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 Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 2:34 am
Giesta I think that I am of a similar kind of person as you in reguards to who I am interested in. I am a particular guy as far as who I would like to get to know and possibly go out with but I am sadly a bit shy and I have been told that I can be clueless sometimes when someone is trying to "Come On" to me. sweatdrop I tend to go for someone who is somewhat similar to my likes and dislikes and tastes per-say, though it would not bother me if the person was a bit eccentric because I am a bit eccentric myself in some things like like and would accept . lol But yes in general I am like you that I have people around me daily that I have feelings for but I have not told them I have feelings for them or that I have had those feeling for a while in some cases and have not told them or only just hinted at how much I like them and they just didnt think I meant it for real maybe only as a joke perhaps. (I get nervous I tend to make people laugh by telling jokes or being a sort of clown sometimes.)
Just don't tell me that you tend to find most lesbians and masculine women to be attractive and we will be all good. Most of what you just got finished telling me about yourself is starting to make me think that I am talking to myself on Gaia. I tend to be shy and clueless when it comes to anybody flirting with me. My guy-friends: "Dude! She was totally just flirting with you!" Me: "Umm... No, she wasn't. She was just being friendly if you ask me... Are you sure?"
You and I are both eccentric. I just call it like it is with me... I am crazy (in mainly good ways). I would never intentionally hurt somebody (unless they intentionally hurt me). I could never lash out against somebody physically (even if they did lash out at me physically... It just isn't in me). When it comes to my personality I am pretty crazy, though. (Aren't we all just a little bit crazy? Don't we have to be just to cope in this world?)
There is one way that we aren't similar, though. I don't have any crushes on anybody that I have around me daily. It would seem that the only person that I have around me daily is my brother... and that would just be creepy. Dating a brother who reminds you of Doctor House just seems horrible... Dating a brother in and of itself would be bad enough. (Yes, my older brother reminds me and a lot of other people of Doctor House. My oldest brother... He reminds me and all of my friends of the unabomber. I have never been compared to anyone to my recollection.)
but my soldiers stay eternal.
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Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 3:28 am
Sergeant JJ Giesta I think that I am of a similar kind of person as you in reguards to who I am interested in. I am a particular guy as far as who I would like to get to know and possibly go out with but I am sadly a bit shy and I have been told that I can be clueless sometimes when someone is trying to "Come On" to me. sweatdrop I tend to go for someone who is somewhat similar to my likes and dislikes and tastes per-say, though it would not bother me if the person was a bit eccentric because I am a bit eccentric myself in some things like like and would accept . lol But yes in general I am like you that I have people around me daily that I have feelings for but I have not told them I have feelings for them or that I have had those feeling for a while in some cases and have not told them or only just hinted at how much I like them and they just didnt think I meant it for real maybe only as a joke perhaps. (I get nervous I tend to make people laugh by telling jokes or being a sort of clown sometimes.)
Just don't tell me that you tend to find most lesbians and masculine women to be attractive and we will be all good. Most of what you just got finished telling me about yourself is starting to make me think that I am talking to myself on Gaia. I tend to be shy and clueless when it comes to anybody flirting with me. My guy-friends: "Dude! She was totally just flirting with you!" Me: "Umm... No, she wasn't. She was just being friendly if you ask me... Are you sure?"
You and I are both eccentric. I just call it like it is with me... I am crazy (in mainly good ways). I would never intentionally hurt somebody (unless they intentionally hurt me). I could never lash out against somebody physically (even if they did lash out at me physically... It just isn't in me). When it comes to my personality I am pretty crazy, though. (Aren't we all just a little bit crazy? Don't we have to be just to cope in this world?)
There is one way that we aren't similar, though. I don't have any crushes on anybody that I have around me daily. It would seem that the only person that I have around me daily is my brother... and that would just be creepy. Dating a brother who reminds you of Doctor House just seems horrible... Dating a brother in and of itself would be bad enough. (Yes, my older brother reminds me and a lot of other people of Doctor House. My oldest brother... He reminds me and all of my friends of the unabomber. I have never been compared to anyone to my recollection.)
