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[Magni Prime]

Don't know . . . they still haven't gotten around to setting them up. stare Just another threat being hung over our heads.  

[Magni Prime]

Had to break a friendship. It was what I felt I had to do, but still stings like hell. crying

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September 10, 2016

Flossy,

After our recent conversation, I have come to a very unpleasant realization. We are not friends any longer. Once upon a time, we were very close. I enjoyed being your confidant, and you listened to me in return. We were ‘besties’ at work, and I did all in my power to help you both personally and professionally. Our dynamic was playful and fun. You never complained, and thus I thought we were good. At the moment, I question it. For weeks, you have been moving on from me, and that is natural. "B" has become a new bestie with banter and a few choices I am sorely against. However, such is your life, and you do not answer to me. Therefore, the choices were not contested. On multiple occasions you were told to your face that I am jealous and envious of your moving on, but such is the end of it. No actions were taken against your choice, and few words were spoken of it. In fact, multiple attempts have been made to incorporate into the new dynamic as I had with "C". Joking around, joining you as you took smoke breaks, and various conversations. None seemed to work. The tipping point for me was when you came to the store drunk and high. Again, your choice, but one I could not support.

The recent discussion at Dominos was a heavy blow and the termination of our friendship. Not because you had to do your job. As has been demonstrated in the past, our friendship and our professional relationship can coincide and not interfere with one another. Most of what you discussed was as a manager, and was treated as such. However- the point of my comment concerning your visits to "B’s" home broke what little trust remained. The fact that you even had to ask if I was starting rumors of your sexual activity with anyone was beyond comprehension. Especially after having faced that before when the rumors were of you and me. I had thought you knew me better than this. Instead of saying to ‘be careful what you say’ or something similar as a warning, you honestly asked me if I was saying things about your sexual activity with or without "B". Asking that question may have been a professional thing, but it crossed a line proving you don’t know me as I thought you did. That truly hurt.

This was the best way I could think of to get my message across, and not have a shouting match, or a conversation that could be misconstrued with my tendency to curse and joke. I am gutted at this, and will have to accept that our friendship has ended. A friend would not have needed to honestly ask that question. As stated earlier in this letter, our professional and personal lives were parallel, but not necessarily the same. I will continue to do my best effort at work, and will not turn on you publicly in any way. My support will continue as it has been, and quality of work will remain the highest I am capable of. This had to be said while the wound was fresh, or I fear it would have never been said at all.

Goodbye,
Magni Prime

 

[Magni Prime]

The drastic uptic of drug and alcohol use combined with the lack of interest in seeing me made friendship quite hard. When she turned on me with that issue that she faced WITH me two years ago was the final straw. She knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I would not do that . . . and yet she honestly asked. That was a slap in the face I could not ignore. It was the first time a friendship had to be terminated in my life, but while I miss her- I do not regret the choice. It was made for solid reasons.

the only drawback is that she is still my boss, and I must do things to work for her yet.  

[Magni Prime]

Thus far she has not, and I have stepped up in a large way to give her nothing to complain about. Still, it feels awkward to be overly polite to her at work now. No flirts, no jokes, no comments of any sort aside from purely professional.

Though I do admit something. She and the man I supposedly shipped together both got ill from her son at nearly the same time. She caught it, and that is natural. And yet, the man caught it almost as fast, and that makes me wonder. Was she truly hanging out with the man while getting ill, or was there a more . . . direct contact for disease to infect? Naturally, I won't say that to her at the store, or in the workplace at all. However here, and to my wife . . . I can openly question how it is only the man she was assuming accusations of infidelity with got ill when she did.

coincidence . . . or perhaps not. Why else would she ask me in all seriousness? a bit too hearty of a protest, perhaps.  

[Magni Prime]

Well, I worked with her tonight and all went smoothly. No personal inquiries, but polite and friendly at work. She is a colleague now- but I will not trust her with any sort of personal investment. She burned that to the ground.

Once bitten, and all that jazz.

As for what she is doing with her assistant manager, I couldn't care less. I know for a fact (and told her as such) that I know she isn't doing anything. even if she was, it wouldn't matter. But near as can be seen, where there's smoke, there's weed with her right now.  

[Magni Prime]

Seems it gets better. We had another guy just walk off the job. He quit with no warning. Our store manager is looking for a new job, as is the assistant manager. The guy in question didn't want to be there for the fallout of having all the management of a store up and quit. When a call was placed to get assistance from another store in our franchise (they own 7 stores) we find out that no less than 5 other stores are shortstaffed as well for similar reasons. One manager was called and asked why he didn't come to the manager meeting and he responded with

"I quit days ago, they didnt' tell you? I wanted a more stable job that pays far better." Managers in this franchise make 7.50 an hour. That's it. For manager.

Yeah, this place is going down in flames, and I can't help but imagine rats deserting a sinking ship.  

[Magni Prime]

been trying for a while, good sir . . . the search continues.  

[Magni Prime]

*stews silently in the corner*