it's a significant jump above OLRs, they still take a tremendous amount of work in order to succeed. I'm not saying it's impossible, but I'll give 625:1 odds for LDRs, and 49682:1 for OLRs. Definitely. And in some ways, OLRs become more complicated if they meet and transcend to LDRs, because then the lack of physical contact actually drags down on both people. I disagree to some degree about them not working out, it all depends on your definition. Do people who meet online get married? Not very often. But I think most people learn a lot about themselves and about emotions by being in either type of relationship, and the experience can be very fulfilling.
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 10:17 am
definatlyamule I got a question. Is I hate the government, does that make me an anarchist? No, it doesn't. It makes you a Democrat. Note that Government and America are two very different things. Now, if it was I hate any govt...
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 10:40 am
stare A mosquito just bit me on the cheek
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 11:18 am
definatlyamule I got a question. Is I hate the government, does that make me an anarchist?
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 2:00 pm
Rant rant rant.
It's just one of those days. I'm pissed off and lonely and stressed and angry and everything all rolled into one. There is no communication at my work which makes it nearly impossible to do my job properly. Desite all of my efforts to get the lines of communication open it's still not working which is such a piss off. My cheek is still itchy. Work is totally dead right now which makes me bored except for a ghost that keeps opening one door no matter how many times I've closed it. Shoo poltergist! I just want to go home. Which is funny because this is the exact time I leave my other job.
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2005 2:27 pm
Chalda Rant rant rant.
It''s just one of those days. I''m pissed off and lonely and stressed and angry and everything all rolled into one. There is no communication at my work which makes it nearly impossible to do my job properly. Desite all of my efforts to get the lines of communication open it''s still not working which is such a piss off. My cheek is still itchy. Work is totally dead right now which makes me bored except for a ghost that keeps opening one door no matter how many times I''ve closed it. Shoo poltergist! I just want to go home. Which is funny because this is the exact time I leave my other job. what do you do in your job?
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