but my soldiers stay eternal. Well as far as lesbians they are women and I do like to look at them that is just a given so perhaps I like them. sweatdrop Masculine women not so much, though a woman that is not perhaps skinny as a stick or as hefty shall we say, somewhere in-between for me not to small but not to large. (In the right places where she is normally large mind you.) sweatdrop (Also anyone reading this I am sorry if I offended you with that remark. sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop ) Though in my past I cannot say that Masculine (Body-Builder Women) did not peak my curiosity for a little while. Though a man is a man and I have my tastes in wemon the same as most straight guys though....... I have had some changes in my tastes in the past. I do agree though I would not cause harm unless it was necessary to do so and not if I didnt have to absolutely do so to defend myself or save a life or my own. 3nodding (We all need a little bit of the crazies to get by nowadays. ^8^) I would trade you if I could those who I pine after get stuck in my head and I think way to much about could be's and what could be's.. redface Oddly enough that you mentioned it I had a friend in school who we swear looked like the Unibomber when he wore his blue windbreaker jacket he had and didnt shave. (He even had glasses) he didnt do this intentionally he just like the stuff he wore a lot so he wore it often. sweatdrop sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 1:57 pm
Giesta Well as far as lesbians they are women and I do like to look at them that is just a given so perhaps I like them. sweatdrop Masculine women not so much, though a woman that is not perhaps skinny as a stick or as hefty shall we say, somewhere in-between for me not to small but not to large. (In the right places where she is normally large mind you.) sweatdrop (Also anyone reading this I am sorry if I offended you with that remark. sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop ) Though in my past I cannot say that Masculine (Body-Builder Women) did not peak my curiosity for a little while. Though a man is a man and I have my tastes in wemon the same as most straight guys though....... I have had some changes in my tastes in the past. I do agree though I would not cause harm unless it was necessary to do so and not if I didnt have to absolutely do so to defend myself or save a life or my own. 3nodding (We all need a little bit of the crazies to get by nowadays. ^8^) I would trade you if I could those who I pine after get stuck in my head and I think way to much about could be's and what could be's.. redface Oddly enough that you mentioned it I had a friend in school who we swear looked like the Unibomber when he wore his blue windbreaker jacket he had and didnt shave. (He even had glasses) he didnt do this intentionally he just like the stuff he wore a lot so he wore it often. sweatdrop sweatdrop
There is nothing wrong with thinking that lesbians are attractive... as long as you don't start drooling over them or become a stalker or extremely obsessive over them. (Of course, you are reading this from somebody who isn't exactly a lesbian, so my word isn't the law in this matter.)
I understand what you mean by liking a lady who is curvaceous. I mean, I have never cared either way or even really cared whether they were thick, fat, skinny, or anorexic, but most of my guy friends tend to agree with you about a lady needing curves. I can't hate on your without hating on most guys who are out there. (Just make sure that your need for the perfect figure doesn't speak about a need to make up for anything.)
I believe that I may have needed to explain what I meant when I said masculine. I don't really care that much how a person looks on the outside because that beauty is only skin-deep. I tend to like a masculine gender more than a feminine gender. There is a good reason for this. I tend to be more feminine than masculine when it comes to my gender which creates a need for a counter-balance... (or should I say that I don't tend to get along well with feminine people?) I think that what tends to attract me to people the most when it comes to the outside appearance happens to be a nice smile and sexy hair... Oh yeah, and knowing how to dress and not look like a whore. (I would date a traditional Islamic lady [except for the fact that she would be disowned or killed by her family for dating me] before dating woman in daisy-dukes with their thong exposed and a shirt that may as well be a sports-bra.)
Oh yeah... There is somebody who I remind people of! Some people call me Columbine because of my love of wearing a black trench coat to school! I can't help that I love my trench coat... I have loved the idea of owning a black trench coat since way before the whole thing happened. Of course, since adopting the title "Columbine" from some of the people at my school I have decided that I am going to get a dark purple trench coat to wear instead of my black one. (When will people begin to understand that it isn't the clothing that makes the person, but that it is the morals that makes the person? Agent Kay: "A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky dangerous animals and you know it.")
but my soldiers stay eternal.
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Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 4:17 pm
Sergeant JJ Giesta Well as far as lesbians they are women and I do like to look at them that is just a given so perhaps I like them. sweatdrop Masculine women not so much, though a woman that is not perhaps skinny as a stick or as hefty shall we say, somewhere in-between for me not to small but not to large. (In the right places where she is normally large mind you.) sweatdrop (Also anyone reading this I am sorry if I offended you with that remark. sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop ) Though in my past I cannot say that Masculine (Body-Builder Women) did not peak my curiosity for a little while. Though a man is a man and I have my tastes in wemon the same as most straight guys though....... I have had some changes in my tastes in the past. I do agree though I would not cause harm unless it was necessary to do so and not if I didnt have to absolutely do so to defend myself or save a life or my own. 3nodding (We all need a little bit of the crazies to get by nowadays. ^8^) I would trade you if I could those who I pine after get stuck in my head and I think way to much about could be's and what could be's.. redface Oddly enough that you mentioned it I had a friend in school who we swear looked like the Unibomber when he wore his blue windbreaker jacket he had and didnt shave. (He even had glasses) he didnt do this intentionally he just like the stuff he wore a lot so he wore it often. sweatdrop sweatdrop
There is nothing wrong with thinking that lesbians are attractive... as long as you don't start drooling over them or become a stalker or extremely obsessive over them. (Of course, you are reading this from somebody who isn't exactly a lesbian, so my word isn't the law in this matter.)
