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 Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2009 3:05 pm
Would you date/marry outside your church/synagogue/mosque/whatever?
No. I am a Christian, and as the Bible says, what does light have in common with darkness? There would be no point in any relationship outside what I consider to be true Christianity (i.e. not a cult or very very liberal), because why would I want to fall in love with a girl I believe to be going to Hell, and how would the relationship work if I was spending all my time trying to convert her (which, if I loved her, I would)
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Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2009 4:40 pm
It all depends on the person really. Not all desire to date/marry outside their religion. I wouldn't have a problem with it. When it comes to children, if both have a solid agreement that whichever religion the child chooses is fine, then there won't be a problem. I think having different religious backgrounds in the family can be enriching. I knew a family in Guyana where the father was Muslim, the wife was Hindi and at least one of the kids was Christian.
There are more commonalities with the different religions that a lot of people realize. I think it's quite possible to have a lifelong, loving relationship with one of another faith when you show that you can respect their beliefs as well as hold true to your own.
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Posted: Wed Aug 19, 2009 11:05 pm
I think that even with very different views on God and the universe, a pair of people can connect on a spiritual level if both sets of beliefs lead to the same sort of treatment of others. There can be intense discussions about details, but if the end result is still "love thy neighbor" or whatever, I think a mature pair of people can get around most faith differences.
If the religion determines huge portions of your everyday life, the person you are hoping to hook up with had better be okay with it, though. The things that drive a person crazy when they are married are sometime rather surprising.
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Posted: Thu Aug 20, 2009 6:56 am
I don't have a religion, but I dated people who were religious in middle school. I didn't know they were religious at the time because that crap didn't matter. We never talked about it. I'm not looking to get married, but I probably wouldn't want to have kids with a religious person because they would tell lies to my kids. There are a lot of other things I wouldn't want in my kids' other parent either. But if we came to some kind of agreement....
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Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2009 8:39 am
I am somewhat of a Taoist and my fiance is mostly Jewish. We're very open about ourselves and what we believe, and even if we believe differently we can accept and love each other.
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Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2009 9:09 pm
To me, it depends entirely on how religious they are. I wouldn't date people with different music tastes than me, if they play their music anywhere other than in their headphones while I'm around.
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Posted: Fri Aug 21, 2009 11:06 pm
We all have our own individual deal breakers. I couldn't end up with someone who wasn't a cat person. But that's just me. (Well, not just me, my Mum's requirement upon getting engaged was that my parents would get two cats asap once they had a place that would allow them.)
Anyways, that said, it's easy to see how and why religion could be a major issue. Religion and our understanding of it is a key part of who we are (even if it is apathy) and it is vital to have someone who can see and understand your point of view on it.
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Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 6:38 pm
I would not exist if not for interfaith marriage.
My mom is Jewish and my dad is Catholic. My siblings and I were raised Jewish.
They love eachother and it's never been an issue.
And yet, I don't know if I like interfaith marriage. If I married a gentile, the kids would probably not be raised Jewish and carry the line, which is important to me, especially because I love Juidaism and want to become a rabbi.
So I say no to interfaith marriage for myself.
And, because I am all for long term and marriage and kids, dating outside of the religion is totally okay, but might not work out in the long term.
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Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 6:41 pm
I think it would depend on the amount of contrast. I couldn't be with someone who was always trying to convert me. Really, I would only consider the most liberal of Christians or Muslims. For Atheism, and for other religions like Hinduism or Judaism, I would have no trepidation whatsoever, and not mind if a child followed in their footsteps.
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Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 7:10 pm
Nomad of Nowhere I think it would depend on the amount of contrast. I couldn't be with someone who was always trying to convert me. Really, I would only consider the most liberal of Christians or Muslims. For Atheism, and for other religions like Hinduism or Judaism, I would have no trepidation whatsoever, and not mind if a child followed in their footsteps. You would have problems with any but the most liberal Christians, yet you would have no problem with Jews? What kind of Judaism are we talking about here? Jews are often much more conservative than most Christians today. Judaism is not generally considered a lazze-faire religion beside Hindusim.
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Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 8:38 pm
Nebulance Nomad of Nowhere I think it would depend on the amount of contrast. I couldn't be with someone who was always trying to convert me. Really, I would only consider the most liberal of Christians or Muslims. For Atheism, and for other religions like Hinduism or Judaism, I would have no trepidation whatsoever, and not mind if a child followed in their footsteps. You would have problems with any but the most liberal Christians, yet you would have no problem with Jews? What kind of Judaism are we talking about here? Jews are often much more conservative than most Christians today. Judaism is not generally considered a lazze-faire religion beside Hindusim.
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Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 8:57 pm
Nomad of Nowhere Nebulance Nomad of Nowhere I think it would depend on the amount of contrast. I couldn't be with someone who was always trying to convert me. Really, I would only consider the most liberal of Christians or Muslims. For Atheism, and for other religions like Hinduism or Judaism, I would have no trepidation whatsoever, and not mind if a child followed in their footsteps. You would have problems with any but the most liberal Christians, yet you would have no problem with Jews? What kind of Judaism are we talking about here? Jews are often much more conservative than most Christians today. Judaism is not generally considered a lazze-faire religion beside Hindusim. By yours views, wouldn't Christianity be a sect of Judaism, as Mormonism is a sect of Christianity? But I guess that's just a question of definitions.
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Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 9:08 pm
I'm finding myself a beautiful kosher wife.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 12:36 am
I dated a very Christian guy for nearly a year when I was basically Agnostic. For the most part, it went alright, but still ended because of a difference in beliefs. It was really, really rough for me.
Anyway, now being a Christian myself, I couldn't date someone or hope to marry someone who didn't love Jesus. Some Christians, I feel, don't even love Jesus. To me, it isn't really about religion so much as it is about Jesus. I couldn't be with someone who was not willing to make Jesus the cornerstone of our lives together, because it would just create a personal hell for me, I think.
I am sure that dating outside of religion can work for some people, but it just won't work for me, I believe.
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Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 12:45 am
A question to you all.
Is there a difference between a relationship with a different religion and a friendship with a different religion?
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