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 Posted: Fri Aug 20, 2004 10:15 am
Well...I had the idea about myself since I was in middle school. I just wasn't sure, and I thought that my "thoughts" and such was just a phase, or "normal", so to speak. It wasn't until the end of my junior year and senior year in high school until I figured it out completely. For a while, I thought I was just bi...but later, I was just kidding myself by saying that. My senior year (and summer before that) I got involved with another girl. It felt right, more natural, than being with another guy. I've had experience with guys too. Anyway, so she was obviously the first to know. xd
Eventually, I told some other friends about half-way through the school year. I mean, it was getting more and more obvious, so why not just say something? My friends were ALL cool with it. It made me happy. Oh, and I also told my psychologist at the beginning of the year, and obviously, she was cool with it too. I have not openly told my parents. I don't want to deal with snide comments they might make at me. I think they have it pretty figured out though...I have Utena pictures all over my room...and a rainbow belt. I am sure they are not pleased, but accepting nevertheless.
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Posted: Fri Aug 20, 2004 10:39 am
It took me awhile to work up the courage, but eventually i told my parents. Mom's been really nice about it, especially given her christianity. Dad...didn't take it so well. We haven't talked much since.
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Posted: Sat Aug 21, 2004 7:37 pm
It seems I had it relatively easy on my comng out.
I knew when I was 16 that I was probably gay, but the htought scared me so much I denied it for 3 years. Finally, after my first year in college, I came out.
My parents cried a little, mostly cause they were worried about the way people were gonna treat me for it. My friends said they'd be therefore me, and they have.
I consider myself to be very lucky.
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Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2004 1:31 pm
Before last summer, I thought I was straight. Even though I had this weird obsession of the woman pictured in my sig. I had pictures of her all over my wall, on my desktop. One of my friends asked me if I was lesbian when she saw my desktop, I denied it. At school I would always stare at girls boobs and asses, I thought it was normal. I didn't talk to guys much, I felt more comfortable around girls. Then I moved to Michigan from Washington State. I thought my life was over. My best friend in the world, Mystyka on Gaia, was still in Washington. I felt horrible. After having a threesome with my boyfriend and a friend I met in the summer when I was 13, 15 now, visiting Michigan, I found out I liked kissing girls better and being with them more. By this time I was sick of men. Nothing against any of you on here, just the ones I've met IRL. So I became a lesbian. I told Mystyka, she was absolutely fine with it. I even told her I was in love with her, she said we could be friends-with-benefits. I'm thinking to myself now that this isn't that bad at all. I haven't started school here yet, and I would be the new kid. All the better. I could just come out and they wouldn't think anything of it since I was new. School started, and in my first class on the day of actual classes, there was this really hot girl. When I sat at lunch with my friends, who knew and were fine with it too, I would stare at her and she would just be sitting at the table next to ours. I kind of got to the point of a stalker you could say. I went to football games because I knew she'd be cheerleading in them. I went to choir concerts, just to see her. I thought I'd never have a chance with her. But we became friends and after we were good enough of friends, I told her what I was. She was like 'really? I'm bi.' Right then and there I was speechless. So we started dating. We were together for almost 9 months. When we were still together, this was when my whole family found out about us. I asked my mom if she could come to Christmas dinner at my aunt's house. By this time she had been over almost everyday, and staying over on the weekends. My mom said yes, and her and I were thrilled. But, when we were in my aunt's sunroom, they found us kissing. Everyone did. My mom and the rest of my family act like they never found out even to this day. Except my cousin Rene`, because I told her and she was fine because she has a lesbian friend. They don't even ask me questions or anything. So all in all I think I had it pretty easy coming out.
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Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2004 1:38 pm
I haven't come out, i find it hard to find people i can "Talk" to. It's mainly people older than me because they just seem to understand, and don't judge people so quickly. Though not all people. I would tell my parents, but i'm not too ready yet. I'm going to take my time and come out when i'm ready.