I understand what you mean by liking a lady who is curvaceous. I mean, I have never cared either way or even really cared whether they were thick, fat, skinny, or anorexic, but most of my guy friends tend to agree with you about a lady needing curves. I can't hate on your without hating on most guys who are out there. (Just make sure that your need for the perfect figure doesn't speak about a need to make up for anything.)
I believe that I may have needed to explain what I meant when I said masculine. I don't really care that much how a person looks on the outside because that beauty is only skin-deep. I tend to like a masculine gender more than a feminine gender. There is a good reason for this. I tend to be more feminine than masculine when it comes to my gender which creates a need for a counter-balance... (or should I say that I don't tend to get along well with feminine people?) I think that what tends to attract me to people the most when it comes to the outside appearance happens to be a nice smile and sexy hair... Oh yeah, and knowing how to dress and not look like a whore. (I would date a traditional Islamic lady [except for the fact that she would be disowned or killed by her family for dating me] before dating woman in daisy-dukes with their thong exposed and a shirt that may as well be a sports-bra.)
Oh yeah... There is somebody who I remind people of! Some people call me Columbine because of my love of wearing a black trench coat to school! I can't help that I love my trench coat... I have loved the idea of owning a black trench coat since way before the whole thing happened. Of course, since adopting the title "Columbine" from some of the people at my school I have decided that I am going to get a dark purple trench coat to wear instead of my black one. (When will people begin to understand that it isn't the clothing that makes the person, but that it is the morals that makes the person? Agent Kay: "A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky dangerous animals and you know it.")
but my soldiers stay eternal. I say that about Lesbians in general because like most guys I have seen my share of naughty pictures in my time as well as other pictures and some of *Those Pictures* with subjects above mentioned. (I wont get into this because all guys are different and such things are things I continue to fight against looking at morally any more. I really dont care for the most part about her figure if she is a close a match to me as I can find and become romanticly involved with. I love her and she loves me truely, her figure wont matter one bit at all to me. biggrin 3nodding I have been told by my friends that I tend to be a bit feminine sadly, and one friend made it his mission during High School to *Tough'in Me Up* in a friendly and mentally encouraging way. (One I mentioned that was Bi-Polar and had similarities to you) He did help me with somethings and helped me build my character up a bit as well as being as I mentioned one of my closest friends. (Though we would mees with each others heads all the time) xd So I am a bit of a sensitive and affectionate guy but I try to not let it get to out of hand though because I have been asked in the past if I was "Gay" which lead to some situations leaving me at odds with those people and I never let them get over that later on when they claimed to be my friends after school when they were *NOT* my friends in High School. I would agree with you on you since of modesty though, I would rather have a lady who is considerate of the person she is in a relationship with and of a decent nature I will say to be dressed appropriately for being in public, I would hate to have than a lady who is In-Modest and trying her hardest to show-off to every man and woman on the street like a Prostitute. (Sadly to many are trying to look just like that these days) stressed My friend I have mentioned also had a trench coat he wore during school, though his was a sort of duster kinda of light brown and was the kind just above your ankles in length. (He wanted a black one but couldnt find one his size at Good-Wills store. 3nodding )
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Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 4:19 pm
Giesta Sergeant JJ Giesta Well as far as lesbians they are women and I do like to look at them that is just a given so perhaps I like them. sweatdrop Masculine women not so much, though a woman that is not perhaps skinny as a stick or as hefty shall we say, somewhere in-between for me not to small but not to large. (In the right places where she is normally large mind you.) sweatdrop (Also anyone reading this I am sorry if I offended you with that remark. sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop sweatdrop ) Though in my past I cannot say that Masculine (Body-Builder Women) did not peak my curiosity for a little while. Though a man is a man and I have my tastes in wemon the same as most straight guys though....... I have had some changes in my tastes in the past. I do agree though I would not cause harm unless it was necessary to do so and not if I didnt have to absolutely do so to defend myself or save a life or my own. 3nodding (We all need a little bit of the crazies to get by nowadays. ^8^) I would trade you if I could those who I pine after get stuck in my head and I think way to much about could be's and what could be's.. redface Oddly enough that you mentioned it I had a friend in school who we swear looked like the Unibomber when he wore his blue windbreaker jacket he had and didnt shave. (He even had glasses) he didnt do this intentionally he just like the stuff he wore a lot so he wore it often. sweatdrop sweatdrop
There is nothing wrong with thinking that lesbians are attractive... as long as you don't start drooling over them or become a stalker or extremely obsessive over them. (Of course, you are reading this from somebody who isn't exactly a lesbian, so my word isn't the law in this matter.)
