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 Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 5:40 pm
I'm just saying not to put on a smile for everyone one to see. Seriously I cannot smile. I probably should have worded it carefully that its a medical condition. The muscles of my mouth cannot crack into a smile. If they could I would "put on a happy face" but its medically and physically impossible. Its like telling a blind person to look or a deaf to hear or a mute to speak up. I'm one of those people who are physically incapable of smiling no matter how hard I try.
And I should have also made it clear that I am looking for tips on changing myself. I know the first thing I need to learn is to be more coherent in what I say.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 12:52 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R ShortyTanker S.E.I.F.E.R I would have to be the ugliest person in the world. I don't have any "rep" which is a stupid reason. I act friendly and inviting towards people even though I do not recieve the same response. Am I social? I'm the one whose stuck trying to get a conversation rolling before I realize I should just leave. Ok...asking about you having a reputation isn't a stupid question. You could be known as a druggy or a stalker or pretty much anything else bad. So there. I never said it was a stupid question. Im sorry, you said reason.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 12:54 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R grapeseed Perhaps if you had a more positive attitude towards people in general you would make more friends. However I understand if you have been rejected many times you don't really HAVE a positive attitude towards people .. but you just need to try harder. PS. Prozac is horrible ... try a different anti depressant / anti-anxiety type deal. Effexor XR has worked well for me the last couple years. I don't want a crutch. I see taking pills as more of a crutch rather than truly being free of depression. I'm sorry but I don't like pills. Holy crap you're serious? You don't take any pills? I have to admit that is cool. And you should be proud of that...
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 12:59 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R Wendy_Chan Do you have money or resources to go someplace fresh and start anew? A change of pace might be good for you. Prolly not, since you're still in school... but for July, I went to a program at a university where no one knew each other, since we came from all over the US and the world. You bond really fast that first day with, if not your roommates, than your classmates. Everyone sounds dumb by going "Hi, what's your name?" but you get over it and it's nice to have people to eat meals with and travel places (this was NYC) with. And don't wallow in your own self-pity, as it seems you are doing by saying everyone else has a relationship but you. It just makes you seem less attractive. I'm sorry if that was a bit blunt, but I don't like sugarcoating things. Thank you for your advice but I am someone with very limited resources and knowledge of such activities. I'm afraid you just described something that's beyond my reach. Its not my negativity saying so, its the actual truth. Also, you have just proven that I am not attractive enough to garner any type of relationship. Not true about that relationship part. It could be a bit fustrating to someone...but it would get better.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 1:21 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R I'm just saying not to put on a smile for everyone one to see. Seriously I cannot smile. I probably should have worded it carefully that its a medical condition. The muscles of my mouth cannot crack into a smile. If they could I would "put on a happy face" but its medically and physically impossible. Its like telling a blind person to look or a deaf to hear or a mute to speak up. I'm one of those people who are physically incapable of smiling no matter how hard I try. And I should have also made it clear that I am looking for tips on changing myself. I know the first thing I need to learn is to be more coherent in what I say. Well that is a shame. And it really sucks too. Well, i know how hard it is to change yourself. I had to do it...and it was hard. I made a lot of enemies, but gained a few things. *thinks* You don't need to smile to express your happiness. But you say you want to change. What exactly do you want to change?
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 1:22 pm
ShortyTanker S.E.I.F.E.R Wendy_Chan Do you have money or resources to go someplace fresh and start anew? A change of pace might be good for you. Prolly not, since you're still in school... but for July, I went to a program at a university where no one knew each other, since we came from all over the US and the world. You bond really fast that first day with, if not your roommates, than your classmates. Everyone sounds dumb by going "Hi, what's your name?" but you get over it and it's nice to have people to eat meals with and travel places (this was NYC) with. And don't wallow in your own self-pity, as it seems you are doing by saying everyone else has a relationship but you. It just makes you seem less attractive. I'm sorry if that was a bit blunt, but I don't like sugarcoating things. Thank you for your advice but I am someone with very limited resources and knowledge of such activities. I'm afraid you just described something that's beyond my reach. Its not my negativity saying so, its the actual truth. Also, you have just proven that I am not attractive enough to garner any type of relationship. Not true about that relationship part. It could be a bit fustrating to someone...but it would get better. You're right it is frustrating. I mean how can anyone still have hope after so much rejection and still not knowing the reason(s) why? How am I supposed to get better and improve when I do not know what I need to improve? Am I supposed to read everyone else's mind to figure that out? Or is it just the fact that it is just me and nothing to do with my personality, approach, volume of speech, etc? What?!
