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 Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 9:14 am
Eebie Dream_Raven I would try giving her time. But I would say that it is not a phase and you know who you are. You have not changed, the only thing that is diffrent is who you like. Find people who you know will accept you, because you need that support even if it is only your friends. Going to a GSA would help you greatly, it will take courage, but you can do it. I believe in you. I joined a GLBT club at my school and it helped me a bunch. Thank you whee . There's no GSA at my new school but I was in the one at my old school n it helped alot 3nodding . I'm afraid if i give her time tho, she'll just sink further into this weird pretend world she has where I'm straight sweatdrop . The last time the topic came up is when I had out an utada hikaru c.d. (japanese pop singer) n she's like "why don't you just date a nice asian man" n I was like "Cuz I like nice asian girls stare , n I don't appreciate that comment." n she was like "I'm doing my best to deal with this but it's not easy, especially when I disagree with it all stare ." n she changed the topic. When I asked her about going to the GSA party at the old school (I obviously didn't say it was for the GSA xp ) she was suspicious n i was gettin "grr evil " vibes. How do I know if she's actually dealing with it if I don't ask her sweatdrop ? Is there any way I can try to ask for more hints of her opinion, since gayness is now a taboo topic in my house sweatdrop ? How do i know she hasn't just told herself "It's a phase" n simply left it at that sweatdrop n is gonna suggest I date a nice man again sweatdrop ? How can I tell how far along she is with her coping process sweatdrop ???
But arg i wish i could help you D:
And i too heart asian girls. whee so cuute.
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Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 6:33 pm
Ah, well, sorry I couldn't have been more help than I was. I come from a very liberal town, so I've never had to deal with a lot of issues like that.
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 10:28 am
Duct-Tape-chan Eebie I'm afraid if i give her time tho, she'll just sink further into this weird pretend world she has where I'm straight sweatdrop . The last time the topic came up is when I had out an utada hikaru c.d. (japanese pop singer) n she's like "why don't you just date a nice asian man" n I was like "Cuz I like nice asian girls stare , n I don't appreciate that comment." n she was like "I'm doing my best to deal with this but it's not easy, especially when I disagree with it all stare ." n she changed the topic. When I asked her about going to the GSA party at the old school (I obviously didn't say it was for the GSA xp ) she was suspicious n i was gettin "grr evil " vibes. How do I know if she's actually dealing with it if I don't ask her sweatdrop ? Is there any way I can try to ask for more hints of her opinion, since gayness is now a taboo topic in my house sweatdrop ? How do i know she hasn't just told herself "It's a phase" n simply left it at that sweatdrop n is gonna suggest I date a nice man again sweatdrop ? How can I tell how far along she is with her coping process sweatdrop ???
But arg i wish i could help you D:
And i too heart asian girls. whee so cuute. Lol, our moms probably do rofl . I wish I could help you with the therapist thing to. You should make a forum n keep everyone updated on the funness of your meetingz.
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 10:29 am
Karnell Ah, well, sorry I couldn't have been more help than I was. I come from a very liberal town, so I've never had to deal with a lot of issues like that. It's good to kno there are liberal towns out there xd . Maybe I'll move when I'm older ninja . Anywayz, thanks for trying to help. I appreciate it 3nodding .
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 10:33 am
I waited a year before I talked to my mom about it after I first came out. I would suggest you wait a month or so and try to bring it up again.
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 11:14 am
Dream_Raven I waited a year before I talked to my mom about it after I first came out. I would suggest you wait a month or so and try to bring it up again. Good idea 3nodding sweatdrop . How I should go about bringing it up sweatdrop ?
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Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2006 8:37 am
Ah, in a private setting. Perhaps in a place where you won't be interrupted by anyone else.
Try writting her a letter, it will help you to sort your thoughts and handing it to her to read. If you are brave enough, read it to her and be confident. You can pratice reading it so you can answer any questions she has about it.
EXAMPLE letter:
Dear Mom,
I have come out to you as (insert orientation here).
I am still your Son/Daughter and the only thing that is diffrent about me is who I am attracted to.
This is not a phase, I have thought long and hard about this and how to tell you.
I do not expect you to understand it, but I wish not to be pressured into anything I do not want to do as of now.
This will take time for you to accept and that is ok. That is what we have is time.
Please don't fear or hate what you don't understand. I will try to answer any questions about this.
Love,
(insert name here)
I felt all girly for a moment. But in a good way writting this for you.
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Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2006 3:14 pm
Dream_Raven Ah, in a private setting. Perhaps in a place where you won't be interrupted by anyone else. Try writting her a letter, it will help you to sort your thoughts and handing it to her to read. If you are brave enough, read it to her and be confident. You can pratice reading it so you can answer any questions she has about it. EXAMPLE letter: Dear Mom, I have come out to you as (insert orientation here). I am still your Son/Daughter and the only thing that is diffrent about me is who I am attracted to. This is not a phase, I have thought long and hard about this and how to tell you. I do not expect you to understand it, but I wish not to be pressured into anything I do not want to do as of now. This will take time for you to accept and that is ok. That is what we have is time. Please don't fear or hate what you don't understand. I will try to answer any questions about this. Love, (insert name here) I felt all girly for a moment. But in a good way writting this for you.Lol. Well thank you whee . I appreciate it 3nodding . I'm just waiting for the oppurtune time, ya kno ninja ? I don't wanna randomly outta the blue bring it up ninja . I am supposing I must wait for the topic to come up ninja . Problem is i don't kno when it will in my household xp . I am sorry I sound like such a baby about all of this sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2006 3:35 pm
Okayz, I think I have a plan n I want someone to review it n tell me if it's good ninja . I will wait until something gay is on TV, like Will n Grace or something ninja , or a pretty asian woman rofl (right, Duo-chan wink ? lolz) n I will be like.."momz ninja ". Um, actually I think maybe the note thing would be a good idea too ninja .
xp
-brainstorming-
Dom't mind me... ninja
xp
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2006 12:58 pm
Heh, no problem. All that matters is that you are comfortable when you do come out.
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