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 Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 7:01 pm
@Sirus- Sorry to hear that. sad I know how you feel.
@Jing- If you don't know for sure if she likes you back, just ask someone to check it out for you, but have them casually lead up to the topic in a conversation with her.
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 7:17 pm
Jing, you seem to be in quite the pickle. I really don't know how to help other than what Nizzi said. Sorry about that, good luck!
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 7:31 pm
*Sighs.* I have my own problems too. My life has finally started to calm down ... except now my sister is becoming more defensive against my dad. He used to abuse me, but got help a few times and now he's getting better ... kinda. Because my sister always has an attitude, he's beginning to get annoyed and starts to abuse her now both physically and emotionally. I'm scared for her because I've been through what my dad is doing to my sister now. And also, I'm scared for my dad because he just started to get his life back together and I don't want him to go back to the way he was. ((And FYI, he doesn't sexually abuse us if you ever thought that.))
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 7:35 pm
Maybe you could try talking to the school counselor(if your still in school)
or maybe your mother(sorry again if there any problems there, i don't know you so i can't say for sure)
Also, sorry if I'm not much help, I'm just a sophomore sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 7:38 pm
I'm only a sophmore too. Our school counselor doesn't care about us-- trust me. And my mom can't do anything about it; our best chance is to hope my sister keeps her mouth shut.
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 7:52 pm
Then maybe you should call Child Social Services?
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 8:14 pm
Maybe, unless my mom and I can manage to calm them down.
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 8:20 pm
Well, I wish luck to you guys in what ever you decide. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 8:21 pm
Thankies, I wish you luck too. n-n
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Posted: Fri Feb 16, 2007 3:28 am
Nizzi *Sighs.* I have my own problems too. My life has finally started to calm down ... except now my sister is becoming more defensive against my dad. He used to abuse me, but got help a few times and now he's getting better ... kinda. Because my sister always has an attitude, he's beginning to get annoyed and starts to abuse her now both physically and emotionally. I'm scared for her because I've been through what my dad is doing to my sister now. And also, I'm scared for my dad because he just started to get his life back together and I don't want him to go back to the way he was. ((And FYI, he doesn't sexually abuse us if you ever thought that.)) I myself suffered emotional abuse from my father until I was ten, while my mother was physically and emotionally abused until I was five. So I know, to an extent, what you're going through. The problem here is that you probably still have feelings for your father, while I pretty much hated him my entire life. You can't feel sorry for him though and allow him to continue this behavior. He's in the wrong here, and nothing can change that. A lot of people are stuck in the same situation you are, and they feel that it may somehow be their fault, or they don't try to do something about their spouse's/father's behavior. Is your father an alcoholic, or do you think he's bipolar? My own father was bipolar and wouldn't listen to anyone when they told him. Eventually he went to a doctor and they diagnosed him. Unfortunately, I can't say what will happen if you father is bipolar and gets on medication, because my dad committed suicide the day they diagnosed him. .__. It also seems you may blame your sister to an extent for 'awakening the beast' with her attitude. Right now she needs your support, you don't need to tell her to accept things you need to protect her, and guide her through this. The emotional damage your father is causing is by far more destructive then the physical, and both of them go hand in hand. Bruises eventually fade but the emotional scars stay there forever. In the future you may have problems with your boyfriends because you may subconsciously seek out someone like your father. Never settle for someone who is abusive, you may think you'll be able to help them, or that its your own fault, but the truth is that you can't and it isn't. Your father is the one at fault here, and when he abuses you guys it his choice. That is inexcusable, its not either of your faults. Your victims here, and the only way to help him is to lash back, simply taking the blows isn't going to make it stop, it'll only make things worse. In order to help him, you're going to have to hurt him first. Call social services, thats my advice.
