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I just believe that we are capable of loving anyone and gender doesn't matter. It's for the person that each person is.

i do believe it exists... i myself have a problem with male homosexuals *sighs* i know it's not right, and i know i shouldn't feel this way. but men scare me and male homosexuals scare me even more. i dunno why, i can't explain it. i apologize to all the male homosexuals or bi-sexuals out there.

Nebbie what is polyamory? I never heard of that term before.

Polyamory is a bit complicated, but basically it is love between more than two people. Someone who is polyamorous feels like they're able to love more than one person at a time, or they prefer having relationships with more than one person at a time. I'm not talking about cheating or sneaking around your significant other's back. In order for things to work out right without too many hurt feelings, everyone in the relationship has to be open with each other. It can be hard and confusing.
Polyamory is sometimes thought of as a bi thing, because some people think bis need both a man and a woman in their life. This isn't true, 'cos you can be straight and want relationships with two people of the opposite sex, you could be bi and have relationships with two people of both sexes, or gay or lesbian and have relationship with your own sex. What I'm trying to say is that polyamory has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. Just like being trans is separate from your sexual orientation.
Some polyamorous say that different people appeal to them in different ways, and that they have needs that just one person can't fill. Not that you'd be overly needy or greedy. Say that you like someone who's cuddly and likes watching chick flicks, but also someone who is really into mountain biking. Not that this couldn't occur in one person, but let's be hypothetical here (it's a crappy example anyways). So you find these two people, and you love them for being who they are, they're different people, but you love each of them because they fulfill the needs that the other doesn't. Now, if you let them know and they're okay with you being with the other person too and understand that you love them both, you can have a pretty healthy relationship. I mean, there could be definite problems, such as jealousy between both of your partners. It's a very tricky thing.
I've only met three people who say they're polyamorous. One was with a heterosexual couple, so it was like a triangle, and it suited them well. The second had been in many relationships, some work out, others don't. (It's possible to be in a relationship with more than two people too, but it's easiest for me to think of it just with the two, it's less complicated!)
The last person was my age, just experimenting with polyamory, but not really finding any successful relationships. I think her fiance was hurt by it, even tho he said he understood it... 'cos then he cheated on her.

Sorry for rambling... ^^;;
I hope that cleared up a few questions.

hm....i would say homophobia does exist, in fact, im going through it right now!, im realizing that i have feelings for both sexs..im scared....but reading these conversations has really made me want to come out.....im a freshamn in high school this year...and im scared of what other people might think of me.....my community is so based on what other people think of you...heck if you want to live here you have to have 3 people approve of you!! i dont really know what to do...just wich i could have some help...or talk to someone who was once in the same boat as i am...so frustrating crying sweatdrop

I think some of you may be confused. Internalized homophobia is hating the homosexuality within yourself. If you hate/dislike gay guys or bi people but love the fact you are a lesbian thats not internalized homophobia thats just plain homophobia