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 Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 9:01 pm
Im cunfused I have strong feelings for guys but when im changing in the girls locker room I can't help but stare at other girls thinking about how beutiful they then I started joking whtih my mom how bi's are then she got all seriouse and said she would be disipointed in me if i was bi or les
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 1:41 am
i'm a bit on the confused side as well crying i have no problem doing things with guys or girls but how is it i don't feel confortable enough to date a guy (i can date girls fine) confused
and a second thought my parents have told me that they would accept me perfectly fine if i told them i was gay or bi but somehow i know they would bug me about it and make the whole thing a joke just for fun not to bully but it's bad enough now as it is. so i'm not sure what to do on that topic
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Posted: Sat Oct 01, 2005 6:09 pm
icomeinpieces i'm a bit on the confused side as well crying i have no problem doing things with guys or girls but how is it i don't feel confortable enough to date a guy (i can date girls fine) confused and a second thought my parents have told me that they would accept me perfectly fine if i told them i was gay or bi but somehow i know they would bug me about it and make the whole thing a joke just for fun not to bully but it's bad enough now as it is. so i'm not sure what to do on that topic My mom told me the same thing before I came out to her but I felt that she wouldn't really be okay with it or would make a joke out of it too. She actually was/is okay with it though so I guess it worked out.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 10:21 am
cloakedinshadows icomeinpieces i'm a bit on the confused side as well crying i have no problem doing things with guys or girls but how is it i don't feel confortable enough to date a guy (i can date girls fine) confused and a second thought my parents have told me that they would accept me perfectly fine if i told them i was gay or bi but somehow i know they would bug me about it and make the whole thing a joke just for fun not to bully but it's bad enough now as it is. so i'm not sure what to do on that topic My mom told me the same thing before I came out to her but I felt that she wouldn't really be okay with it or would make a joke out of it too. She actually was/is okay with it though so I guess it worked out. well i'm glad things worked out as good as it did for you. i wish things seemed as easy as that. i prolly could tell my mom as she has a gay friend who is pretty cool but she would end up telling my dad and things i'm sure would go downhill from there
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 3:25 pm
icomeinpieces cloakedinshadows icomeinpieces i'm a bit on the confused side as well crying i have no problem doing things with guys or girls but how is it i don't feel confortable enough to date a guy (i can date girls fine) confused and a second thought my parents have told me that they would accept me perfectly fine if i told them i was gay or bi but somehow i know they would bug me about it and make the whole thing a joke just for fun not to bully but it's bad enough now as it is. so i'm not sure what to do on that topic My mom told me the same thing before I came out to her but I felt that she wouldn't really be okay with it or would make a joke out of it too. She actually was/is okay with it though so I guess it worked out. well i'm glad things worked out as good as it did for you. i wish things seemed as easy as that. i prolly could tell my mom as she has a gay friend who is pretty cool but she would end up telling my dad and things i'm sure would go downhill from there I didn't mean to make it seem as if it was easy. I was stressed out for months about it, to the point of getting headaches most days. I get sick easily and being stressed makes it more so. My step dad told me in no uncertain terms that he loves me but doesn't approve of this at all nor does he endorse it. If I was to have a female lover in the future she would not most likely be welcome at our house. My father, I don't see, so he doesn't care. I know what you mean about telling your father though. My mother used to tell my step-dad everything and it drove me crazy to no end. Please don't mistake what I'm saying. (Nor take offense, because my tone isn't getting across and this seems to be sounding annoyed when I'm not) It's so far from an easy thing to do and right now, my mother thinks I'm too young to know what I'm talking about. Because I said I still like guys, which makes me bisexual, she thinks I'm just confused. Right now the whole topic isn't brought up and ignored for the most part. I told my mother I wanted to be a gay guy, as a joke. I tend to spit out the first thing that comes to mind. She told me 'then you'd be the same as you are now. Why don't you just practice liking guys more and get back to me.' So, it wasn't easy, but at least I don't feel like I have to lie to them all the time. My mother understands...as well as I think she'll ever be able to, and my stepdad doesn't hate me. So, I guess I'm realitively lucky. I would suggest telling them at a realitively good time, timing is everything so to speak. If you do wish to talk though, pm me or reply. I do hope things go well for you, just so you know. *glomp*
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Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 10:20 am