I understand what you mean by liking a lady who is curvaceous. I mean, I have never cared either way or even really cared whether they were thick, fat, skinny, or anorexic, but most of my guy friends tend to agree with you about a lady needing curves. I can't hate on your without hating on most guys who are out there. (Just make sure that your need for the perfect figure doesn't speak about a need to make up for anything.)
I believe that I may have needed to explain what I meant when I said masculine. I don't really care that much how a person looks on the outside because that beauty is only skin-deep. I tend to like a masculine gender more than a feminine gender. There is a good reason for this. I tend to be more feminine than masculine when it comes to my gender which creates a need for a counter-balance... (or should I say that I don't tend to get along well with feminine people?) I think that what tends to attract me to people the most when it comes to the outside appearance happens to be a nice smile and sexy hair... Oh yeah, and knowing how to dress and not look like a whore. (I would date a traditional Islamic lady [except for the fact that she would be disowned or killed by her family for dating me] before dating woman in daisy-dukes with their thong exposed and a shirt that may as well be a sports-bra.)
Oh yeah... There is somebody who I remind people of! Some people call me Columbine because of my love of wearing a black trench coat to school! I can't help that I love my trench coat... I have loved the idea of owning a black trench coat since way before the whole thing happened. Of course, since adopting the title "Columbine" from some of the people at my school I have decided that I am going to get a dark purple trench coat to wear instead of my black one. (When will people begin to understand that it isn't the clothing that makes the person, but that it is the morals that makes the person? Agent Kay: "A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky dangerous animals and you know it.")
but my soldiers stay eternal. I say that about Lesbians in general because like most guys I have seen my share of naughty pictures in my time as well as other pictures and some of *Those Pictures* with subjects above mentioned. (I wont get into this because all guys are different and such things are things I continue to fight against looking at morally any more. I really dont care for the most part about her figure if she is a close a match to me as I can find and become romanticly involved with. I love her and she loves me truely, her figure wont matter one bit at all to me. biggrin 3nodding I have been told by my friends that I tend to be a bit feminine sadly, and one friend made it his mission during High School to *Tough'in Me Up* in a friendly and mentally encouraging way. (One I mentioned that was Bi-Polar and had similarities to you) He did help me with somethings and helped me build my character up a bit as well as being as I mentioned one of my closest friends. (Though we would mees with each others heads all the time) xd So I am a bit of a sensitive and affectionate guy but I try to not let it get to out of hand though because I have been asked in the past if I was "Gay" which lead to some situations leaving me at odds with those people and I never let them get over that later on when they claimed to be my friends after school when they were *NOT* my friends in High School. I would agree with you on you since of modesty though, I would rather have a lady who is considerate of the person she is in a relationship with and of a decent nature I will say to be dressed appropriately for being in public, I would hate to have than a lady who is In-Modest and trying her hardest to show-off to every man and woman on the street like a Prostitute. (Sadly to many are trying to look just like that these days) stressed My friend I have mentioned also had a trench coat he wore during school, though his was a sort of duster kinda of light brown and was the kind just above your ankles in length. (He wanted a black one but couldnt find one his size at Good-Wills store. 3nodding ) Sadly to many people get to hung up on what clothes mean to them and not to what the clothes mean to the one wearing them. It could just be like "I am wearing this trench coat because its cool or I really like how it keeps me dry during wet weather" and they see it and think " OH-NOS its a bad guy come to kill us!!!!!!!!!!!!" to many here think that any different clothes or hair is bad and I hate that about living in this small town I am in. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Aug 08, 2011 10:53 pm
