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 Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 2:02 pm
6~hopeless.way.of.life~9 Ok, so.... theres this chick named steph, and I have been friends with her for a very long time... and then... some where in bettween all those long talks, stupid fights, and silly jokes we made.. I fell in love with her.... But, she is all like... gay/bie hater... soooo.... I have a problem.... I Need Advice! two things I would do. I would tell her, see if she changes her mind, cuz friends'll do that. Two: You can just stop being friends and save yourself from eternal heartache or heartbreak.
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Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 3:39 pm
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Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 4:02 pm
if you say she's so closed minded and anti gay/bi, but at the same time such a good friend, i think you should tell her about yourself. because i think the real issue is whether she values you enough as a person to get past her own prejudice.
Then you can start worrying about if you can get closer! wink
heart Jimil
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Posted: Fri Mar 03, 2006 10:41 am
thats pretty harsh, i dont know what to say have you told her tho about you? cause i think thats how you need to start
I have a crush on one of my best friends even tho we've only know each other for under a year, and i know she's bi, but i'm just afraid to tell her, cause our friendship is really important to me.
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Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2006 12:38 am
I have a similar problem.
I think I'm totally falling for one of my best friends, and she's not at all homophobic but...
She doesn't deal well with having people like her, if she doesn't like them back. And she's not sure whether she's straight, and even if she does like girls...
What are the chances she likes me? gonk
Plus my other best friend gets really jealous. Not because she's gay (she's been with her boyfriend for about two years and is madly in love with him), but because she thinks she'll be left behind if we went out. So she keeps making things more awkward.
I want to confess SO MUCH, but I'm worried I'll wreck everything. What do I do??? crying
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Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2006 12:55 pm
I have that problem all the time. Except he wasn't a homophob. Be was just straight. Needless to say some drinking and heavy persuasion changed his mind. I went out with him for about 6 months. One of my longest relationships. He was hot too, damn.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 9:58 am
this is just me but when you feel that the time is right(wow this sounds stupid) then you should but don't tell her unless you want too
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 12:02 pm
Not worth the risk. she ins't gonna turn bi for you. So just leave as is.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 7:16 pm
If you're her friend, you would have told her you were bi. Because if she is a gay/bi hater then why doesn't she hate you? Just b/c you're her friend? or she just doesn't know? If she doesnt know ur bi, tell her first. Maybe you should flirt with her a bit and try out her reactions. Overall, just tell her..i don't think it's good to keep feelings inside.. and this is coming from a chick who does keeps her feelings inside...just so you know.
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Posted: Thu Mar 23, 2006 1:27 pm
um i wasnt really sure what to say but i have been in a simialar situation. It was the other way round kind of though. my best friend told me she fancied me, well actually my other friend had to tell me because she was so nervous. im glad i know now, if anything our friendship has got stronger and it has made me think about my feelings towards her. I think you should tell her because u will feel better once she knows
sorry if this didnt help
hope u sort things out
xxx
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 7:04 pm
I've been best friends with this straight girl right... well, I've had a crush on her forever and recently I noticed that I'm in love.....
I took a chance last night... ninja
It worked for me. 4laugh
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 1:03 am
no harm no foul if you tell her how you feel about her one on one she might hate you or she might understand you never know untill you go for it. if you keep it bottled up inside it will eat you alive. it will naw and pick at you untill you do and trust me you dont want that.
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 7:54 am
I've been through that experience: falling for a straight friend. Mine wasn't homophobic, but either way, it did sort of disturb her when a girl liked her. So, I was stupid and told her. This was a year ago now, and it's still awkward to talk about. For months she didn't talk to me. Look, now I still sort of carry a torch, but I don't tell her, because I know how awful it was when she knew. Don't tell her, you'll regret it.
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 3:38 pm
i have a crush, i think he is but i dont know if he is, and i really dont want to ruin my life you know. But i say go for it if you really want to!!!
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 7:55 pm
some you people are dumb, she already told her....... well, i think it is better that she knows. even if she hates you its better than being in a friendship based on secrets. if only i would take my own advice.
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