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 Posted: Sun May 07, 2006 10:02 am
RoseRose Not following through. You give a "last warning", I have to fight with myself not to GIVE warnings. Kids will learn really quick that mom or dad or whoever will give them to the count of three or will give them warnings that they will then do it that number of times. If behavior is unacceptable it's unacceptable. If you tell them to stop and they don't then it's punishment. Period. In my house at least. I just got so tired of saying, stop, stop, if you do it again, one more time, If you do it the next time...etc. She gets told to stop and if she doesn't she recieves a punishment.
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Posted: Sun May 07, 2006 8:34 pm
I was spanked as a child, but usually, it was with a wooden spoon or this plank of wood that my parents bought that said "fanny whacker" on it. I think we got it in Wyoming.
Anyway, I wasn't spanked very often as a child, but it was most scary when my dad spanked me because he was angry. He would always spank me with his hand, which scared me the most.
My mom always used an implement and it made me hate her a lot, because it really hurts to get hit with a plank of wood.
Most of the time after that, though, my parents stopped spanking because we stopped caring about it.
Then they implemented fines.
If we were disrespectful or did something bad, we'd get money off our weekly chore/allowance thing. If we didn't get paid anything that week, it would be a reoccuring debt that we'd eventually have to pay off through work or through something else.
This worked really well for my parents because as kids, we liked having money to spend on things, but having it be taken away was really awful, and also taught us that sometimes, misbehaving under the rules of your superiors can have monetary consequences.
I never park at an expired meter nowadays, and the one time I got a parking ticket (for my tire being on the line of the parking space), I cried for almost three hours over 20 bucks.
With small children, it's hard because they are kind of like your dog or cat; they don't associate their bad behavior with the punishment. I think that most of the time, it's scarier if I made my parents cry or tell me that they were scared than being spanked. Knowing that someone who I thought was so powerful (mom and dad) being so powerless, really let me know that my parents cared about me and that I could have been in real danger for my actions.
And that always prompted me to correct my behavior.
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Posted: Mon May 08, 2006 9:48 am
Oni-Angel I was spanked as a child, but usually, it was with a wooden spoon or this plank of wood that my parents bought that said "fanny whacker" on it. I think we got it in Wyoming. Well... at least you were disciplined with a humerous untensil... I like the idea of a fine, actually. An allowance should be a reward for good behaviour, I think. And if the child isn't behaving well, then they shouldn't get that reward. And as you said, money means a lot when you are a child. And yes, the guilting thing... My dad's punishment would be this sigh... I don't know how to describe it, but that single sigh carried an entire speech about how disappointed he was in me. Then he would just walk away. My mother would scream, she'd punish, she'd take away things. But it was at my dad's house that I NEVER misbehaved.
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Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 8:46 am
My dad used harshe punishments with me. If I got disciplined, it was rough. There wasn't any 'time outs' or something like that. It was short, simple, and sweet "a** beating" with various objects. Example: Switch, Coat hanger wire, electric cord, flyswatter, his hand.
Me, however, when I get children, I'm going to be very leniant on them, rather than beat them. I also do NOT tolerate abuse.
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Posted: Sun Jul 02, 2006 12:13 pm
I dont have a little one of my own let. blaugh But to be honost, to hit em would make me feel like im hiting my better haft and that i swore i'd take a bulet before I ever do that to her. BUT, if my little one wanted to do something dangerous. No WAY will I let them do that so I guess a smack on the hand I could do but will feel terribly about it afterwords. sad Does that make me a bad dad to feel bad about it.
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Posted: Tue Jul 04, 2006 10:43 am
AkuraTheCrow I dont have a little one of my own let. blaugh But to be honost, to hit em would make me feel like im hiting my better haft and that i swore i'd take a bulet before I ever do that to her. BUT, if my little one wanted to do something dangerous. No WAY will I let them do that so I guess a smack on the hand I could do but will feel terribly about it afterwords. sad Does that make me a bad dad to feel bad about it. No thats the best kind of dad it means you dont want your kids hurt at all especially by you but you will do whatever you have to to protect them, my hubby is the exact same wayu we do smacks on the butt or hand if he does somthing he really shouldnt. Later in the day my hubby feels so guilty but he sticks with those rules, i know its hard i am the same way.