Giesta Giesta I say that about Lesbians in general because like most guys I have seen my share of naughty pictures in my time as well as other pictures and some of *Those Pictures* with subjects above mentioned. (I wont get into this because all guys are different and such things are things I continue to fight against looking at morally any more. I really dont care for the most part about her figure if she is a close a match to me as I can find and become romanticly involved with. I love her and she loves me truely, her figure wont matter one bit at all to me. biggrin 3nodding I have been told by my friends that I tend to be a bit feminine sadly, and one friend made it his mission during High School to *Tough'in Me Up* in a friendly and mentally encouraging way. (One I mentioned that was Bi-Polar and had similarities to you) He did help me with somethings and helped me build my character up a bit as well as being as I mentioned one of my closest friends. (Though we would mees with each others heads all the time) xd So I am a bit of a sensitive and affectionate guy but I try to not let it get to out of hand though because I have been asked in the past if I was "Gay" which lead to some situations leaving me at odds with those people and I never let them get over that later on when they claimed to be my friends after school when they were *NOT* my friends in High School. I would agree with you on you since of modesty though, I would rather have a lady who is considerate of the person she is in a relationship with and of a decent nature I will say to be dressed appropriately for being in public, I would hate to have than a lady who is In-Modest and trying her hardest to show-off to every man and woman on the street like a Prostitute. (Sadly to many are trying to look just like that these days) stressed My friend I have mentioned also had a trench coat he wore during school, though his was a sort of duster kinda of light brown and was the kind just above your ankles in length. (He wanted a black one but couldnt find one his size at Good-Wills store. 3nodding ) Sadly to many people get to hung up on what clothes mean to them and not to what the clothes mean to the one wearing them. It could just be like "I am wearing this trench coat because its cool or I really like how it keeps me dry during wet weather" and they see it and think " OH-NOS its a bad guy come to kill us!!!!!!!!!!!!" to many here think that any different clothes or hair is bad and I hate that about living in this small town I am in. sweatdrop
I just want to let you know that you can talk to me about anything that you want to if you ever feel the need to talk about anything. I don't judge people on things that are out of the norm. If you don't feel that you can talk to me in a topic then you are welcome to contact me through a PM. My thoughts on judging happen to be, "Don't judge lest ye be judged," which simply translates in layman's terms to, "Don't judge anybody on what you consider to be their faults unless you desire to be judged on your faults." Of course, if you don't want to talk about it because of moral issues that you have with it then please feel free not to talk about it. (Okay... Now that I have said that...)
Why is it that you are sad about the fact that you may be a bit feminine? It is really nothing to be sad about. I will gladly and willingly admit that I am feminine. I have nothing to be embarrassed about because I understand that it is just how my family nurtured me into being. I was raised by my sister and my mom more than I was raised by my dad and brothers. My dad didn't have enough time for me back when I was younger, and when he should have had enough time for me he was busy watching television and relaxing to accept the fact that he had me as a son. I accept my femininity warmly because I understand why I am like I am. Sure, being feminine does have a few problems with the fact that while you are growing up most girls see you more as best friend material, but is it really so bad to have the girls seeing you as being their best friend knowing perfectly well that best friends last longer than girlfriends?
Unfortunately, it would seem that women have been trained to believe that guys will not be attracted to them unless they look like prostitutes. Most women feel that they won't even get any attention at all if they are dressed modestly. I can't say that men are really helping the matter that much with the fact that they tend to pay attention to these girls more often when the girls are wearing extremely revealing clothing. If you dress modestly as a woman then you are typically overlooked in this society.
This society makes me sick... "If you are considered as being feminine as a guy, then you MUST be gay." "If you are dressed like a lady, then you AREN'T going to attract any men." Oh gosh, how I hate this society. It would seem that it is alright to have prejudice against a person just based on who they are and/or what they wear, but if you don't have prejudice against a person then there is something wrong with you. (Social norms just tend to annoy the mess out of me.)
(Did you say that you think that I am bi-polar? I am just wondering because I have never said that I was bi-polar [I don't remember saying anything about a possibility of my being bi-polar, anyway], and my counselor seems to think that I am just a normal person.)
but my soldiers stay eternal.