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 1:26 pm
ShortyTanker S.E.I.F.E.R I'm just saying not to put on a smile for everyone one to see. Seriously I cannot smile. I probably should have worded it carefully that its a medical condition. The muscles of my mouth cannot crack into a smile. If they could I would "put on a happy face" but its medically and physically impossible. Its like telling a blind person to look or a deaf to hear or a mute to speak up. I'm one of those people who are physically incapable of smiling no matter how hard I try. And I should have also made it clear that I am looking for tips on changing myself. I know the first thing I need to learn is to be more coherent in what I say. Well that is a shame. And it really sucks too. Well, i know how hard it is to change yourself. I had to do it...and it was hard. I made a lot of enemies, but gained a few things. *thinks* You don't need to smile to express your happiness. But you say you want to change. What exactly do you want to change? I don't know what to change that people don't like about me. Nobody does not even talk to me let alone get to know me. So I don't know what to change.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 1:35 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R ShortyTanker S.E.I.F.E.R Wendy_Chan Do you have money or resources to go someplace fresh and start anew? A change of pace might be good for you. Prolly not, since you're still in school... but for July, I went to a program at a university where no one knew each other, since we came from all over the US and the world. You bond really fast that first day with, if not your roommates, than your classmates. Everyone sounds dumb by going "Hi, what's your name?" but you get over it and it's nice to have people to eat meals with and travel places (this was NYC) with. And don't wallow in your own self-pity, as it seems you are doing by saying everyone else has a relationship but you. It just makes you seem less attractive. I'm sorry if that was a bit blunt, but I don't like sugarcoating things. Thank you for your advice but I am someone with very limited resources and knowledge of such activities. I'm afraid you just described something that's beyond my reach. Its not my negativity saying so, its the actual truth. Also, you have just proven that I am not attractive enough to garner any type of relationship. Not true about that relationship part. It could be a bit fustrating to someone...but it would get better. You're right it is frustrating. I mean how can anyone still have hope after so much rejection and still not knowing the reason(s) why? How am I supposed to get better and improve when I do not know what I need to improve? Am I supposed to read everyone else's mind to figure that out? Or is it just the fact that it is just me and nothing to do with my personality, approach, volume of speech, etc? What?! Well...you don't need to go to everyone's standards of uhh...whatever they wanna call it. You are who you are and if you feel the need to change then change into whatever you want to change to. Maybe it's just them, that they are low or just think that they feel power by doing what they do.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 1:38 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R ShortyTanker S.E.I.F.E.R I'm just saying not to put on a smile for everyone one to see. Seriously I cannot smile. I probably should have worded it carefully that its a medical condition. The muscles of my mouth cannot crack into a smile. If they could I would "put on a happy face" but its medically and physically impossible. Its like telling a blind person to look or a deaf to hear or a mute to speak up. I'm one of those people who are physically incapable of smiling no matter how hard I try. And I should have also made it clear that I am looking for tips on changing myself. I know the first thing I need to learn is to be more coherent in what I say. Well that is a shame. And it really sucks too. Well, i know how hard it is to change yourself. I had to do it...and it was hard. I made a lot of enemies, but gained a few things. *thinks* You don't need to smile to express your happiness. But you say you want to change. What exactly do you want to change? I don't know what to change that people don't like about me. Nobody does not even talk to me let alone get to know me. So I don't know what to change. Well....i'm talking to you.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 1:44 pm
But you don't know me. You do not have any insight of who I really am. You only see a pathetic loser ranting about how miserable his life is and who is defensive when people give him bad advice. And change is not something that is so easily done. Not in my case anyway. My change would have to be a complete overhaul of who I am, what my identity is apparently, in order to be accepted according to your standards. In other words, I cannot be me I have to be someone else.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 1:57 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R But you don't know me. You do not have any insight of who I really am. You only see a pathetic loser ranting about how miserable his life is and who is defensive when people give him bad advice. And change is not something that is so easily done. Not in my case anyway. My change would have to be a complete overhaul of who I am, what my identity is apparently, in order to be accepted according to your standards. In other words, I cannot be me I have to be someone else. Then i would have to say you don't know me. You don't know what my standards are. And it took me over 5 years to change a few things in my life...and it's slowly getting better. I know it won't happen overnight, it just takes time. Like my anger issues.... rofl trying and it's not easy.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 2:00 pm
That still does no answer what I need to change about me though. If that is exactly what will help me. The one and only thing in my life that does need change is that I'm alone and always have been alone. And that's what I've been pining about this whole time.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 2:13 pm
S.E.I.F.E.R That still does no answer what I need to change about me though. If that is exactly what will help me. The one and only thing in my life that does need change is that I'm alone and always have been alone. And that's what I've been pining about this whole time. It will just take time.
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 2:15 pm
Time is something I am sick of already. Time, instead of healing, picks at me to make me worse. Nothing is going to happen with time already. Nothing has and nothing will. I'm sick of waiting. I've waited way too damn long.
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