cloakedinshadows I didn't mean to make it seem as if it was easy. I was stressed out for months about it, to the point of getting headaches most days. I get sick easily and being stressed makes it more so. My step dad told me in no uncertain terms that he loves me but doesn't approve of this at all nor does he endorse it. If I was to have a female lover in the future she would not most likely be welcome at our house. My father, I don't see, so he doesn't care. I know what you mean about telling your father though. My mother used to tell my step-dad everything and it drove me crazy to no end. Please don't mistake what I'm saying. (Nor take offense, because my tone isn't getting across and this seems to be sounding annoyed when I'm not) It's so far from an easy thing to do and right now, my mother thinks I'm too young to know what I'm talking about. Because I said I still like guys, which makes me bisexual, she thinks I'm just confused. Right now the whole topic isn't brought up and ignored for the most part. I told my mother I wanted to be a gay guy, as a joke. I tend to spit out the first thing that comes to mind. She told me 'then you'd be the same as you are now. Why don't you just practice liking guys more and get back to me.' So, it wasn't easy, but at least I don't feel like I have to lie to them all the time. My mother understands...as well as I think she'll ever be able to, and my stepdad doesn't hate me. So, I guess I'm realitively lucky. I would suggest telling them at a realitively good time, timing is everything so to speak. If you do wish to talk though, pm me or reply. I do hope things go well for you, just so you know. *glomp* thanx but i dought i'll ever get the nerve to tell them, but at least the friends i've told or good with it specially since they are bi as well biggrin , so there is some goodness for me
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 12:30 pm
I am bi and i don't know how to tell my mom. Anyone got any ideas?
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Posted: Tue Oct 11, 2005 1:52 pm
Darkangel37043 I am bi and i don't know how to tell my mom. Anyone got any ideas?
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Posted: Wed Oct 12, 2005 9:14 pm
Yeah...that's always a hard one. Telling the parents. It seriously depends. Some will ignore you, some will kick you out, some will ignore what you said, some will say they understand but deep down are upset, some will be alright, some will be happy...it seriously depends. I told my mom and I said I had a crush on this one girl and then my mom pretended to hold a baby and she was like, "now I'm never going to get grandchildren." But she was alright with it...but that only happens if you're lucky. My mom is a lesbian...so it was kinda easy.
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 6:15 pm
Telling my mother that I was bisexual wasn't too bad, although she's still convinced it's a phase. Telling my friends was worse than hard. I told the one I thought would be most comfortable with it, and I asked if they'd wait until I told the others. She respected me enough to do so. I still have two friends I can't tell, and it's been more than a year. Both are Catholic, so I feel like they would think that they must think of me as an evil, child-molesting pervert or something. I don't want to offend them; after all, I'm not interested in either of them, so why offend their sensibilities?
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 10:13 am
ok i have a wierd question why is it that i feel fine dating a girl but it feels like i'm almost missing something whenever i go anyfurther, but then it feels wierd to want to date a guy but i don't feel like there's something missing when i sleep with one
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 10:19 am
icomeinpieces ok i have a wierd question why is it that i feel fine dating a girl but it feels like i'm almost missing something whenever i go anyfurther, but then it feels wierd to want to date a guy but i don't feel like there's something missing when i sleep with one I'm sorry, this is what happened to Martin. It's the curse of bisexuality. I'm afraid it is. You'll always have that feeling, unless you're in a three-way-relationship.
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Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2005 5:36 am
Dark Eagle Babe icomeinpieces ok i have a wierd question why is it that i feel fine dating a girl but it feels like i'm almost missing something whenever i go anyfurther, but then it feels wierd to want to date a guy but i don't feel like there's something missing when i sleep with one I'm sorry, this is what happened to Martin. It's the curse of bisexuality. I'm afraid it is. You'll always have that feeling, unless you're in a three-way-relationship.
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Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2005 10:40 pm
cloakedinshadows Dark Eagle Babe icomeinpieces ok i have a wierd question why is it that i feel fine dating a girl but it feels like i'm almost missing something whenever i go anyfurther, but then it feels wierd to want to date a guy but i don't feel like there's something missing when i sleep with one I'm sorry, this is what happened to Martin. It's the curse of bisexuality. I'm afraid it is. You'll always have that feeling, unless you're in a three-way-relationship. Heh.. it cursed his relationship with me.. But fine, it's alright.. I guess I can't really blame him..
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