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Posted: Fri Feb 16, 2007 3:19 pm
Kyou Nitsune Nizzi *Sighs.* I have my own problems too. My life has finally started to calm down ... except now my sister is becoming more defensive against my dad. He used to abuse me, but got help a few times and now he's getting better ... kinda. Because my sister always has an attitude, he's beginning to get annoyed and starts to abuse her now both physically and emotionally. I'm scared for her because I've been through what my dad is doing to my sister now. And also, I'm scared for my dad because he just started to get his life back together and I don't want him to go back to the way he was. ((And FYI, he doesn't sexually abuse us if you ever thought that.)) I myself suffered emotional abuse from my father until I was ten, while my mother was physically and emotionally abused until I was five. So I know, to an extent, what you're going through. The problem here is that you probably still have feelings for your father, while I pretty much hated him my entire life. You can't feel sorry for him though and allow him to continue this behavior. He's in the wrong here, and nothing can change that. A lot of people are stuck in the same situation you are, and they feel that it may somehow be their fault, or they don't try to do something about their spouse's/father's behavior. Is your father an alcoholic, or do you think he's bipolar? My own father was bipolar and wouldn't listen to anyone when they told him. Eventually he went to a doctor and they diagnosed him. Unfortunately, I can't say what will happen if you father is bipolar and gets on medication, because my dad committed suicide the day they diagnosed him. .__. It also seems you may blame your sister to an extent for 'awakening the beast' with her attitude. Right now she needs your support, you don't need to tell her to accept things you need to protect her, and guide her through this. The emotional damage your father is causing is by far more destructive then the physical, and both of them go hand in hand. Bruises eventually fade but the emotional scars stay there forever. In the future you may have problems with your boyfriends because you may subconsciously seek out someone like your father. Never settle for someone who is abusive, you may think you'll be able to help them, or that its your own fault, but the truth is that you can't and it isn't. Your father is the one at fault here, and when he abuses you guys it his choice. That is inexcusable, its not either of your faults. Your victims here, and the only way to help him is to lash back, simply taking the blows isn't going to make it stop, it'll only make things worse. In order to help him, you're going to have to hurt him first. Call social services, thats my advice.
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Posted: Fri Feb 16, 2007 3:24 pm
Kyou Nitsune Nizzi *Sighs.* I have my own problems too. My life has finally started to calm down ... except now my sister is becoming more defensive against my dad. He used to abuse me, but got help a few times and now he's getting better ... kinda. Because my sister always has an attitude, he's beginning to get annoyed and starts to abuse her now both physically and emotionally. I'm scared for her because I've been through what my dad is doing to my sister now. And also, I'm scared for my dad because he just started to get his life back together and I don't want him to go back to the way he was. ((And FYI, he doesn't sexually abuse us if you ever thought that.)) I myself suffered emotional abuse from my father until I was ten, while my mother was physically and emotionally abused until I was five. So I know, to an extent, what you're going through. The problem here is that you probably still have feelings for your father, while I pretty much hated him my entire life. You can't feel sorry for him though and allow him to continue this behavior. He's in the wrong here, and nothing can change that. A lot of people are stuck in the same situation you are, and they feel that it may somehow be their fault, or they don't try to do something about their spouse's/father's behavior. Is your father an alcoholic, or do you think he's bipolar? My own father was bipolar and wouldn't listen to anyone when they told him. Eventually he went to a doctor and they diagnosed him. Unfortunately, I can't say what will happen if you father is bipolar and gets on medication, because my dad committed suicide the day they diagnosed him. .__. It also seems you may blame your sister to an extent for 'awakening the beast' with her attitude. Right now she needs your support, you don't need to tell her to accept things you need to protect her, and guide her through this. The emotional damage your father is causing is by far more destructive then the physical, and both of them go hand in hand. Bruises eventually fade but the emotional scars stay there forever. In the future you may have problems with your boyfriends because you may subconsciously seek out someone like your father. Never settle for someone who is abusive, you may think you'll be able to help them, or that its your own fault, but the truth is that you can't and it isn't. Your father is the one at fault here, and when he abuses you guys it his choice. That is inexcusable, its not either of your faults. Your victims here, and the only way to help him is to lash back, simply taking the blows isn't going to make it stop, it'll only make things worse. In order to help him, you're going to have to hurt him first. Call social services, thats my advice. eh, thats rough, I'm really sorry Kyou. ._.
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Posted: Sat Feb 17, 2007 10:34 pm
First of all thanks.
Jing: Yeah girl problems suck.
Nizzi: I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad, if he dosen't get better I'd recomend CPS.
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Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 12:09 pm
The Bandit King Jing eh, thats rough, I'm really sorry Kyou. ._. Um, thank you? XD I'm sure 'emotional abuse' kinda sounds sucky coming from a guy XP Nizzi - Alright, but I'm still a little concerned about your sister. When you say you're trying to calm her down, what exactly are you guys trying to do? I wouldn't exactly expect her to chill if you father is abusing her. .__. Abuse is never right, no matter what the cause or form.
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Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 12:54 pm
@Jeff- It's ok. Thanks.
@Kyou- We're just talking to her calmly and trying to get her to control her temper. ._. We're not yelling at her. I agree, abuse isn't right at all. She really doesn't need to over react around my dad, ever since he got help he's never meant any harm to us, but my sister keeps provoking him and stuff. Lately, I've been talking to them both and they've been listening, so I dunno. Nothing bad has been happening since then.
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