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Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2004 1:50 pm
alright lets see when was it oh yeah friday i tryed to tell my best friends in the world (3 guys).
ant: ah look at that find girl overe there
thomas:woo wee
tony:yea shes ok
neko:um ant ..
ant: yes neko
neko: look at that one
ant:hey your right
thomas:haha your funny neko your supose to look at guys lol (he thought i was being sarcastic dont ask inside joke thing)
neko :mabey i look st both would you have a problem if i did?
thomas and ant: no not at all
tony:are you seriouse im a homophobe dont scare me like that
neko:tony your girlfrind is bi sou wtf? stare
tony:but that differnt im going to marry her and then she wont be bi anymore(they actully are getting married)
neko :thats what you think
thats y she has all thoses g/fs
stare
thomas and ant: blaugh blaugh xd
tony: stressed what eva you know im kidding right?
neko:yea right (i knew he wasnt playn casue were just that close but *shrug* what can you do)
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Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2004 4:14 pm
xxv00d00b3arxx yeah when i told my older sister she didnt really care...infact she thought it was great...she knew it was going to happen to me ..since my chilhood came base upon to hate men because my mother and sister told me that guys are all jerks such as my father.....im not sure i want to tell my mom although i dont think shell really care for that she thinks i dont know myself to much or she wont be suprised....my sister on the other hand says i should be a les...why i do not know...but i just might be swaying in that direction. that is not true. For those that know me I am very emotionally sensitive, extreamly kind, generous and have a deep caring for others. I've even been given the possition of the guild's "agony uncle" since I listen well and dispence sound, caring advice.
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Posted: Sun Aug 22, 2004 5:43 pm
InsaneVampiress First person I came out to was my online friend. I was in denial for years, if I had accepted it -- well, I would've been out since I was, like, four. I told my best friend after, she said she pretty much knew. Now most all of my friends know and three of them were, as well. Two found out through my realzation that they were, too. By that I mean that they had been denying, they had grown up in homophobic families -- not that I'm really special or anything. ...My family doesn't know yet, but my sister suspects and my dad is semi-homophobic. Also, at school this one really mean girl tried to insult me for being bi even though she didn't even know for sure that I was. Just wanted to share. smile I thought I was bi, but I really don't have that kind of interest in guys. I'm a lesbian, but I still haven't told my friends that...they think I'm bi.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 2:13 am
I haven't told any of my friends or family. I havent told my family because The ones I can actually talk to are against same sex couples or interest in both sex's. The reason I havent told my friends is because I'm afraid that they'll think I'm disgusting or a freak and try to avoid me at all costs. I'm pathetic. crying
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 2:40 am
Coming out was easy for me. My Uni has a Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual society.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 3:15 am
ChibiKawaiiTenshi I haven't told any of my friends or family. I havent told my family because The ones I can actually talk to are against same sex couples or interest in both sex's. The reason I havent told my friends is because I'm afraid that they'll think I'm disgusting or a freak and try to avoid me at all costs. I'm pathetic. crying No you aren't. O_o That's the same kind of thing for me. So if you're pathetic, that means i am, and i don't appreciate being called pathetic. Now grow up, just come out when you're ready, no-one's pushing you. And if your friend think you're a freak, F&%k 'em. ¬,¬ I'd rather let people know what i am and be a loner, than keep it in just to have friends. as i said, i'll come out when i'm ready, you should do the same.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 4:32 am
i still haven't figured out if its real or not, i am bi i think, i have a crush on one of my besties, except i'm going out with her triplet bro, i told her a few weeks ago that i liked this other chick that i did at the time, and she took it well, but she thought she was too, but she doesn't any more, so yeah... i sort of have't told anyone else, because like i said, i don't know whats happening... sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 8:29 am
Erm...told some of my friends... since they were Trying to get me to tell them who I liked...so I told them and they didn't really care xd . Havn't told anyone else though...cept online friends and those ones sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 5:53 pm
i never came out to any adults, but my mom figured out and when she told me i started sobbing cuz i thought she was pissed at me for not telling... that sucked so bad (but she wasn't mad! she doesn't mind!!)
but other then that, it went great!
i've told all my closest friends and they think it's great, soo... yah lol
one of my friends i've known for years when i told her this is what she said:
me: hey i've got sumthing to tell you!
sara: is it that first kiss u were talking about??
me: yupp!
sara: ooie! tell! tell!
me: ok....
sara: ??
me: i'm bi!!!
sara: no way ur joking???
me: nope! r u mad?
sara: no way! wow, my little marley is growing up! *sniff*
me: heehee
after that she met my i-wish-was-my-gf who i love so much and they are great friends now!!
whee
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 8:35 pm
My parents... ignored it.
sweatdrop
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