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Posted: Tue Aug 09, 2011 1:47 pm
Sergeant JJ Giesta Giesta I say that about Lesbians in general because like most guys I have seen my share of naughty pictures in my time as well as other pictures and some of *Those Pictures* with subjects above mentioned. (I wont get into this because all guys are different and such things are things I continue to fight against looking at morally any more. I really dont care for the most part about her figure if she is a close a match to me as I can find and become romanticly involved with. I love her and she loves me truely, her figure wont matter one bit at all to me. biggrin 3nodding I have been told by my friends that I tend to be a bit feminine sadly, and one friend made it his mission during High School to *Tough'in Me Up* in a friendly and mentally encouraging way. (One I mentioned that was Bi-Polar and had similarities to you) He did help me with somethings and helped me build my character up a bit as well as being as I mentioned one of my closest friends. (Though we would mees with each others heads all the time) xd So I am a bit of a sensitive and affectionate guy but I try to not let it get to out of hand though because I have been asked in the past if I was "Gay" which lead to some situations leaving me at odds with those people and I never let them get over that later on when they claimed to be my friends after school when they were *NOT* my friends in High School. I would agree with you on you since of modesty though, I would rather have a lady who is considerate of the person she is in a relationship with and of a decent nature I will say to be dressed appropriately for being in public, I would hate to have than a lady who is In-Modest and trying her hardest to show-off to every man and woman on the street like a Prostitute. (Sadly to many are trying to look just like that these days) stressed My friend I have mentioned also had a trench coat he wore during school, though his was a sort of duster kinda of light brown and was the kind just above your ankles in length. (He wanted a black one but couldnt find one his size at Good-Wills store. 3nodding ) Sadly to many people get to hung up on what clothes mean to them and not to what the clothes mean to the one wearing them. It could just be like "I am wearing this trench coat because its cool or I really like how it keeps me dry during wet weather" and they see it and think " OH-NOS its a bad guy come to kill us!!!!!!!!!!!!" to many here think that any different clothes or hair is bad and I hate that about living in this small town I am in. sweatdrop
I just want to let you know that you can talk to me about anything that you want to if you ever feel the need to talk about anything. I don't judge people on things that are out of the norm. If you don't feel that you can talk to me in a topic then you are welcome to contact me through a PM. My thoughts on judging happen to be, "Don't judge lest ye be judged," which simply translates in layman's terms to, "Don't judge anybody on what you consider to be their faults unless you desire to be judged on your faults." Of course, if you don't want to talk about it because of moral issues that you have with it then please feel free not to talk about it. (Okay... Now that I have said that...)
Why is it that you are sad about the fact that you may be a bit feminine? It is really nothing to be sad about. I will gladly and willingly admit that I am feminine. I have nothing to be embarrassed about because I understand that it is just how my family nurtured me into being. I was raised by my sister and my mom more than I was raised by my dad and brothers. My dad didn't have enough time for me back when I was younger, and when he should have had enough time for me he was busy watching television and relaxing to accept the fact that he had me as a son. I accept my femininity warmly because I understand why I am like I am. Sure, being feminine does have a few problems with the fact that while you are growing up most girls see you more as best friend material, but is it really so bad to have the girls seeing you as being their best friend knowing perfectly well that best friends last longer than girlfriends?
Unfortunately, it would seem that women have been trained to believe that guys will not be attracted to them unless they look like prostitutes. Most women feel that they won't even get any attention at all if they are dressed modestly. I can't say that men are really helping the matter that much with the fact that they tend to pay attention to these girls more often when the girls are wearing extremely revealing clothing. If you dress modestly as a woman then you are typically overlooked in this society.
This society makes me sick... "If you are considered as being feminine as a guy, then you MUST be gay." "If you are dressed like a lady, then you AREN'T going to attract any men." Oh gosh, how I hate this society. It would seem that it is alright to have prejudice against a person just based on who they are and/or what they wear, but if you don't have prejudice against a person then there is something wrong with you. (Social norms just tend to annoy the mess out of me.)
(Did you say that you think that I am bi-polar? I am just wondering because I have never said that I was bi-polar [I don't remember saying anything about a possibility of my being bi-polar, anyway], and my counselor seems to think that I am just a normal person.)
but my soldiers stay eternal. Yes, I am famililar with that passage in the Bible. 3nodding I try to as a matter of fact make it my words to live by, that I wont judge people by their looks or by what they choose to do with their life in general though the most important is to show people love and sadly this World doesnt have enough compassion, love or goodness left for everyone anymore, (Like you said, this world is just horrible for what it thinks is the Social Norm, this person is a guy and feminine and is GAY or this girl is nicely dressed, but not dressed slutty dressed, she must be a PRUDE or SHY and the fact that both genders though, Men do it more in my opinion than women happen to think slutty women are more attractive than nice demure women are. stressed I have had a similar situation as you as well with that regard, with my parents. I was mostly raised by my Mom and my Dad was there and was conscious of me but didnt take as much interest in me as he should have when I was younger and as a small child. (My Mom was also the authority in the house not my Dad) So as a result I grew up much much closer to my Mother than my Dad and I do feel that I am a very feminine guy but I guess I need to not let it get to me because it has its benefits and good sides to it, (And anymore I do not want to be my Father's son.) And yes, it seems we and everyone is pushed now in the media and in all forms of news to "Hate Him" or "Hate Her" or even "Hate these because they are different than you" way way to much hate and it is being sold as something everyone "Should be doing". stressed I am sorry, I didnt seperate the words very well in the above message, I meant my friend who is similar to you that I mentioned that was a close friend to me he is Bi-Polar NOT YOU. sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2011 2:27 am