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Posted: Tue Jul 04, 2006 12:47 pm
wotfan AkuraTheCrow I dont have a little one of my own let. blaugh But to be honost, to hit em would make me feel like im hiting my better haft and that i swore i'd take a bulet before I ever do that to her. BUT, if my little one wanted to do something dangerous. No WAY will I let them do that so I guess a smack on the hand I could do but will feel terribly about it afterwords. sad Does that make me a bad dad to feel bad about it. No thats the best kind of dad it means you dont want your kids hurt at all especially by you but you will do whatever you have to to protect them, my hubby is the exact same wayu we do smacks on the butt or hand if he does somthing he really shouldnt. Later in the day my hubby feels so guilty but he sticks with those rules, i know its hard i am the same way. awwww blaugh thanks. i know my love will agree with you. ^^ thanks.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 3:41 pm
Depends on the age really. If they are over 1 and if they are in the stage of hittin, bittin, slappin, and showing any sid e of temper. like stomping the feet, throwing the hands, stoping feet and falling on the floor and screaming. You as a parent have to show the child that you are boss, and what you say goes. Do not show fear near the child, they can since that and they will try to take over. I read in a book that you should only spank the child on the butt, thigh and the top of the hand.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 8:29 pm
Shantail Depends on the age really. If they are over 1 and if they are in the stage of hittin, bittin, slappin, and showing any sid e of temper. like stomping the feet, throwing the hands, stoping feet and falling on the floor and screaming. You as a parent have to show the child that you are boss, and what you say goes. Do not show fear near the child, they can since that and they will try to take over. I read in a book that you should only spank the child on the butt, thigh and the top of the hand. I agree we only spank him on the butt usually but lately he has been diaper digging at night and puts it near his eyes and mouth so we smack his hands so he will learn.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 8:25 am
wotfan Shantail Depends on the age really. If they are over 1 and if they are in the stage of hittin, bittin, slappin, and showing any sid e of temper. like stomping the feet, throwing the hands, stoping feet and falling on the floor and screaming. You as a parent have to show the child that you are boss, and what you say goes. Do not show fear near the child, they can since that and they will try to take over. I read in a book that you should only spank the child on the butt, thigh and the top of the hand. I agree we only spank him on the butt usually but lately he has been diaper digging at night and puts it near his eyes and mouth so we smack his hands so he will learn. did you find out why he does that? or does he do it just for attention. that could be a reason.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 2:02 pm
AkuraTheCrow wotfan Shantail Depends on the age really. If they are over 1 and if they are in the stage of hittin, bittin, slappin, and showing any sid e of temper. like stomping the feet, throwing the hands, stoping feet and falling on the floor and screaming. You as a parent have to show the child that you are boss, and what you say goes. Do not show fear near the child, they can since that and they will try to take over. I read in a book that you should only spank the child on the butt, thigh and the top of the hand. I agree we only spank him on the butt usually but lately he has been diaper digging at night and puts it near his eyes and mouth so we smack his hands so he will learn. did you find out why he does that? or does he do it just for attention. that could be a reason. he has sensitive skin but we punish him anyways because he could make himself sick doing that.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 11:42 am
Nopenname RoseRose Not following through. You give a "last warning", I have to fight with myself not to GIVE warnings. Kids will learn really quick that mom or dad or whoever will give them to the count of three or will give them warnings that they will then do it that number of times. If behavior is unacceptable it's unacceptable. If you tell them to stop and they don't then it's punishment. Period. In my house at least. I just got so tired of saying, stop, stop, if you do it again, one more time, If you do it the next time...etc. She gets told to stop and if she doesn't she recieves a punishment. OMG your my hero I'm just now going through that with my youngest son any time I tell him to stop I count to 3 and he wont stop until right before I get to 3 and its driving me nutts.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 11:55 am
Shantail Depends on the age really. If they are over 1 and if they are in the stage of hittin, bittin, slappin, and showing any sid e of temper. like stomping the feet, throwing the hands, stoping feet and falling on the floor and screaming. You as a parent have to show the child that you are boss, and what you say goes. Do not show fear near the child, they can since that and they will try to take over. I read in a book that you should only spank the child on the butt, thigh and the top of the hand. See I kinda agree with what you are saying because my daughter was going throught this little fase just resently were if she didnt get her way she would through a fit at first I just ignore it and didnt give in but once she realized that it wasnt working she moved on to throughing her fit and hitting herself, one of her brothers, the dog, and sometimes even me. So once she started doing this I found that the best way to get her to stop was simplie when she started throughing her fit I walked up to her and gave her a good swat on her bum and after about the 2nd time she complitly stop throughing fits all toghter.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 11:57 am
wotfan AkuraTheCrow wotfan Shantail Depends on the age really. If they are over 1 and if they are in the stage of hittin, bittin, slappin, and showing any sid e of temper. like stomping the feet, throwing the hands, stoping feet and falling on the floor and screaming. You as a parent have to show the child that you are boss, and what you say goes. Do not show fear near the child, they can since that and they will try to take over. I read in a book that you should only spank the child on the butt, thigh and the top of the hand. I agree we only spank him on the butt usually but lately he has been diaper digging at night and puts it near his eyes and mouth so we smack his hands so he will learn. did you find out why he does that? or does he do it just for attention. that could be a reason. he has sensitive skin but we punish him anyways because he could make himself sick doing that. Well if he has sensitive skin maybe you should talk to your doctor because they do make specail creams that might help his skin.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 2:26 pm
wotfan AkuraTheCrow wotfan Shantail Depends on the age really. If they are over 1 and if they are in the stage of hittin, bittin, slappin, and showing any sid e of temper. like stomping the feet, throwing the hands, stoping feet and falling on the floor and screaming. You as a parent have to show the child that you are boss, and what you say goes. Do not show fear near the child, they can since that and they will try to take over. I read in a book that you should only spank the child on the butt, thigh and the top of the hand. I agree we only spank him on the butt usually but lately he has been diaper digging at night and puts it near his eyes and mouth so we smack his hands so he will learn. did you find out why he does that? or does he do it just for attention. that could be a reason. he has sensitive skin but we punish him anyways because he could make himself sick doing that. Yeah, dont want that at all. OH I know. reword him for not doing that. Like if he doesn't do that for a day, let him stay up a little longer or watch TV longer or play longer at night. That could help too.
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