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im sorry neko

it's hard when that happens... been there done that. I lost 80 pounds and was so excited to go to a company party with my hubs to show it off. I've known the people for 9 years that was there.... not a single one pointed it out or said that I looked better. The comment was "I don't see you enough to be able to tell" HELLO.. 80 pounds?!?!?!?!?
As much as it feels good to hear it from others, you can't rely on them to say the right things all the time. Know if your heart you did an awesome job and keep at it. I'm proud of you!

Trust me, this is probably one of the few places you won't get blasted for that kind of gripe. It's one of the reasons this guild was made in the first place, to get away from junk like that. Sadly, it's very hard to find worthwhile conversations in the main forums, (especially the GD. xp ) It's why a lot of us stay mostly in the guilds now. Pretty soon the main forums are going to be nothing but rude, foul mouthed, cybering little nooblettes while all the mature people who actually know how to have a conversation are going to be holed up in their guilds. confused

Warning: massive rant/sob story

I'm so lonely. I still don't know anyone in NC, and being so far away from my family and friends is really ripping me up inside. I tried explaining to Joe about how I feel, and he just tells me to get a job. stare Trouble is I've filled out 10+ applications, signed up with 3 temp agencies, and posted my resume on nearly every online job search engine created, and I haven't gotten even ONE call or interveiw. WTH? I've never had this problem before, and can't for the life of me figure out what to do about it.

Also, as part of trying to cope with the loneliness and needing to get out more, I started looking inot getting a puppy. In fact, I had one picked out, all of the stuff for a do bought (kennel, food bowl, collar, leash, etc.), and had even warmed Joe up to the idea, only to have the lady who owned the puppies raise they're pries to a ridiculous price so I can't afford it.

These two things and other general depression lead me into drinking heavily last week. I got to the point where I passed out in the hallway, and seriously freaked out Joe. I know I went too far, and it was a major mistake. But as if dealing with my own guilt and hangover wasn't bad enough Joe was so upset with me that he refused to talk to me or even be in the same room as me. Only when I broke down in tears did he come over to me and start talking. Thankfully he forgave me, and he even made a conscious effort to spend a little more time with me over te weekend, but he can't take the place of a close girlfriend.

I guess I'm just lost. Growing up I never had to move, or leave my friends and family, and for the last two years I've moved 5 times!
Is it so much to ask for some friends?

Thanks Ananda. Its alwasy nice to hear someone else say it heart

Hey Chemical-Pink... I know you posted this WEEKS ago, but I just saw it.

I can maybe give you a different perspective on this... I've sometimes felt awkward complimenting someone on losing weight, because I was afraid that they would be offended -- like maybe I was saying "it's about time, 'cause you really needed it." So I've withheld the compliment for fear of them taking it the wrong way.

Weird, huh? but true.

sorry to hear that... but at least you are starting a new life... razz

I'm hungry. gonk