Giesta Yes, I am famililar with that passage in the Bible. 3nodding I try to as a matter of fact make it my words to live by, that I wont judge people by their looks or by what they choose to do with their life in general though the most important is to show people love and sadly this World doesnt have enough compassion, love or goodness left for everyone anymore, (Like you said, this world is just horrible for what it thinks is the Social Norm, this person is a guy and feminine and is GAY or this girl is nicely dressed, but not dressed slutty dressed, she must be a PRUDE or SHY and the fact that both genders though, Men do it more in my opinion than women happen to think slutty women are more attractive than nice demure women are. stressed I have had a similar situation as you as well with that regard, with my parents. I was mostly raised by my Mom and my Dad was there and was conscious of me but didnt take as much interest in me as he should have when I was younger and as a small child. (My Mom was also the authority in the house not my Dad) So as a result I grew up much much closer to my Mother than my Dad and I do feel that I am a very feminine guy but I guess I need to not let it get to me because it has its benefits and good sides to it, (And anymore I do not want to be my Father's son.) And yes, it seems we and everyone is pushed now in the media and in all forms of news to "Hate Him" or "Hate Her" or even "Hate these because they are different than you" way way to much hate and it is being sold as something everyone "Should be doing". stressed I am sorry, I didnt seperate the words very well in the above message, I meant my friend who is similar to you that I mentioned that was a close friend to me he is Bi-Polar NOT YOU. sweatdrop
Don't get me wrong... I love my dad, I really do. I was just raised by my mom and my mom had the final say in anything having to do with me. I was never my dad's favorite son and I was the runt of the litter. My mom raised me the best that she could, and for that I am thankful. My dad is pretty much my mom's sub, now... which may or may not be the way that it is supposed to be. (My sister says that my dad was always my mom's sub, but I really don't know that one for sure.)
I would ask what is so bad about your father, but I figure that it is really none of my business and therefore I have no intention to ask. I think that I read around two things that could make you not be able to respect him that much, but my ex-master showed me two ways to use the negatives of my own father to demand acknowledgement and respect (it worked a little too well and I ended up taking over my mom's old position for awhile).
I am not mad about your making it almost sound as though you were saying that I was bi-polar. I was pretty sure that you weren't meaning for it to come out like that, but I had to make sure that I was not reading too far into what you were saying and therefore I kind of tested the waters. I know that my testing might make it sound as though I am taking offense at what somebody is saying, but just kind of do that because I have sarcasm in my blood and it tends to chime in when I should be taking offense at something that my mind has already over-analyzed to the point that I think that I understand what was really meant.
You will know if I really take true offense at something directed towards me... I won't say anything at all until three or four pages later on that particular topic. I have no idea where I adapted that defense mechanism from, but it tends to work well to not get myself into too much trouble very often. (Some of my friends have told me that it is just my feminine side shining through, but most women that I have known tend to yell at you until you are blue in the face [not them, but you].)
I am not quite sure why I am trying to stay away from replying on the facts of society and the media, right now. I could think of many reasons that could be considered worthy of staying away from talking about it like the fact that it really does annoy me that they could be as cruel as they really are, the fact that there is really very little that I can do to change our society into being a less cruel society, or the fact that I have tended to be the guy who our society has picked on from the day that I started elementary school. I just know that my mind is tending to stray away from it, right now. (Maybe I will touch on the subject a little more later or something...)
but my soldiers stay eternal.
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Posted: Wed Aug 10, 2011 2:44 am
Sergeant JJ Giesta Yes, I am famililar with that passage in the Bible. 3nodding I try to as a matter of fact make it my words to live by, that I wont judge people by their looks or by what they choose to do with their life in general though the most important is to show people love and sadly this World doesnt have enough compassion, love or goodness left for everyone anymore, (Like you said, this world is just horrible for what it thinks is the Social Norm, this person is a guy and feminine and is GAY or this girl is nicely dressed, but not dressed slutty dressed, she must be a PRUDE or SHY and the fact that both genders though, Men do it more in my opinion than women happen to think slutty women are more attractive than nice demure women are. stressed I have had a similar situation as you as well with that regard, with my parents. I was mostly raised by my Mom and my Dad was there and was conscious of me but didnt take as much interest in me as he should have when I was younger and as a small child. (My Mom was also the authority in the house not my Dad) So as a result I grew up much much closer to my Mother than my Dad and I do feel that I am a very feminine guy but I guess I need to not let it get to me because it has its benefits and good sides to it, (And anymore I do not want to be my Father's son.) And yes, it seems we and everyone is pushed now in the media and in all forms of news to "Hate Him" or "Hate Her" or even "Hate these because they are different than you" way way to much hate and it is being sold as something everyone "Should be doing". stressed I am sorry, I didnt seperate the words very well in the above message, I meant my friend who is similar to you that I mentioned that was a close friend to me he is Bi-Polar NOT YOU. sweatdrop
Don't get me wrong... I love my dad, I really do. I was just raised by my mom and my mom had the final say in anything having to do with me. I was never my dad's favorite son and I was the runt of the litter. My mom raised me the best that she could, and for that I am thankful. My dad is pretty much my mom's sub, now... which may or may not be the way that it is supposed to be. (My sister says that my dad was always my mom's sub, but I really don't know that one for sure.)
