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 Posted: Mon Feb 21, 2005 2:37 pm
Thank you to everyone who shared their stories. All of your advice has really helped. I've told two of my best friends now, and they both took it well. There really isn't a problem telling my friends, but telling my family is a completely different thing. My parents would probably disown me if they found out that I was gay. And the biggest problem for me would be telling my brother. You see, from the time I was little, I have always looked up to my older brother. And he was always there for me. But my brother isn't exactly what you would call gay friendly. He makes somewhat rude comments about them often and insults them from time to time. I'm afraid that telling him might change the relationship I have with him.
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Posted: Mon Feb 21, 2005 2:45 pm
Want to know something?
Ever since I came out to you guys I haven't had a thought of suicide or cutting since then. Thats why I send most my days here. I know I should be active but it helps to know like, wow These people listen and understand. whee
Homie- thats great that you told friends(only wishes she could the same)! It certainly is difficult to tell family and your brother sounds kind a....homophobic.... But you know what, just today my sis kept saying things like, your gay(IN A JOKING MATTER) I love my sister to bits but I'm fearful as well. Its ok.*hugs homie* And it seems everyone is fearful of being disowned. Its just the fact that parents think, OH GOD What did I do to have raised this child to make them turn out gay?! And thats alright, its normal as it can get at least....seeing as I cant say anything my parents yet either I cant give much advice....
But good luck if ya ever do.
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Posted: Mon Feb 21, 2005 2:55 pm
XChi0102X Want to know something? Ever since I came out to you guys I haven't had a thought of suicide or cutting since then. Thats why I send most my days here. I know I should be active but it helps to know like, wow These people listen and understand. whee Homie- thats great that you told friends(only wishes she could the same)! It certainly is difficult to tell family and your brother sounds kind a....homophobic.... But you know what, just today my sis kept saying things like, your gay(IN A JOKING MATTER) I love my sister to bits but I'm fearful as well. Its ok.*hugs homie* And it seems everyone is fearful of being disowned. Its just the fact that parents think, OH GOD What did I do to have raised this child to make them turn out gay?! And thats alright, its normal as it can get at least....seeing as I cant say anything my parents yet either I cant give much advice.... But good luck if ya ever do. Yes, telling my family is most definitely the hardest part. My friends are open minded, but my family is very oppinionated about gays. And I'm sure they would all think that it was their fault. Then they would try to make me feel guilty. My brother's not really a homophobe, he doesn't hate gays or anything, just every once in a while he'll say something like "Oh look at that f**" or something like that. It's not often though. You should try to tell your friends. They should take it well, if not, you have to consider if they were really your friends in the first place. Even if they don't take it well, you'll make tons of new friends after coming out. So, I wish you luck in coming out to your friends, and maybe eventually your family.
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Posted: Mon Feb 21, 2005 3:32 pm
we dont have many homosexuals in my school so not to many 'gained' friends would come of telling. And THE DOWN SIDE (background music-duhn duhn duhnnnnn) Well most of you know I like my friend becky and shes my best friend. well this year for band we're taking a trip to virginia beach and on any school trips me her always room together...and the same for this trip we plan to. every hotel has only 2 beds per room and our school makes each room have 4 to a room(so 2 to a bed....and we usually share) HOW WELL DO YOU THINK SHE'D TAKE THAT?! She become SUPER SUPER cautious of me! heck she might even try to room with someone else.
Oh and at the end of our senior year we have our annual disney trip. who do you think she's gonna want to room with if she doesn't know? me of course. So I have to keep this a secret till I think the time is right......which could be.....ohhh.....NEVER! I dont know. someday I'll tell her or just land her with a big enough hint. thanks for the idea though. Ive been think about it too.
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Posted: Mon Feb 21, 2005 10:15 pm
If i was gay I would just tell everyone, but I'm not gay so I dont know how it feels. sorry sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 12:25 pm
XChi0102X confused You dont trust your parents? I don't trust mine. xp They lost my trust awhile ago cuz they didn't take my cutting serious. They asked who I was trying to copy? nope dont really trust them too much. neither did mine, I just yelled at....but they had to take me to the doc otherwise the school wouldnt let me back in ^^; they only know I did once. heh...think they would freak if they found out I did it for a year lol
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Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 12:29 pm
I havent come out to anyone but you guys 4laugh cause everyone around me would push me away crying and the religious ppl would come after me
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Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 12:44 pm
ToeboysGurl my parents didn't I had been cutting for a year before they fond out and they still dont know that I continued to cut even after their bitching.
They didn't even consider taking me to see a conselor. When I told them I had depression they said stop trying to blame it on something. What bullshit! OH no they did even think about conselor then.No no, they asked me when they thought I was too emotional! Cuz I cry too much and take things so emotional.
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Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 9:15 pm
Gavner I havent come out to anyone but you guys 4laugh cause everyone around me would push me away crying and the religious ppl would come after me *runs up, tackles you, and hugs you* Mine! Muahaha
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Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 9:16 pm
XChi0102X ToeboysGurl my parents didn't I had been cutting for a year before they fond out and they still dont know that I continued to cut even after their bitching. They didn't even consider taking me to see a conselor. When I told them I had depression they said stop trying to blame it on something. What bullshit! OH no they did even think about conselor then.No no, they asked me when they thought I was too emotional! Cuz I cry too much and take things so emotional. *hugs...* How many times is that now...? 3nodding I hope you don't cut anymore...I'd cry crying
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Posted: Wed Feb 23, 2005 3:18 am
funny, I stopped after joining gaia and all my homosexual guilds. hmmm.....lets see.....I counted once before......I cant remember..let me count again....
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ummm....I lost count at like 68.....but a lot have faded
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Posted: Wed Feb 23, 2005 9:52 am
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Posted: Wed Feb 23, 2005 12:19 pm
when i came out, i first came out to my closest friends. my mom n my family disowned me.... it wasn't fun... but now, i'm queer n im here!!!
GAY PRIDE 4EVA!!! 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Feb 23, 2005 12:24 pm
Death_by_Flerbles when i came out, i first came out to my closest friends. my mom n my family disowned me.... it wasn't fun... but now, i'm queer n im here!!! GAY PRIDE 4EVA!!! 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding 3nodding lol sad Thats what im afraid of if i tell my parents
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Posted: Wed Feb 23, 2005 1:40 pm
I didn't exactly plan coming out very well. -_-' Dragged my bf from FSAP (Freshmen Summer Academic Program), which is like this mess of classes you can take if you're really bored and crazy over the summer, before your actual Freshman year..... And brought him home before school started up again, to meet my father. At first it seemed okay, my dad was actually really glad I found friends, that the guy was in premed, that he seemed outgoing, etc. But then he walked in when we were kissing and started yelling and freaking out. ~_~' And then he insisted that I "go back to normal" and basically handed me a ultimatum, which boiled down to dump your boyfriend and find a girlfriend, or that's the end of financial assistance. o_o'' Being really stupid at the time, I chose the second. But by December, we'd split up, and now I'm stuck with two part time jobs and work study trying to pay for tuition and housing. >.o'
Moral of the story: Dun tell your parents till AFTER you're through college...and if you're bringing your bf back, be careful.
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