I would ask what is so bad about your father, but I figure that it is really none of my business and therefore I have no intention to ask. I think that I read around two things that could make you not be able to respect him that much, but my ex-master showed me two ways to use the negatives of my own father to demand acknowledgement and respect (it worked a little too well and I ended up taking over my mom's old position for awhile).
I am not mad about your making it almost sound as though you were saying that I was bi-polar. I was pretty sure that you weren't meaning for it to come out like that, but I had to make sure that I was not reading too far into what you were saying and therefore I kind of tested the waters. I know that my testing might make it sound as though I am taking offense at what somebody is saying, but just kind of do that because I have sarcasm in my blood and it tends to chime in when I should be taking offense at something that my mind has already over-analyzed to the point that I think that I understand what was really meant.
You will know if I really take true offense at something directed towards me... I won't say anything at all until three or four pages later on that particular topic. I have no idea where I adapted that defense mechanism from, but it tends to work well to not get myself into too much trouble very often. (Some of my friends have told me that it is just my feminine side shining through, but most women that I have known tend to yell at you until you are blue in the face [not them, but you].)
I am not quite sure why I am trying to stay away from replying on the facts of society and the media, right now. I could think of many reasons that could be considered worthy of staying away from talking about it like the fact that it really does annoy me that they could be as cruel as they really are, the fact that there is really very little that I can do to change our society into being a less cruel society, or the fact that I have tended to be the guy who our society has picked on from the day that I started elementary school. I just know that my mind is tending to stray away from it, right now. (Maybe I will touch on the subject a little more later or something...)
but my soldiers stay eternal. My dad is somewhat similar but he seems to let to many things go so often, he seems like to me (My Father) that he isnt able to focus on things like a Father that has growing or grown child for that matter should be focusing on or doing. And he has some particular things he has done or hasnt for that matter which is the problems which I am my Mother have with him but I wont go into that, I Love him yes I wont stop loving him but he has done, many things which have hurt both me and my Mother though it took me longer it seems to notice those things or to see what it is he does to cause those situations. I though you most likely werent mad just curious if I had said that and had meant yourself or my friend was all, its fine I am glad to have cleard that up. 3nodding 3 or 4 pages you say? I will have to see. JOKING JOKING, I dont intentional like to make people mad if I can help it, I even seem to have found out recently I have a phobia about people who are mad apparently something I do when I see someone mad around me. sweatdrop And yes, women often are very very vocal when mad and especially when it happens and exactly to the point of the problem immediately. (My Mother & Dad have shown me unintentionally over the years and didnt know I was watching) Also, thats fine, I enjoy this talking we are having and am completely open whenever you want to rant or talk about our incredibly horrible media and entertainment industry out there. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 10:22 pm
Maybe we should turn the spambox into s serious conversations forum. lol
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 11:20 pm
Xalikar Maybe we should turn the spambox into s serious conversations forum. lol
I told the crew that the Spambox was developing into something more... and my thoughts about creating a council for it. (I am still not sure about the "council" part, though.)
but my soldiers stay eternal.
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 11:33 pm
A council? Please explain.
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Posted: Sat Aug 20, 2011 7:03 pm
Sergeant JJ Xalikar Maybe we should turn the spambox into s serious conversations forum. lol
I told the crew that the Spambox was developing into something more... and my thoughts about creating a council for it. (I am still not sure about the "council" part, though.)
but my soldiers stay eternal. Is an interesting idea, though as long as I have been a Member here in Spambox, hasnt had anymore than maybe between 5 to 10 people posting (Regularly) maximum. But it does sound like a good idea. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2011 5:12 am
I like it. You should do it.
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Posted: Sun Aug 21, 2011 5:06 pm
Xalikar I like it. You should do it. If the others think it is as good an idea then we will see, though it is Harvey_Kinkle's Topic so it would be a idea to ask him first. I will see about contacting him and seeing if it is okay as well if you havent already done so. ^8^
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